What's the acceptable amount of time to wait to hear back from a provider for an appointment request before making other plans? I sent a request early Thursday morning for a meeting about 10 days later. Her ad was on TER, but i made the request on P411, which shows she's been online several times since my request. I haven't heard a peep. Thoughts?

several times since Thursday and no respond, I think you need to take the hint..

So far the longest time from my p411 request to a response has been one month.  I've had shorter delays.  They all claim they didn't get the email from p411.    

You could have just got lost in the mix.  I wouldn't default to interpreting it as her not wanting to meet you (unless you have seen her before, then it depends on the circumstances).  I would just send one follow-up PM saying that you wanted to follow-up with your appointment request sent on xx/yy, that you really look forward to connecting, ask if she needs any other screening info, and conclude by letting her know to please let you know by xx/yy so that you could plan accordingly.  If you don't hear something by that date, then you will move on.  If you don't follow-up, then she might actually contact you the day before or day of the appointment.  I have had that happen to me once or twice.    

I agree that you should probably take the hint.

He shouldn't need to take a hint.  Ladies should be professional enough and respectful enough to get back to all inquiries within 24-48 hours.  Otherwise they shouldn't use the system.  

Reach out to the provider via P411 PM.  Then perhaps consider reaching out to Gina.  But reach out to her via PM to follow-up before even considering reaching out to Gina (per my posting above).  We don't know the particulars of your situation and we are all arm chair quarterbacking.  Maybe she is a popular touring lady who reached out to all of her established friends or regulars that she typically sees and is waiting for them to let her know what times work best for them before determining where to place you on the schedule.  She could be well aware of your request but just waiting for some more folks to get back to her so that she could optimize the schedule.  It could be a lot of things.  I wouldn't assume anything.  

got upset with me bc I didn't whitelist you?!  

Thanks all. Not assuming anything here. I’ve never seen this lady before. I’ll reach out via P411 message and let her know I’m canceling my request since it’s been more than 72 hours without any response.

Why are you chasing pussy like you're not paying for it? Seriously. Why?? If providers don't respond within 24 hours, then MOVE ON! You are not begging, you are not asking for a favor, you are not pleading for a freebie. Again, you are paying for their “SERVICES”. You are in control of what they want / need; discretionary cash. So grow a pair and act like you have some power because you do my man, and just MOVE ON!

If I am getting close on time and want to try another lady I send the first one a message saying  "I am sorry I have not heard from you and am making other plans.  Maybe some other time".  That way you are not burning that bridge.   bigdell

I expect the provider to reply when I send a request. in return, if I change my mind, for whatever reason, before she replies, I send a quick note. Doesn't take more than a minute out of my day and closes the loop. There's nothing wrong with not being an misogynistic asshole all the time.

I have no clue what are you talking about.  I don't know you and I would not see you.  Maybe something that I posted a while ago about white lists.  Anywhoo, few people who have P411 care about white lists.  As others have noted below, it is about common courtesy and treating others the way that you want to be treated.  Rather than ignore a response just send a short note indicating that the schedule is full.    

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Actually P411 requires providers to reply to requests, so it is more than a courtesy.  I've never reported non-responses on P411 because I hate to undermine someone's livelihood.   But non-response on p411 is pretty common.  

Sounds difficult to enforce.  I am assuming you are referring to just appointment requests.  I could see ladies not replying to pre-screens or PMs, but given that it is their livelihood I would think that they would be replying to all appointment requests.  At least I would because I wouldn't want to get a reputation for being unreliable or a flake.  

Because not long ago you were telling us how whitelists have "more value" than okay's.

I changed my mind a little bit after I saw/heard about WL's getting abused.  Too many ladies try to use them to get positive reviews or additional appointments, etc.  I am not going to give you a WL until I see you at least 4 times, etc.  Additionally, a few folks told me that they received WL's from ladies they never met.  

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Because I finished jr high a long time ago lol.

.... send a direct email or a text if she has those listed on her P411 page. I say that I sent an appointment request on P411 and haven't heard from her. I also mention that perhaps the P411 email went to spam. I have always received an upbeat answer and have  scheduled an appointment.
I try not to believe that I know what someone else is thinking. It's so much easier that way.