So I have seen a few providers in my short time as a hobbyist and have always had a great time. Well just recently I booked a session with one of my all time favorite pornstars. I was super nervous about the meeting. And when I finally got there I could not relax, I had a lot of things on my mind at the moment and felt really stressed out. I was also very hot and could not get comfortable. My anxiety kicked in big time and it ruined the entire session. There was this hot pornstar right in front of me but for the life of me I could not get it up. My mind was in the clouds and I couldn't concentrate and then the time issue started bothering me...I kept worrying about how much time had passed and how much time I had left in my session. The provider was an absolute sweetheart and was totally nice about the situation and said she felt bad. I just feel like a schmuck because I spent all this hard earned money on a PSE and I couldn't even enjoy. I couldn't even get it up. I was too nervous, anxious, stressed, and my thoughts were all over the place. I feel like I should just stop hobbying because of this one instance. I feel like the next time I try, the same exact thing will happen and Ill just be wasting my money again.

try to clear your mind before your appointment. Going back to one of the girls you have seen before will rebuild your confidence, you already know it works with her so there will be less pressure as long as you don't get into your own head and create stress where none needs to exist. Booking with your favorite porn star was really going for the gold so good for you, but I can sure see how you would put pressure on your self. Just take it slow, breath and relax, you will be fine.
 

when I was a newb and had a bad case of butterflies:

Two fingers of Jack Daniels about 30 minutes before the session, and I got loose as a goose and had a great time.

Try it and see.

Yeah I thought booze would help. I had some vodka at the bar before and I also have a prescription to Ativan which is somewhat similar to Xanax, so I took .5 mg. I thought that combo would calm me down enough but it didn't. Maybe that was a bad idea. Probably could have done without the pills. Maybe that combo can screw things up down there.  

Stay clear of Porn Star until you make VET status here.  Try another provider who is above average & lower your expectations.  Bring a bottle of wine to enjoy with a provider who takes her time with your novice shy self.

Thanks. I will definitely see one of the girls I've seen numerous times. I feel so much more comfortable and relaxed around the non-pornstar, local girls I've seen. I think I should maybe stay away from the porn stars for a while. I think with this one I put too much pressure on myself. I got so nervous and stressed before I even set foot in her room and then I couldn't relax to save my life. She even commented that my legs were shaking a little bit. She also said at one point, in a sweet way, that I need to get out of my head. I also felt bad because she was putting so much effort into making it work and I just couldn't make it happen. Then I was constantly looking over at the clock to see how much time I had left which made it even worse. Then also I'm thinking about the price tag and how expensive this experience is and so I feel so pressured to get the most out of it but it just ended up ruining it. So I think I will just stick with seeing girls I've seen before and just building confidence there and maybe the next time when I try a PSE I will be much more relaxed and ready to go.

11When I was with an agency. I had a few clients that would feel the same way, but they would come back the second time and it would be much better, because the second time around they know what to expect. It happens you will be okay and you should go back cuz the next time around you know what to expect and like the others say bring some wine or drink a glass or two before you get there so you can relax and enjoy every moment. Good LucK!! you shall be fine!!!

First time I met a lady from here I was nervous as hell. Didn't fully enjoy it as I should have. She was very friendly and told me I wasn't the first nervous guy who couldn't perform.  But after a few more ladies I'm much more relaxed now.

Check the label or consult your pharmacist.

Try one or the other next time.

Don't take the Ativan next time.   Ativan is great for helping you relax, but Ativan, Xanax, Valium, etc. are all associated with erectile dysfunction.  And no, don't see your doctor to get some Viagra.  

Wow i wish i had known that those meds are linked with ED. Definitely wont be taking that again before a session.  

you mention what you may have done earlier in the day.

ever quit, that goes for anything in life, even hobbying. Of course, others have been in your shoes, anxiety happens to both sides, don't feel alone in this world of meeting complete strangers. I suppose that's half the excitement. I would recommend just trying to think of it as a 'normal' date...for some reason, I have noticed, those gentleman who constantly think about what this is and the minute money is involved, it changes everything. Just think of the gal you're with as a civvie gal you're meeting for the first time and even if in that world the same thing would happen, don't sweat the small stuff. And yes, it's just that, the small stuff. Hopefully you at least enjoyed your time with this fantasy woman you obviously enjoyed very much so for her time with you. Perhaps take it slower next time and allow things to progress naturally as in anything and most importantly, breathe lol.  

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though it has gotten better with time & experience.  I think you pushed ahead too fast...  Now, go back to your favorite lady & just have a good time.  Rebuild your confidence.

I'm a newbie, and my first experience was definitely not ideal.  And it was all on me.  I was nervous, I was anxious, mind was racing, anything and everything was racing through my brain about what was about to happen.  There were some other things on my mind as well, and things just kinda happened way too fast that day...considering it was my first time.

Well, I have actually used the medication before seeing other girls and I never had a problem. I think the majority of this was due to my mental state.

Appears to be manifestation of other issues going on in your head. You need to seek professional help, you may be stressed or depressed which manifests as not being able to get your thoughts away from negativity