Hello..new to hobby. Are there general guidelines to follow or etiquette when considering gifts to a particular provider in addition to the meeting donation? Appreciate any feedback
is to schedule a subsequent encounter with her. Sure, sometimes guys bring an unopened bottle of wine, candles, gift cards, flowers (hard to be discrete), take them shopping, etc. What can your wallet afford?
Don't buy her clothes. If you'd really like to see her in something, just give her a gift card because chances are, you're going to get the sizing wrong.
Sex toys and money are welcome, as well as more practical things like Amazon.com gift cards (my preference). Some ladies (like me) appreciate flowers, but I don't recommend it. You'd do best to ask her directly, or check out her website and see if she has a wishlist on her website.
The problem with gifts is that it creates an expectation and every time you visit her she expects a gift and sometimes a bigger more valuable gift than last time. The same goes with tips. If she expects a tip, she can add it to her hourly rate. If you suddenly forget a gift or can't afford one anymore, their performance level can drop off due to the disappointed.
Just make sure you and her are on the same page with her required donation for the time you wish to spend with her. Shorting her will create an entire new set of problems.
Yes, the most important gift is a second, third, etc date, but a gift is always appreciated. A gift, in my opinion, can be as simple as a personal greeting card, instead of the white envelope, street vendor flowers, a gift card, or extavagant as............ I do not believe that if you give a lady a lady a gift one time, she will expect one the next. I know I never would. Also, many ladies give gifts to their gentlemen friends for birthdays, etc. I doubt that the gentlemen would expect a gift every time he visits the lady after his birthday. If a gentlemen wants to give a a lady a gift; large or small, it is his choice. Hugs and Kisses, Kelly
but on occasion I have given a mildly scented jar candle. Need not be costly. On occasion I've had her do the honors (lighting it) while washed up. I insist on a fireproof plate under it... when they burn down the jar can get hot enough to start a fire. I have taken such a saucer with me & always had her return it at the end... but they were second hand store orphans... not wife's china... so it wouldn't have mattered anyway. One gal I have taken sugar free candy to... I know she diabetic... She seemed appreciative.
Alcohol can be risky as some gals avoid it for medical reasons. Always leave beverages sealed to open together, so she knows it was not tampered with. Sometimes a snack is nice if there's time. On extended dates, I have packed a lunch... required a grocery stop before.
Gifting opinions like most will vary. Some ladies add gift suggestions on their website, if this is the case perhaps lean towards the less expensive choices for your first visit. Personally I do not list or expect gifts. When given a gift it is as much about the thought as the actual gift. I have a few friends that have surprised me with my fav type of chocolate. The chocolate is not easy to find in my area, the effort put into finding etc holds a greater value than the actual chocolate. I did read a few posts saying once a gift is given it will always be expected or attitude will decline. This may be the case with some but certainly not all! It is quite similar to a first civilian date (as they say) some men may bring a bottle of wine or flowers and others would not. It should never be expected, your time spent with your lady is the gift in this situation. With that said any woman would smile and appreciate your forethought. Xo
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