I saw people talking about this site a few days ago and wandered on. The pictures of the girls I've seen are amazing and it made me want to become a hobbyist so I contacted a provider and have passed screening. The provider has 100+ good reviews on TER and recent ones too. I haven't scheduled an appointment yet...but just want to see what you guys think since I'm on the fence about going through with this...so I guess these are my worries...

1. The provider seems clean and trusted and always uses cover, but she does BBBJs, DATY, etc...can't those transmit STDs just as easily? I have a girlfriend and I don't want any chance of receiving or transmitting anything and I was tested recently and have nothing.
2. What if it sucks or it's just okay? Has anyone felt buyer's remorse?
3. What if it's amazing and I get addicted? I'm currently a full-time student, so I would go broke pretty quickly. What if it makes me dislike my girlfriend? Cause we're pretty tame in bed and she's not into many new things...just about 4 positions every time.
4. I guess...I'm just trying to convince myself and it's really hard right now to push myself over the fence.
4. I've read a lot of the site and done a lot of research...if I do go through with this...any tips on how to act, what to do, etc.? Thanks!

I can't answer your questions but I do have something in common with you. I too am a first timer on the fence but from what I read you cant get any std with a bbbj. And I am in a relationshiop and worried about getting addicted to it but I am only going to do it when I get that craving to seek strange ass. From what I read you and I have something in common when it comes positions because we do about the same amount of postions. So I hope I answered at least one of your questions. Good luck and I hope you enjoy yourself

if she has gone to the trouble of screening you, she expects you to make an appointment to see her.  If you don't, you might be considered a time-waster, which will make it difficult for you to make dates in the future.

I will try to answer your specific questions now.

1.  You can always ask for CBJ and don't do any DATY, if you have that much concern.  Most guys in this hobby will tell you that you are probably safer getting a BBBJ from a provider than the girl you picked up in a bar for a one-night stand.  Providers can ill afford to be passing on any diseases, esp if it's their only source of income.

2.  Not every provider is going to knock your socks off, so if it turns out to be sucky or just ok, accept it and move on.  Yes, many have felt buyers' remorse, don't dwell on it.  Again, just move on.

3.  You might, but remember, to her, it's a business and you are a client.  She is not looking for a boyfriend.  You alone know what you can afford, you just have to keep that in mind, and act accordingly.  As for your girlfriend, what if?  Only you can really tell that.  Remember, it's the provider's job to make sure you have a good time.  If she does things your gf won't, enjoy them and maybe gradually try to introduce some new stuff into your relationship.  When your gf asks where or how you came up with these new things, tell her you stumbled on a website and did some reading.  There are lots of sites out there talking about how to spice up your love life.  Maybe google search for them so you can give her a site she can go look at.

4.  How to act, what to do.....   Well, be clean and respectful, be sure you know what she expects when you get to her incall, like what to do with the donation in particular.  You will probably be nervous, which is normal, esp for a first provider date.  If you see an established well-reviewed provider (which you should), she will know how to handle a nervous newbie.  Tipping is not necessary, but many guys bring a small gift, like a candle or something simple like that.  Never hurts.

I will add this, since you are in college, I assume you are much younger than most of the guys that frequent this site and hobby.  If that's the case, make sure the provider you are interested in will see guys in your age bracket.  Many providers do not see guys under 30, 35 or so.

Hope this helps.  Good luck.

Swim

You've gone this far so have fun.  Your biggest problem is going to be point number 3 and maybe you can learn something new to share with your girlfriend.

Tell the lady it's your first time.  With over 100 reviews she will surely know what to do and take good care of you.  Please tell us about it in a review.

PG

I have to tell you that I have have had buyer's remorse several times now, with the exception of one recent amazing non FS provider.  It's not that the girls were unpleasant or difficult.  They all attempted to please and actually were very sweet.  I just thought that their looks, body and face, would go along with the fantasy I envisioned.  Unfortunately, I have been disillusioned with the FS providers I have seen.  It is difficult to go by reviews on TER.  I find that the majority are inflated, perhaps, because it seems many are written to inflate the egos of the guys writing them as opposed to what is real.  Perhaps I am being overly critical here too, but when you consider the hurdles you have to climb, the risks you potentially take, you want that girl who is going to knock your socks off.  Advice: search providers who rank 9 or higher on average in looks and have sufficient review numbers to knock out the outliers which tend to be inflated.  Then check out the web sites of those you find and feel comfortable with body size, weight, and stats, and age.  Be prepared to pay more for quality!  It sucks to go through this and be disappointed cause it is scary and expensive, and never fun to feel regret.

From what I read, you can get gonohrea,  but not Chylamedia. You just have to be careful on who you get bbbj from.  You cant catch anything from DATY except for herpes but you can see the area you are dining and if you see lesions then dont Daty and leave.  When I started hobbying a year ago, I only received cbj and got testing every month because I have a SO. What's funny is that I went from $$$$$ providers to $$ providers and now I get bbbj. You just have to use your own judgment on who bbbj you. Don't do bbfs even if she looks clean because she's offering it to everybody else.

never with rent money, etc.  

