forgive me if i come across as insecure but I feel the need to ask. So recently i met a provider and everything was great. Her performance was non-rushed GFE and I really enjoyed my time with her. As I was leaving she said she hoped to see me again soon. This at least assured me that she was ok with seeing me again. So about a week later I call back and she sounded warm and friendly as usual saying I cant wait to see you. So I call about an hour before arriving just to let her know Im coming and her tone sounded indifferent and cold. I brushed it off thinking she might have had someone next to her.
      Once I arrived, we greeted, with a little chit chat and got to the session except this time her lips were very guarded by the kisses and the session was very rushed. I pretty much got rushed out the door. This is sort of a let down and Im debating on whether to see her again or not. She was still friendly and all, but I really wanted to make her my ATF. Providers, from ur perspective, was she having an off day or should I take this as a hint and move on to another girl? I know all this is business and Im not expecting some relationship whatsoever. I just want to find a reliable provider that I can constantly see.

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Remember escorts are human. It's virtually impossible to know why she acted the way she did. I could take a WFAG, and saying she had another appointment right after you, or she had to go pick up the kids after your date somewhere, or she just got in a fight with her boyfriend or husband before you arrived. The list goes on and on. Remember escorts are humans. Here's my recommendation, MOVE ON! and get those  "make her my ATF" out of your mind for the time being. Since you posted on the newb board, I'll assume that's what you are. I would highly recommend you see a number of different  providers before you find an ATF. And btw, do you plan on writing a review, either session would be fine. Good luck.

There's no telling why she acted that way the second time you saw her. Maybe it was just a bad day for her or you had bad breath, who knows.

If you haven't tried any other providers, I suggest you try a couple others if nothing else just to get a little more experience.  if you are still intersted in the first one, try her again after you've met one or two others and see if she's still rushing or if she is back to the GFE that you met the first time.

you are "looking" for an "ATF." To me, an ATF happens, over time. You have to see several or many providers, and maybe one of them eventually "becomes" a favorite. You shouldn't go out "looking" to have a favorite. Also seems like since you are on the newbie board and have no reviews, this might be your first provider. Now trying to make your first provider an ATF is really strange. How can she be a "favorite" with nothing to compare to? That's like never eating out in your life, then going to a restaurant for the first time and declaring it your favorite restaurant. Favorite compared to what?
Go out and see some other ladies before you decide on an "ATF."

As for this particular lady, as others have said, there are many possible reasons, why she might have acted the way she did. I hate to bash you, but one of them could be that she indeed does not want to see you again, which goes back to your original question. The fact that you came on here saying you may sound insecure, is definitely something that she could have picked up on herself in your communication with her. Maybe you did seem insecure, or clingy. It may have seemed like you were looking for something she does not want to give you. In any case, move on. See some other ladies. Mabye you can try to see her again later, and see if you get the GFE treatment of the first meeting or the colder treatment of the second meeting.  
Good Luck

- I would add this question: Was there something you said or did the second time around that could reasonably have been seen by her as pushing boundaries?  If you asked about her private life, expressed some emotional attachment to her, asked for some activity she did not offer, or said or did something that could have made her think you would not respect the limits of this relationship, it could have soured the appointment.

Hi,

I highly doubt I did any of the above, which is why it makes me ask this question. Its really weird. If she didnt want to see me again, she probably would have gave me a cold session to begin with so that I wont be returning. When I made my first call, she sounded very pleased to see me again which makes it even more confusing as to why her second session with me was so cold.

Something happened to make her withdraw from the OP.  IMHO, he did something that caused her to put the brakes on as far as her seeing him.  Obviously, we don't know what, but something happened.  He should see many more ladies before getting too attached to one lady.  So far, as you said, he has nothing to compare her with.  There are plenty out there.

Huskies, you do sound somewhat insecure.  She enjoyed your first visit, and a week later, you wanted to see her again.  Soon, for a next visit, does not necessarily mean the next week.  Like the others said, how can she be your 'ATF' if you have not seen anyone else?????  C'mon, think about it, huskies.  You must have said something, that when she went back and thought about it, it gave her a 'whoa, cowboy' type thought.  My guess is, she got the feeling that you would start looking at her as a GF, and get clingy, which is not what providers are wanting.

Before you even think about an ATF, you need to see a lot more providers.  One just is not enough!!!!!  Look around, my friend, and don't even think about an ATF until you have seen at least 5-10 more.  Remember, it is her job to make you think you are the best thing since sliced bread, forgive the analogy.

Good luck,
Swim

Im not sure which part of your response you were alluding to that. The only answer that I want to know is if she didnt want a second session, why such a good first session.

In the part where I said this:
" The fact that you came on here saying you may sound insecure, is definitely something that she could have picked up on herself in your communication with her. Maybe you did seem insecure, or clingy. It may have seemed like you were looking for something she does not want to give you."

Now we have no way of knowing what was said in any of your conversations, so we are only making assumptions. However, you are coming here asking us for advice or suggesstions, that we can only base on assumptions. My asumption is that you had a great first session because it was a first session, and that is how she treats her clients, and she probably did want a second session. I'm assuming something happened between the two sessions. Something in your conversations may have made her feel you were clingy or looking for something other than p4p. Maybe just the fact you were booking a second session only a week later. Something might have made her uncomfortable and she may be putting up a fence.

Again those are assumptions. I could be completely wrong. Maybe she just had a bad day. As others have said, kid issues, SO issues, family, other client, civvy job,? Who knows?

Still, no matter the reason, the best option for you is to let it go, move on, and see some other ladies. Maybe you will just forget about her, and find some other hotties. Maybe some day, down the road you can circle back and see her.

Again don't try to make anyone your ATF.
ATFs might "happen", but should not be seeked.

Maybe she was having a bad day. Even though everyone should leave their troubles at the door some troubles are harder to forget about than others . Give her another chance and go see her . If she acts that way again then look else where.

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thanks for the answer. You addressed all possibilities and your answer was truly insightful. If you dont mind I want to ask you one last question before I put this entire issue to rest. Aside from the vibe, feelings, and even hygiene, do you think it had anything to do with what she thought about my appearance or is that unlikely? She told me she liked it but then again I can never know if that was honest since its her job to be flattering. thanks again and I really appreciate your help.

If (and it is an 'if') she decided she doesn't want to see you, your appearance would be the least likely reason. Unless for some reason you really look atrocious which is not likely, providers don't care what you look like. If you are clean, have good hygiene, are respectable, pleasant to be with, and have the proper donation, looks are not important.

Again, it is either she had a bad day, or you gave her some type of bad vibe. Good luck in moving on.

That really clarifies it for me. I even thought that the second session didnt go well because she didnt like my appearance. But since you indicate that this is unlikely, I will take it into consideration. thanks again