Re: What if I like to be in charge

If it's done in a polite and respectful way... it might be.  It really depends on the lady. As far as "giving"- look for ladies that enjoy, daty, fingers, etc. Maybe elaborate on what you mean by "taking charge"..?? Some ladies are fine with light spanking.. a little hair pulling.. dirty talking- and some are NOT. It might be best to look for ladies that have reviews that reflect your own personal tastes OR find another hobbiest in your area who shares your intrests who can recommend people to you.

that your expectations are fully in line with what providers provide. Ultimately you are paying them to service you. They are skilled with a range of guys. For example, many see older hobbyists who might not come at all. I'm not sure what you are reading in the reviews, but it's not accurate. You can definitely set the pace and range of activities. Be prepared for a little subtle communication during your session explaining what you like.

as to what we like, provided it is all within her program as detailed on her reviews.

To that end, I often suggest some kissing and making out followed by mutual massage, followed by BBBJ, followed by whatever and it's all good.

I would say  it's preferred.  It's your time, your resources and we are in the business of pleasing.  I take the lead gladly when I need to but I like the idea of a man engaging in his appointment and getting what he wants out of it.  I can't know what that is unless you let me know - even if non verbally.