I'm from New Zealand, where escorting is totally legal. 90% of the time here I just text message an escort I see online, arrange a time and that's that. They list what they do and what their rates are online and that's how it is.  

On my upcoming trip to the states, I plan to see a few girls (the big booty type - so hard to find here)

So far the things I've learnt are:

• Many girls need to 'screen you' via one or more phone calls, in which they ask general questions?

• There's a lot of fake ads around so it's best to google phone numbers and look for providers with reviews.

 
What I'm unclear on still is:

• Tipping, is tipping expected? we don't tip at all here so it's new to me.

• Incall/Outcall. Is it fair to say most girls are incall only or offer outcall at an extra price? I'm going to be staying in central-ish NY and San Fran and won't have a car. I'm looking at staying in a rental apartment  for privacy.

• Services offered, here girls list in detail what they offer (i.e. anal, cim etc). I guess this stuff is discussed over the phone.

 
If anyone can help clear up the above or just tell how the process generally goes, that'd be really helpful :

I think I should move to New Zealand!

There are many ways to have a bad experience here. One way to maximize fun and minimize risk of problems is to join this site and pay for VIP membership. By doing a bit of research here, reading reviews and so on, you can avoid the fakes and danger zones that are out there.

Yes, most reputable providers here will screen you. When you don't have any references, the best thing you can do is to also join a verification site like Date-check or P411. This may require personal or work info and maybe a fee, but it will also get you "in" with many providers with minimal hassle.

Most reputable providers will give you a rate for their time and will not require tipping. Tipping is not a bad idea if you can afford it and think you may want to see the girl again, it's just a nice way of saying thank you. Agency girls pay a good chunk of their earnings to the agency, it's an especially nice gesture to tip them.

Some offer incall, some outcall, some both. Some actually xharge extra for the incall. It's al based on their own formula.

You cannot discuss specific services on preliminary phone or email contact. Most providers will hang up on you and refuse to see you. If you want to know what she offers, read the review, that's the whole point of the review.

Read the self help center (life preserver icon) for much more info. Good luck.

Most indie providers will mention on their web sites, tipping is not required, but always appreciated.  

Incall vs outcall.  Hard to generalize "most" girls are incall.  For example in VEgas, most are outcall. Yes many charge more for outcall or request a minimum length session. Just depends.

Discussing sexual services over the phone will many times result in the phone going silent.  

I'd recommend you purchase a VIP membership for 30 days, that will allow you to read the juicy details of the reviews.  

Also many providers have web sites and that should answer a number of questions you might have.

Try using google/image and/or tineye to verify pictures in ads.

Shop on the local TER regional ad boards.  The NY board, is pretty active, so take a look at it. As far as San Fran,  the local TER board is pretty quite.  There is a regional escort review board for SF, however, TER rules forbid me to mention the name.  Many SF providers use that board, and when you research  SF providers, it should be obvious the name of the board.

Thanks for all of that info, very helpful. Sounds like I might have to get myself a VIP membership.

Just one other question, I've heard in terms of paying, the done thing here is to put the money in an envelope and leave it in plain sight (ie on table) but not to refer to it. They take it at the beginning or end? and obviously if you tip, you have to give that to them directly, after the fact

Yeah, reading all of this, it makes me think we don't have it too bad here. Prices are cheaper as well. But as I say, selection... not so great. Especially if you're like me with a niche taste in bootylicious thick chicks!

Would you say that signing with Date-check/p411 is almost required? I'm kind of reluctant to say things like where I work, in theory that sort of thing could be used as blackmail right.

I am relatively new to the hobby but can offer a few pointers.

- Date Check or P411 are not "required" per se, but without at least one of them you will be limited to ladies that are willing to accept other forms of screening (which may be hard since all your verifiable info is from another country).  The purpose of verification agencies is act as the intermediary for your personal info.  They know who you are and vouch for you to the provider, but the provider does not have access to your info.

- Paying...yes, typical routine is to place the "donation" or "consideration" in an unmarked envelop or small gift bag in plain sight when you arrive.  Then excuse yourself to the restroom.  Some ladies will check it while you are gone, some may completely ignore it until after you leave.

- Tipping...completely optional.  If you feel you received exceptional service do what you feel is right.  I have only tipped once.  In that case the lady had left my envelop on the dresser, so I just slipped the additional money under the envelop as I was leaving.

- Initial contact...DO NOT discuss money, sex, preferences, or basically anything other than what day and time you would like to meet.  This is probably different than what you are used to.  To have a better chance of getting what you are looking for you must do your research.  TER reviews (get VIP membership), and P411 profiles are a great help in this.  You can also use ad websites (googleing their phone number will dig up a lot if they are an experienced provider).

Hope this helps and I hope you find your big booty experience!
JB