Ah being a newbie, so exciting and so frustrating.  Today, made an appointment to see a well reviewed provider. Set for 11. Drove for 2 hours, was told she will text me directions to her place. Nothing, went ahead for the drive. Text her, was told she needs to screen me. What ¿??.Long story, she can't meet me at the appointed time. I thought that time is a commodity that she should understand well, I guess this happens only one way. Should I make 2 appointments for the same day, just in case one fell through? I don't think the ladies in here would appreciated that. Folks , I am only asking for answers to my question and not comments about my ACTION. You guys can be rough on newbie.

So, this provider made a date and told you to come, then said she hadn't screen you yet?

That is punk, and you ought to forget about her.

But if you went ahead assuming things would work out and they didn't, then you put yourself out for no good reason.

Making two appointments is not the answer (Though many do it, on both sides.)

Instead start over with someone else.  The situation you describe is not the rule, but the exception.

...two hours and THEN get texted directions to her place?  You shouldn't have gone until screening and everything else was confirmed.

I learned after the second time I drove out of the way without confirmation, no confirmation no go. Setting up two appointments and cancelling isn't a good idea. When you cancel, for the lady, it is like how you feel now after you drove all that way and wasted your time. Not to mention she will probably not give you another chance. I try and plan things at least a day or two before hand, especially if you've never met. Gives more time to schedule something else if you don't hear back.

I would not say you should have 2 appointments as that WILL lead to a cancellation on someone. Rather, you should be working on your approach and also building relationships with providers. Obvisouly the screening issue will only come up once with each girl. So eventually you will have your short list of girls you like to see I would imagine and it will all be easier.

That said though in the future know ahead of time that screening is needed. It is discussed here all the time. My personal method is that I almost never book last minute or even same day to see a new woman. Rather I made my list of people I was interested in seeing, I then contacted them all ahead of time with my TER and P411 into and requested to go ahead and get any verification out of the way to make room for future appointments. If any new girls come up I want to see my introduction email includes all of that info in it and my initial topic of discussion is introduction and verification. Only after the verification is done do I worry about scheduling a time slot. This way I don't generally have things come up at the last minute.

To answer your question, no, you shouldnt double book your appts. You dont take it out on a future girl who did nothing wrong to you because of the actions of the girl today. You're angry now and thats understandable. Everyone has been in your shoes.

Best advice I can give is keep your cool which enables you to keep your dignity and your class. You'll find out 95% of the well reviewed women with a great rep dont do this sort of thing. So keep doing what you are learning here, only see well reviewed girls with many reviews and things will turn in your favor over time. You are in for some great times ahead. Dont let this spoil it. The good times in this business far outweigh the bad time you experienced today. Keep your eye on the prize and you'll be fine.

confirmation/directions.  If you don't get that or can't reach her, you can not proceed.  I also was left hanging by a well reviewed provider.   At least you got a reply.  
The lesson is WE need to have a time set for confirmation so we'll have the time we need to get there.   She might not have the room yet...  but she can understand the lead time.  If you don't get the confirmation, don't drive or switch to backup bootie.  
You need to get screened in advance...

That sucks.  Make sure that you tell her upfront that you are driving two hours, so she understands that this is a commitment on your end.

I have no advice other than better communication.  When did you verify the appointment with her?  Did you verify the appointment?  Typically, you should always verify the day of to make sure that everything is still in motion.

Believe me, I learned well from this board and plan a week in advance . Once I got the confirmation of my choice, drove down. Should have listened to my instinct, no text , no go, but thought may be she will do it an hour before for security reasons.  The bright side,  I saved a bundle today

Thanks all for the wonderful advices. On the way home,had time to cool down. Was able to see things clearly, gave the lady her chance to explain. She was sorry and wants to make up. We are all human ,

I'm wondering what her explanation was. I believe it would be useful to share with us what she said. Since this is the newbie board other newbies could gain some insight from the rest of your story and I must admit to some curiosity on my part.

Hoping things go well for you from here on.

My case didn't end well but it was my mistake for starting the drive without knowing.  

With one Fav where I have a couple of hours drive, I call her when I'm leaving home which gives her a better way to gauge my progress.   Once she completely forgot about our date as she had a sudden family emergency out of state.  Glad I did not drive 2 hours before finding that out!

If there's some driving involved, I need to know before I start, a "call point location" typically when I get off the highway, a coffee shop or other landmark & she guides you in from there.  

The case I mentioned in my last post, we were good to go the night before but when I made my morning call to confirm my confirmation & get the call location she wouldn't pickup.  IMHO, that's just wrong.  A polite, 'change of plans' or 'I can't make it' is suffient.  


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This is very unprofessional of her, but always cover your ass. I won't drive even 15 min. without a deposit because of stupid things like this. Make it easier on yourself and have providers to to YOU.

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The times I've done that have met with success & usually quicker than originally expected.

The OP accepted her apology and that's good enough, at least for me, unless he feels compelled to share but since he is a newbie, I think my advice would be to let it be. She might feel that convo is private and it may just open a can of worms for him if she reads this board. Just my 2 cents. (And btw....Shouldn't it be 3 cents by now, with inflation and everything? Lol.)

...just the possibility of a procedure mix up that others could learn from and seek to prevent.