when approaching a provider via email, how do you go about it so they get a sense you're a gentlemen.

if a provider is reading this, what's your "ATF inquiry email"... meaning what was it about their inquiry that gave you a good feeling about that person..

When you contact a provider, make it smooth and easy for her.

See if she has a contact page on her website. That will give you an idea of what she wants to know...

generally I recommend providing -

A polite and upbeat greeting and a little bit about yourself (one or two sentences including
your age height weight race and occupation plus a mention of something of interest to you)

your screening information including TER or other board handles, verification site memberships (Date Check, Preferred411, RoomService2000 etc)

The day and time you would like to meet with alternate possibilites. Be specific - don't make her "guess". If your exact days / times don't work she will give you alternatives

The length of appointment and any options she lists on her services page (ie GFE PSE VIP etc)

your contact information and guidance about how you wish to be contacted and any restrictions on contact times days etc.

Remember that this is a *business* and not a dating service. A gentleman hobbyist understands what a lady needs in order to screen you and set up a date (which is what she does for a *living*) and makes it as easy on her as possible....

I would like to see you on February 30th at 1pm for a 1 hour appointment.

We have never met before, so the following information may be helpful with scheduling. References available upon request.

Thank you!
Jim Jones


(What goes here depends on the particular woman's screening requirements and your comfort level.)

Datecheck ID: blahblah
P411: blahblah
TER: blahblah

Some require employer info, especially if you are a total newbie:

Jim Jones
Director NaCN Manufacture
Guyana KoolAid Company
Jonestown, Guyana
(555)555-5555
www.BottomsUp.com


(Note: please pardon my sick sense of humor this morning.)

First be sure to read her website and ads thoroughly.  Nothing I hate worse than getting emails or phone calls asking for info that is clearly explained on my website and ads. Simply introduce yourself, your name, age, a general idea of when you want to schedule an appt. Do not ask about specific sexual acts, you should have done your homework, read reviews and know what is on the menu. Do not tell her how big your privates are, how great you are in bed and PLEASE, do not send nude photos of yourself. These get deleted with a quickness!
Just use your common sense and you should be fine.

Be exactly that...a gentleman  
I know for me it's respect, I am a lady.  As long as you introduce yourself in a polite respectful manner you will be well recieved.  Nothing worse than an email only stating "looking for a blo and go" lol

xoxo
Sicilia

Or, 'yo grl yer really hot an all but outta my budget, what kinda deal can you give me for 15mins?'

Dude, seriously?? ::delete::

... is when I have written a carefully composed email to a lady; and what I got back looked like what you described: So wat time u want? I can b hr at 3.

I don't care how much she charges, ladies who communicate like that are ALWAYS out of my price range. LOL

johngaltnh's comment is funny but often true... You go to the trouble of following her instructions on her web page (which she dutifully copied from her GF, who copied it from her GF, etc.), and they don't even read it - yo can tell from their response.

Bottom line... some providers are excellent schedulers and communicators, and others SUCK at it!

Regardless, to answer your question. I think some basic things to get off on the right foot.

Put all the logistics info that she'll want (when, where, how long, plus all references, etc.) in one place in the email. Preferably at the beginning after a very brief hello/intro. This way, those inclined to not read the entire email will not be asking questions about things you told them.

Always include:
- When, where and for how long
- Do not mention rates. Ask if her posted rates are current (web or TER)
- Do not mention specific acts. You CAN ask if her TER profile is accurate.
- If you're good with the information she has asked for, provide that as well.
- Feel free to be flirty if you're so inclined, but not too suggestive (that can come once your verified, if she's into it). Regardless, follow her lead on email volume.

Sometimes I am not completely comfortable with a ladies requests for information. I will pass as much as possible up front, and then try to see if it looks like we can really hook up before giving the sensitive info she asks for. This will annoy some, and I just pass on them. I feel I have a right to understand a little about her and her processes before handing over my sensitive information.

A brief intro of you is nice and will hopefully lead to a response from her which gives you an idea of her personality. Keep initial contacts relatively brief and go from there.

"So wat time u want? I can b hr at 3"


HAHAH!! what a bimbo... but what if she were like SUPER DUPER SKOK'EN DROP DEAD GORGEOUS SHE'S OUT OF MY LEAGUE HOT??

Would you overlook her then?

I think you would NOT.

THANKS EVERYONE WHO REPLIED YOUR RESPONSES WERE OK.

I have a brainy chick fetish.

Though I hafta admit a brainy HOT chick fetish is better!