I want to suggest that you are young...  if you have a civie GF, try to spice things up there.  There's lots of inspirational books like "The Joy of Sex".  Also good info on women's site ivillage/cosmo.  4 acts in a GF session is pretty good.  Let the GF know you want to try something new...  for one of them...  show her ivillage.  If you do decide to "hobby" the books and articles will be an explanation for new things you learn & want to try at home.  A guy with new moves is instantly suspect of cheating.

Providers give a great experience but it's primarily sex...  not real intimacy.  It's all an illusion.  
One good thing about provider sex...  you learn quickly to separate the sex hormone rush which makes guys fall for the ladies they have sex with...  at least you better!  LOL!  (Had I done so, my ex would never have gotten me to the alter & I'd be about 100K better off for it.  

One thing I would say...  as a younger man...  I had a great time.  My lovers said they were satisifed (even the ex was sexually satisfied accordingto the counciler when she could have taken a cheap shot at me).  But as I gained years & maturity...  I learned that I really love to please my lover.  I want to give as good as I get or better.   A woman will not TELL you, you have to watch the subtile signs.

As you are young...  you must know this is a secret world.  Never tell your GF, your buddy, your brother, your best friend...  It could come back to bite you in the ass one day.  Really.
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the wherewithall to see their pictures and decide for yourself if it is a person who is attractive to you.  

Performance is another issue.  But, with VIP, you can read the juicy details in the reviews; without you will eventually have a bad experience that could have been prevented for much less than you spent on the failed encounter.

Still be careful.  VIP reviews are not always accurate, especially in the rating arena.  I have seen 10's for fairly average looking providers, and most, as is, just show pictures of the bodies with blurred out faces or no face at all, so you can be disappointed by the face.  I had one experience where the body looked great on the high end web site, not an eros ad, and was advertised as 5'5" and 110lbs, but when I met this girl, her face was caked over with makeup, and she was closer to 150lbs.  The picture was probably 5 years old. Now, she walked into my room, got into something comfortable and looked ridiculous with everything propped up.  I didn't know what to do, so we talked.  I happened to have had a great conversation with her about sports and liked spending time with her, and wouldn't mind taking her to a football game and to hang out and have a few beers, but definitely, not to bed.

If a provider is difficult to book, she is likely the real deal. I don't mean difficult to book as the provider playing hard to get. I mean if you don't book time with her as soon as her Ad or calendar shows her available, all of her slots will fill and you will be left to wait until next time.

On the accuracy of reviews, pictures and provider descriptions. There is so much money flying around this business that many Independents and agencies are tempted to lie about a provider's age, and looks while working on the assumption that tricked hobbyists will be so horny and have gone through enought to get in the provider's presence that the deal will be completed, even as the hobbyists are turned off by the provider that greets them. During my hobbying life, I have used only one agency that didn't fudge on age, and weight. Looks are subjective, a provider that one hobbyist thinks is smoking can look unattractive to a second hobbyist. Most of the time that I have been surprised, the surprises have been unpleasant, but the two hottest providers that I have bedded visited me after I had to be talked into encounters with them. Both were true 10 level looks, athletic and sleek young beauties who provider me with encounters that I will remember on my dying day.

I think seeing providers is somewhere between your worries - if you look for reviewed women (as you have) and the pictures give you a good idea as to who you will be meeting, it probably will not be disappointing.   Neither I think is there much risk of real addiction.

However I would say that what you get out of it is partly what you can put in (no double entendre intended).  If you find sex with your girlfriend average now, is some of that she is not willing to try something you are interested in, or you are stuck for ideas as to ways to change it up?

You may want to look around for instructional videos on sex, I don't want to seem like a spammer so I'll not mention anything - but you can find review sites online that review instructional materials for sex.

Then, after finding something and going through learning some new ideas, you can try them with a provider to see how well things work out, and bring them back to your girlfriend to spice things up.  It may help you have more mutual fun with both provider and GF.

It's pretty rough finding out just how likely STD transmission is from various things.  Gonorrhea seems possible from what I have read, from either BBBJ or DATY.  Herpes also.  It seems like the risk of something like HIV is really low from either, it's only BBFS that is very risky for that.   But on the other hand there are a lot of people on here who seem to have been doing this a long time, mostly not catching anything.

You will need it when counting out all those twenties!

(Your list has two number 4s)

I am one (like many) who don't like to see younger guys (under 30). But I do have a regular who is very young (college age) and very good looking that lives in a house, so I didn't know when we booked that he would be so young. But, there is something he likes to do that most girls aren't into and so he sees me "on the side" just for that.

That is the best reason to see providers... to get what you are lacking. If you are having regular sex at all with your SO, you are getting more than most of the clients we see. And my god, 4 positions! You are one lucky dude!

You are going to find that intimacy with someone you care about it much more fulfilling than seeing someone who is really only with you because you paid for it. That's just the plain truth. Most guys we see see us because they don't even HAVE that whether they are single, divorced or in a sexless marriage.

Personally, I think you should focus on making the relationship you have better... spend your money on your girlfriend... buy her flowers (not just on special occasions)... rent a hotel room or cabin... take her on a trip... try new positions from the Kama Sutra... make her happy.. thrill her and reap the rewards (women respond to emotional stimulation so stimulate her emotions and the sex will be even better).

Then see providers when she dumps you cuz you cheated on her (or DON"T cheat on her and try to make it work!).