First timer.  Looking to make the leap but I want it to be with the right person.  If i'm going to do this she has got to be the right one.

Anyway, I ask a provider with no reviews anywhere and Pics on EROS that were un verified to meet me somewhere of her choice to prove that her pics were accurate.  She declined saying it was a waste of both of our time and she didn't feel comforatble.   I then offered her $50 and if the pics weren't hers, their were no hard feelings and she could keep the $50.  If they were hers we would set up an Appt. tomorrow.

Afterwards when she declined a second time I started to feel bad.  I think she was offended.

Was I out of line or should i have been suspicious?

Just curious.   thanks

First, you're going after a provider w/ no reviews and unverified pix.  What are you thinking?  Turn off the little head for a moment.  Even assuming she was hot as the pix, you have no idea what type of session you're in for b/c you know nothing about her.  Flabby, this is somewhat like dating (but easier LOL)- you have to get to know the lady before you jump in feet first.

Leading to: second, you tried the "get to know you" thing by offering her $50 to check her out.  Yes, that was insulting.  Remember, you are paying for their time and I'll bet you dollars to donuts that "$50 for quick look" was never advertised or offered.  If you were unsure of what you were getting, maybe a lunch date or meet at a pub for drinks before the session was apprpriate.  What came across with your $50 offer is that you didn't want to spend the money if you didn't like what she looked like.  This made you appear cheap and shallow.  Not a good introduction.

So, if you're unsure what a lady looks like and you're looking for "that look", schedule a meeting in a public place before the session.  Then you can do your own "meet and greet."  But be prepared to pay for the hour (or maybe she has a half hour rate) - just don't offer her a token of her rate just because you didn't like her.  That's what was insulting.

As for LE, all the more reason to do your homework.  Reputable providers have reviews and web sites - especially for your 1st time, go for someone where you can find out what you'll be getting, safely.

Just my .02.

I remember so well my first attempts to take the plunge.  I had many very awkward conversation with providers on the phone asking what I thought were very smart quesitons (what will I get, how much does it cost? etc) only to have one exasperated provider say "You haven't done this before, have you?" (along with a few other choice remarks).  I hadn't found TER or any other info source, just the malls and directories advertising the ladies.  I, too, asked my first prospective lady to meet me for lunch (for free in my case).  She was cordial and knew I was s newbie right away but still turned me down saying "I don't do that sort of thing" (very UNLIKE dating in that respect.  It was only after I took my first plunge that I found TER and realized that experienced hobbyists don't do what I did.

You've got the jump on me in that you ave TER.  Don't see anyone without reviews...with this resoure, you don't have to.  I like our colleague's advice above about meeting in a public place to see if you are comfortable with each other (possibly, SHE might not feel comfortable with YOU!!).  If she is the one advertised but you don't like what you see or hear, pay her some $, walk away and chalk it up to experience.

Good luck,
D7

Buy a quarterly VIP membership to TER.

I know that I sound like a shill, but trust me I don't work for TER, and get nothing extra from TER.

I assume that you like most newbies have not invested in in TER, but believe me, the ability to see complete reviews, and do specific searches, will do you much better in "finding the right person", than suggesting a $50 meet and greet with an unknown lady.

Just book the date, and let her know that when you meet, if the pics aren't accurate you'll walk.  That's assuming you just want to confirm the pics.  Getting to know her and seeing if there's chemistry is different.

Some providers don't mind meeting in advance, but obviously this one did.  I don't think this type of reaction should make you any more suspicious than you normally should with any unreviewed provider.  Whether or not you were out of line depends on how you presented this to her.

Personally, I don't like to gamble with my hobbying dollar.  I only see well reviewed providers.  You might try asking about her on your Regional Board.  Someone might know something.

For $50 you can get a 3-month VIP membership on TER.  See well reviewed ladies only until you feel comfortable.  As a VIP, you will see complete reviews and have the ability to PM other VIP's for "inside scoop."  Remember, we were all first timers at one point.  Good luck.

Actually there is a provider that requires a meet/greet for the first time. I got started by meeting the lady in a hotel bar. It was her idea b/c I had no references.After a couple of glasses of wine she decided I was not LE and we went to the room. I did pay for a dinner date but I had agreed to that before the meet.just my .02

I don't think you did wrong...but just put yourself in our shoes.  Honestly, I don't show my face for reasons of being identified but I'm also not a model and say that on my site. Alot of men don't read that and I end up getting ripped off because I do incall from a hotel near a location convenient to the client.  I think I'm attractive as do alot of men but some men don't and they look at my pics and get a nice stiff load and then expect something that I am not.  I'm just a girl and I always say that.  I also have reviews. Alot of them are from return clients and they are not so nice all the time.  That's life.  My return clients come to me to know they get the best experience.   Again, you have to look at all sides of the story.  For $50, that could cover 1/2 or 1/3rd the cost of a room but she also has to have prep and travel time compensated for.  So it's sort of an insult.  I will always offer a basic therapeutic massage for $100 to cover the cost of just the room if I feel the guy doesn't like me.  If your that particular....then maybe an agency would be better where you could argue with the owner that she was not what you wanted would work for you.  You guys really *have* to understand that it's not worth walking out of the house for providers for such a nominal fee.  Try adult friend finders or something if that's the case.  For myself, and I can only speak for myself, alot of this for me is about companionship.  But then again, I'm not a picky person.  I like people and looks aren't much of concern, that said....I need to be attracted to someone.  Usually, cause I like people, I don't have any problem finding the good in anyone.  I think sir, no insult intended, that maybe your looking for "a girlfriend" and not "the girlfriend experience".  If your attracted to someone and want to be with them, irregardless of whether your married or not, then go for it.  It will hurt...as all good things do when they go...but it may make you appreciate what you already have.  If not, give me a call.  LOL.  I'll at least teach you how to massage and ask for what you want.  ;P  good luck

I don't feel you were out of line! however maybe you should have met her the same day of the appointment or just set up the appointment and if it wasn't the same girl in the pics, canceled the appointment and paid the cancellation fee (which was probably less then $50)

50 bucks plus her hourly rate if she was for real ?

Of course she was fake.

he might have just weirded her out, and I don't blame providers for being skittish.  Lots of weirdness on both sides of the fence, you know?

I think it goes unsaid that either person can back out for good cause, and not being the person in the photo is, well, fraud.  I suspect most guys act as if anything with 2 noticeable boobs is close enough.