I finally saw a few ladies. To be exact, I've seen 3 providers. I wasn't really that thrilled with one of them and the other 2 were just okay. The last girl asked me to write a review. I already decided to save my first review for a lady who is unforgettable. How can I politely decline? I'm sure she might check for the review and it won't be there. Should I expect her to call and keep asking me?

You don't need to refuse, just don't write the review.  She should not be calling you for any reason after the appointment is over unless it is to confirm your request for another appointment.

The reality is she may not be happy about this and she may not be willing to see you again but it sounds like that is not going to be an issue.

During sex, this particular gent continued to say his experience was a 10 and how much he could not wait to write me a review. I told him I would love it if he would do so here and another place. After the date, he emailed me opening up about how he was abused as a child. I didn't want to open up a can of worms by being his therapist so I didn't respond to his attempts at getting me to be his ear via email about his abused childhood. He never wrote the review. I never asked about it. However, we did have an amazing time in bed that would have been an awesome read!

I asked another gent if he would write a review of me. He said that he doesn't write reviews. I did not bother verifying that information whether it was the truth or not.

If a gent does not want to write a review of me for whatever reason, I do not care. Someone else will write a review. They pop up all the time without my asking.

Do not write the review if you do not want to. The lady will still see you if you were a respectful gentleman, because she is holding down a business for pay. If you do not plan to see her again, then who cares what she thinks. To be honest, she will be thinking about the next dick tomorrow.

Xoxo.

You don't owe anybody anything that you do not want to give. You don't need to decline.

Many providers just don't call back if they don't want to see a particular client, so just don't write the review.

The only exception is if you said that you would. If you said that you would, then if the other side kept her end, I believe you are obligated to write the review even if you'd prefer not to.

Sometimes providers say they will see you again, even if they are lying. They are not obligated to do so just as the OP is not obligated to write a review even if he told the provider he would. OP: don't write the review and keep it moving. There is way too much other pussy out there to be concerned about this one in particular! Best wishes to the OP.

I DO realize that sometimes, providers lie. They say they will see you again, and then never return your calls or whatever.

But you and I are going to have to agree to disagree on this.

I have a different perspective. I don't see providers as "pussy," I see them as PEOPLE. And even though some people are dishonest, that doesn't mean that everyone should be.

If you SAY you will be there at a particular time -- you should. If you SAY you'll bring a certain amount of money, then you should. And if you SAY that you will write a review, then you should. That's because you are dealing with a fellow human being.

The solution is to NOT say you are going to do something if you have no desire or plans to do so!

On the other hand, this guy would be writing a mediocre review of the provider at best. He has three months in which to do it -- so he may be able to find his "10" out there, write that review, and still have time to write this one.

As well, he might NOT have said he would write the review. And if he didn't say he would, he's not obligated to do so.

You and I are just plain going to differ on this one; because we differ on fundamentals that will never be reconciled.

If I tell my grandmother I am going to do something, I will do it. If I do not do it, I feel shitty. I *AM* obligated to her. I am not obligated to anyone in the hobby world.

As a provider, if a gent tells me he will write a review and he does not, then I will keep it moving, as I expect him to keep it moving as well.

We are in the hobby world. Our word is not bond here. Maybe in the real world it is, but not here.

I am a provider who has great reviews. If another gent said he would write a stellar review and didn't do so, I will be far from offended! Who is he? A hobbyist. No offense, but he is not my grandmother or anyone else from the civve world giving me their word. His word really doesn't matter. No offense.

Gents schedule dates all the time and cancel. Obligation? It is not a golden rule to care about obligation when it comes to that. Perhaps the OP is obligated to his children, wife, career, etc. A provider? No.

Clearly, we have differing views on this topic.

To me, obligation does not get that good! Of course if it will affect my business, such as my canceling on a gent within less than 24 hours of a booking, I will make sure to follow through with the obligation I set forth, which is to see the gent at a discounted rate for the inconvenience. Of course this is a business move in order to not affect my underline. If it is just to be nice, I am not obligated to anyone in the hobby world, nor is the OP.

Again, clearly we disagree.

That happens sometimes…and honestly, I love a man who has his own opinions. Keep them coming!

Xoxo.

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If you SAY you will be there at a particular time -- you should. If you SAY you'll bring a certain amount of money, then you should. And if you SAY that you will write a review, then you should. That's because you are dealing with a fellow human being.
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Agree completely with the above.  In my lexicon, one has to keep one's word, come hell or highwater.  

If he promised the lady that he would write a review of his experience with her, he should keep his word.  The expectation is that it would be an honest review.  I prefer being honest without hurting any feelings either.

An aspect that annoys me no end, is NCNS, which in my opinion is very disrespectful and indicative of a flippant attitude about other peoples' time.  I had a couple of those and obviously was not too happy about it.  My current ATF, whom I have already seen more than once, is someone I prize for her dependability and I cannot even dream of an NCNS from her.

and prefer not to share intimate details in public..
and would prefer to keep it between the two of you.
That will make her feel good and get you off the hook so to speak.
Most of my gentlemen do not write reviews...but it's ok because there are still many who do ..thank goodness..lol
Have a great weekend & Happy Fathers Day Guys !!

IDK it was a side debate about honesty but let me take issue with your premise on writing reviews. I have been a member of TER and it was four years before I wrote my first review and I only write them when its requested or to add to my TER profile  So, let me take issue with you not writing a review for OK performances and just waiting for the great one.  Who cares because that is a indiviual about your "once in a lifetime" because I am sure it wont be the next guys once in a lifetime.  We need to know the inconsisitencies of a provider who may have a bunch of 9's and performs at a 6.

Clearly, you seem to have a view that in the hobby business, one does not have to keep one's word and that lying is passe.

Sure, if someone breaks their word, life will still go on.  But on my rating scale, such a person will go down several notches.  This has got everything to do with how one is raised and has got nothing to do with "civvie world" or "hobby world".

JMHO, of course.

so if you break a promise, you'd need:
ample notice or
a good reason or
a make it up plan

we understand the drill. some girls use some clients as levers with which to start bidding wars, especially on special occasions.

but there are limits and past those you will get a well deserved rep for being an unreliable and predatory flake.

He said he was saving his FIRST review for one that is unforgetable.  He didn't talk about subsequent reviews.

(from my side of the fence... )

If you didn't hold it over her that you were going to review her, then you don't have to. If that is the case, she should be ok with having your biz.  That is the whole point isn't it? If they weren't that good... you actually are doing them a favor by not reviewing it.  She could loose future biz over it.  At the same time, you are not helping keeping others informed on the quality or lack of it  but that's your call.  

If you said you were over and over just so you can get a better experience... I think of that as ripping her off.  If that was the case, I personally wouldn't see you again.

I've actually seen quite a few guys who said- at the end- they would put up a review and didn't.  I wish they would have but like I said they didn't try to use it as a way to use me.  So I figure they either forgot about it or just didn't want to.