I'm wondering how long I should wait for a provider to respond before I move on?  Are non responses typical for a newbie contacting a top rated provider?  I'm pretty sure it isn't an issue of the contact email's content.

...on the provider.  Some are flaky and won't get around to it and some are really responsible and will reply within hours.

My suggestion:

Give it two days, and then try a follow-up mentioning that you sent a previous e-mail but didn't receive a reply.  If there's no reply within one day of this one, move on.

heinous

Send one follow up email (or text or call--whatever was the initial contact) If initial contact was through her web contact form, you can send a follow up email saying you sent inthe form. Mention that this is a follow up. If you don't get a reply to the follow up in a day or so, move on. Sending one follow up is good, because there is always the chance the first one never went through, got deleted, went to spam or various other things. Sending multiple follow ups is stalking or obsessive behavior, and will not only guaranty no answer, but could put you on a dns list or even a blacklist.

There are reasons why some providers take a while to get back to you and they are not all bad or flaky. Vacation, sickness, emergencies, just busy, maybe with a client on a multiday date are all possibilities. That doesn't mean you should wait forever or make excessive repeat contacts.

Is it kosher to email other providers in the interim?  I have a narrow window and want to make sure there is time to make other arrangements.

I hardly know what(or where)i'll be day to day. I don't care for waiting DAYS for a reply. I was blasted once for waiting 2 1/2 days until i moved on. The provider in question lectured me about being 'holier than thou' and said she'd NEVER see me. I'm not a patient man. If one of my suppliers didn't respond the same day i made contact i just might seek another. This hobby is suppossed to be fun; waiting on pretentious women doesn't sound like fun to me.

Anything longer likely mean that the provider is disorganized. You should develop a list of highly desirable providers to send introductory email to. Try sending out two emails at a time. The first provider to answer and start the verification process.

the one that answers that you are the most interested in.

But I sure as shit won't beg to pay for pussy".  Doesn't matter to me what the reason might be, one attempt is all I usually give a lady.

i wouldn't recommend that - here's why:

usually the other providers are ones you would see given a different set of circumstances - i mean, you'd presumably have a mental list of who you want to see and you'd contact #1, #2 and #3 in your scenario - making one date and telling the others that you're not available after you've contacted them may create some ill will on their end and cause them to not want to see you in the future

that's why i suggested my timetable, which is 3 days tops - it's short enough time to move on to someone else that you want to see but long enough to give a provider a reasonable amount of time to reply

if you're like most guys, once you get it in your head that you want to see someone, you'll have trouble keeping it in your pants and containing your enthusiasm, but avoiding multiple contacts when trying to make a date will prevent you from creating ill will and being unable to see someone else in the future

**if your window is really that narrow, read reviews and look at how easy contacting and making a date is - that will speak to provider reliability and responsiveness - usually that info is in the "free" part of the review if you're not a VIP member

heinous

for me to keep dealing with a drama queen, or a lady that is running a poor business, communicationwise.

If I do get to the point of asking that she verify me, I am beyond the point of return, she is the woman that I will visit once verified. I never double book providers knowing that I want one encounter, but I have booked a couple on the same day when I have felt frisky.

There are many of us who are well organized, but some time periods we may be traveling (I drive everywhere), we may be with family, we may have dentist appoitments...et cetera.  It doesn't always mean we are flaky and disorganized if we don't respond right away.

During the holidays, I got a double whammy. I visited a city worked a few days, then went to visit with my Mom and my laptop decided to die during all this so I got a little behind on responses.  Stuff happens sometimes.....

Happy Hobbying and Happy New Year

If you have no track record, it is a bit more complicated and time consuming for the provider. Depending on how much time a provider has available, she may just not want to deal with you. Sorry, but that's the way it often is with "top rated" ladies.

I'm sure, if you are new, that you would like to have a good experience. It may take more time than it seems it should to get cleared. In every city there are great ladies who have "alternative" methods of clearing you. You might suggest meeting her for coffee (paying for her time at a social rate). If the meeting goes well she may ask you for some work ID or verification. You should know how you want to deal with that ahead of time.

The good thing is when you have a few references it will be a lot easier in the future. A bit nerve-wracking at first though.

Jillian