I am a newbie and I have a first date with a well-known independent very soon.  She has multiple reviews over multiple years.

I have booked the hotel and am now starting to worry/have butterflies.

Am I worrying for nothing?  Is this common?








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I was very nervous the first 5 times or so.

In fact, up until my retirement, the sense of anticipation was very exciting.

I think the idea of bringing wine, a small gift for her, relax and be yourself is good advice.

You may want to let the lady know it is your first time.  She will go gently.

I know what the donation is.....

however, if i have a nice time and want to go on another date with her, do I tip?

Is it custom to tip?  If so, how much?

Guess that's the catch phrase of choice.

I don't think tipping has anything to do with whether you see her again, aside from the incidental fact that if you like her enough to tip her, you'll probably want to see her again anyway

Something I've always wondered is how do you guys handle the tip - seems tacky to just pull it out at the end and shove it in her hand.

How do you give a gal a tip with finesse?

Here is my experience. I tried to contact an indy girl 2 weeks back when I finally decided to take the plunge after some research.All she needed is my home address and she was on her way. Now - this weekend I failed to see some other providers who needed a reference. I am not sure the girl I saw before will give any - as she does not need any reference herself and she may not want me to see anyone else( I probably would have done the same if I were her). So - my fun will stop here.

Here is the irony and in some way its commical. We will not see a new girl unless she has a review - but a girl can not have a review unless someone sees her. In the same way - no provider will see us unless we have the reference which is impossible to get without any provider seeing us.

Thought will share my $0.02.

I agree, tipping can seem tacky. I've tipped a couple of times, and tried to do it discreetly, although I'm not sure I succeeded. I've just left the tip lying around somewhere near where my clothes are, as I'm getting ready to leave, without saying anything about it.

Gifts, on the other hand, seem a lot nicer. Of course, I present them to the girl at the beginning. If you like her enough that you plan to see her again, ask what she likes (perfume, candles, candy, whatnot, like a GF).

Been there, done that.  I, before marriage, had visited a few ladies - but that was in the days before the internet.  Wow, talk about take your chances!  and what are ya gonna do, walk up to the coffee maker at the office and say to your fellow co-workers "hey, about that new massage parlor just across the road from the airport, what kinda stuff is in there?"  think about it, the medium (ie internet) has enabled some form of quality control, while at the same time, enabling advertising in a very interesting way, not to mention what cell phones bring into the mix.... this is very much a high tech hobby!  Now, I kinda know what to expect and how I can behave.  my advice, read the reviews, bring a nice wine and if so moved, tip after, but put the "donation" up front - better for you, and her.  I use a plain white envelope with nothing written on it...  

I have brought gals presents, but that is if I have seen them before - usually something that i want them to enjoy!  A bag for the gym, a gym outfit, soaps, body oil, candles, music (a CD) and for one lady who was going to florida for vacation- some sun screen to protect her lovely skin!  Relax and ENJOY.... if she is as experienced as you have indicated, you will never feel a thing! lol

I don't know if there's any "right" way. I know some providers advocate leaving a separate envelope. I feel very impersonal leaving a tip that way, especially for a such personal service.  I leave a tip in sort of an old fashioned way, but it works for me. I simply wait until she is giving me a good bye hug and kiss at the door, then slip the money between her cleavage or into her bra or nighty, and just say something like "I really enjoyed our time together, get yourself something nice" give her a kiss, and walk out the door with a big shit eating grin on my face.