Can't help but notice from the reviews that the providers tend to take charge. I prefer to  spend lots of time giving rather then receiving and prefer controlling the pace. Would this not be welcomed by providers?

If it's done in a polite and respectful way... it might be.  It really depends on the lady. As far as "giving"- look for ladies that enjoy, daty, fingers, etc. Maybe elaborate on what you mean by "taking charge"..?? Some ladies are fine with light spanking.. a little hair pulling.. dirty talking- and some are NOT. It might be best to look for ladies that have reviews that reflect your own personal tastes OR find another hobbiest in your area who shares your intrests who can recommend people to you.

Respectful..always. I'm not into anything forceful or disrespectful. Spanking, hair pulling, talking dirty not my thing either. Just like to spend lots of time careesing a lady's  whole body, front and back. Lots of kissing and giving oral.  That sort of thing. I'm not sure if providers are comfortable mainly getting, not giving. Thanks for replying.

that your expectations are fully in line with what providers provide. Ultimately you are paying them to service you. They are skilled with a range of guys. For example, many see older hobbyists who might not come at all. I'm not sure what you are reading in the reviews, but it's not accurate. You can definitely set the pace and range of activities. Be prepared for a little subtle communication during your session explaining what you like.

as to what we like, provided it is all within her program as detailed on her reviews.

To that end, I often suggest some kissing and making out followed by mutual massage, followed by BBBJ, followed by whatever and it's all good.

I'm sure many newbies feel like I do, a deep sense of gratitude that experienced hobbyists and providers take the time out to answer our questions which you've probably all heard before. Very much appreciated!

I should hook you up with my wife while I go Hobby and get what I want.

I would say  it's preferred.  It's your time, your resources and we are in the business of pleasing.  I take the lead gladly when I need to but I like the idea of a man engaging in his appointment and getting what he wants out of it.  I can't know what that is unless you let me know - even if non verbally.

I am a confident and strong woman so I tend to take charge, especially if it's a new gentleman.  It generally makes him feel more at ease that I'm just moving ahead with plans and there is no awkward moments. However, a man is welcome to put me in my place anytime!

Communication is key to everything!

Hugs,
Ciara