I've noticed that many hobbyists will stop communicating with a provider if she asks him to go through screening. Why is this a problem? (I'm new) isn't this protocol. Are reputable providers really meeting with hobbyists who won't even tell them a name?

But I don't know any monger who refuses to go through screening, which protects not only the girl but the monger.  What many mongers will NOT do is provide their real name or other personal information.  But there are many ways to screen without divulging that info.

I go by my real name so no one has ever asked me for a name.

nice.  You should not pretend to be Jake when we can tell by the polite response that its not really Jake.

How do you screen without that information when they don't even respond after you ask for their screening. Some stop all communication without giving a broad handle or references...

White lists and OKs are acceptable. It's just weird that some stop communication because I ask for screening.  

You should not be giving advise to anyone.  Seriously.

It's a great strategy to show them you're serious that you mean bidniz

as his circle of influence is most likely a very small percentage of the population.

And to think most of us just thought you were a asshole ...

Yet you choose to hide behind an alias. Your a wuss.  

Yes, This explains a lot about Jake's posts.  Lol

he shows up for the session, you should not let him in.

I ONLY post as Jake.  My handle will NEVER post.  I have my reasons. So what difference does it make? Is your name really Zak?  Or is it Tubbo?  Stop playing childish games.

Really, yoga pants are just the best. Should be required garb for all hot chicks. And of course verboten for those of the wrong body types.

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that "you don't know any monger who refusing screening". So, if you don't know something, maybe better not to say anything ay all? I know such mongers. And a girl is worried and confused by the fact that she was told that screening is a normal protocol and she hoped that all bobbyists follow this suite, but it seems not all. At the end you are throwing something childish  " you are drunk". What's going on your farm? Animals were reading Orwell?

Obviously, some mongers are stupid enough to refuse all screening, but if you've been on these boards much at all (and it seems you have not been) most of the male posters here understand that screening makes things safer for all and are willing to undergo it.  That seems so obvious to me I'm amazed you thin differently.  The OP seems to have encountered a few who completely refused screening and, if so, is probably marketing herself to the wrong people.
Now please relax.

And I expect you to support my right to decline to give it, even if that means not seeing you.  I think most guys feel the same way.  If my P411 info and OKs, plus additional references, are not enough for you, I will happily move on.  But I've seen lots of women and have yet to be declined.  That's got to tell you something.

I do believe you missed my point completely. I ask for screening. It's up to them to provide it. If they don't want to give me their full name then please provide me with references, screen names, any verifiable information. But to just end all communication once I ask for screening is crazy to me.  

A one-man circle jerk LOL

So I'm wondering if you're in flat mode, not tree mode, which can lead to confusion. Second, if you've read all my posts on this thread and still think I missed your point, I'd say you have a reading comprehension issue.
Bottom line: if a lot of guys refuse to give you screening info, I think you need to look at your marketing because you are attracting bottom feeders.
Where do you advertise?

Maybe you should look inward for your answers instead of blaming the guys?

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Make it very clear in every ad and on your website that you require screening, and what information you need. Those who don't want to submit screening info will generally not contact you in the first place. No wasted time for him, no wasted time for you

looking for a pen pal not a companion. And yes, some just don't want to give you the information you need to verify the guy and they don't have the manners to send you a brief email that says "I'm going to have to pass".

Ignore them if they don't provide the info you request with their initial or 2nd attempt to contact you. While most men understand this simple concept here...you'll find many men still do not. Even seasoned hobbyists. I've stopped trying to figure it out and only spare my time who truly understand how this game is "really" played.  

They seem to be ignoring her, not the other way around

btw, are you a woman here too now?

Her words

What do you have against Khakis?

I was a lot more nervous on my first provider visit than I was the night I actually lost my virginity.  The poor lady had to practically remind me how things were done.  Fortunately, I was very lucky in my choice of newbie-friendly firsts!