Newbie - FAQ
Hope all you guys read this. Some really good tips here.
Two notes before the actual post starts (think of this like the annoying previews before the movie).
1. This post represents the thoughts of an individual, and not those of a TER board mod, hence the regular handle and not the 'red' one.
2. I used the word males in the title intentionally. Anyone participating in the mentioned behaviors is not a man at all.....and yes...I'd tell you that right to your face anytime.
There's only one part of being a board mod that absolutely sucks. No...it's not the stupid posts, the gossiping, the whining, the backstabbing, the lies, or even the monotony of approving posts.
It's the ugly side of this thing of ours that you get to find out about on an almost daily basis.
The things people bring to you because, as a mod, they either think you should know...think you can help...think you can warn others or all the above. The things you hear about that cover the range from stupid.....to downright scary. The kind of things that can cause you to get jaded, bitter, and flat-out enraged.
So let's cover a few, shall we? 
** If a lady can't see you on the exact day and time that you specify....just take it graciously. Do you really think that responding back in a pissy and condescending manner will improve your chances? Accept that they have lives too and avoid the urge to be a douche and give them a hard time.
** If a lady asks you for screening information for what she feels is her safety....either give it or don't. If you don't want to, then just move on. Bitching about it, or bragging about how important you are with X number of reviews or X number of whitelists won't change anything other than to show what a self-absorbed blowhard you really are.
** Don't be an annoying high-maintenance child.
Your time with the ladies is just that. Your time.
Outside of that time...stop bugging the shit out of them with emails, PMs, texts, and phone calls.
Just because you compensate for the time you are together does NOT mean that you own them in any way shape or form outside of that time.
Like it or not...THEY get to decide if they want to communicate further or not...how much...and when it ends. Deal with it. Just because you have no life and think you're special...doesn't mean it's the same for them.
** Don't think you are 'owed' anything. If you post a review, some shout-outs on Provider Friday, tell a few guys about someone special....the lady still owes you nothing. Stop asking for freebies, or flat-out not paying. You aren't a suburban pimp, agent, marketing director, or talent scout. You're just a scumbag trying to exert power and influence over someone to get free sex, which you think will make you feel better about yourself. All it does is give you a reputation that will soon catch up with you.
** Don't be a crazy stalker douche. Don't think you're cute or smart or better than anyone because you found out a gal's personal information. You're not smart...you're an unbalanced whack-job. Don't try to frighten or intimidate these ladies into doing things by threatening to "out" them. You'd be surprised at how many men will not put up with that kind of behavior and you might just find yourself "outed"...just for starters. It's really not difficult to have your wife, neighbors, parents, church members, and co-workers find out all about you with something as simple as a letter they just find in their mailbox.
If you're doing this, and you know if you are, you need to wise up and stop now.
** Stop hurting these ladies.
No one (but yourself) is impressed when your reviews speak endlessly of 'pounding' relentlessly into orifices.
It doesn't make you a man, stud, or sexual beast to abuse these gals and ignore words like 'no' or 'stop'. It makes you an abuser and a disgusting piece of shit. An envelope does not absolve you or make it any less of an asshole abusing another person.
Once again....you have no idea how many in our community will not put up with this. We've seen this community protect it's own in the past...and there's no reason to believe it will not do so again in the future.
Be smart. Take the hint. If you're doing it...you know who you are...and so do I...and so do others.
Change your behavior before circumstances force you to do so. 'Nuff said.
This thing of ours can, and should be, fun. Like anything else in the human experience, it can be ruined by a few who range from dense to dangerous.
How about we try to minimize the stupid, and eliminate the hurtful......merely by analyzing and altering our behavior. Now..wouldn't that be nice and easy?
Let's all try to have fun out there...and be decent and smart along the way.
Just sayin'
DD
Two notes before the actual post starts (think of this like the annoying previews before the movie).
1. This post represents the thoughts of an individual, and not those of a TER board mod, hence the regular handle and not the 'red' one.
2. I used the word males in the title intentionally. Anyone participating in the mentioned behaviors is not a man at all.....and yes...I'd tell you that right to your face anytime.
There's only one part of being a board mod that absolutely sucks. No...it's not the stupid posts, the gossiping, the whining, the backstabbing, the lies, or even the monotony of approving posts.
It's the ugly side of this thing of ours that you get to find out about on an almost daily basis.
The things people bring to you because, as a mod, they either think you should know...think you can help...think you can warn others or all the above. The things you hear about that cover the range from stupid.....to downright scary. The kind of things that can cause you to get jaded, bitter, and flat-out enraged.
So let's cover a few, shall we?
** If a lady can't see you on the exact day and time that you specify....just take it graciously. Do you really think that responding back in a pissy and condescending manner will improve your chances? Accept that they have lives too and avoid the urge to be a douche and give them a hard time.
** If a lady asks you for screening information for what she feels is her safety....either give it or don't. If you don't want to, then just move on. Bitching about it, or bragging about how important you are with X number of reviews or X number of whitelists won't change anything other than to show what a self-absorbed blowhard you really are.
** Don't be an annoying high-maintenance child.
Your time with the ladies is just that. Your time.
Outside of that time...stop bugging the shit out of them with emails, PMs, texts, and phone calls.
Just because you compensate for the time you are together does NOT mean that you own them in any way shape or form outside of that time.
Like it or not...THEY get to decide if they want to communicate further or not...how much...and when it ends. Deal with it. Just because you have no life and think you're special...doesn't mean it's the same for them.
** Don't think you are 'owed' anything. If you post a review, some shout-outs on Provider Friday, tell a few guys about someone special....the lady still owes you nothing. Stop asking for freebies, or flat-out not paying. You aren't a suburban pimp, agent, marketing director, or talent scout. You're just a scumbag trying to exert power and influence over someone to get free sex, which you think will make you feel better about yourself. All it does is give you a reputation that will soon catch up with you.
** Don't be a crazy stalker douche. Don't think you're cute or smart or better than anyone because you found out a gal's personal information. You're not smart...you're an unbalanced whack-job. Don't try to frighten or intimidate these ladies into doing things by threatening to "out" them. You'd be surprised at how many men will not put up with that kind of behavior and you might just find yourself "outed"...just for starters. It's really not difficult to have your wife, neighbors, parents, church members, and co-workers find out all about you with something as simple as a letter they just find in their mailbox.
If you're doing this, and you know if you are, you need to wise up and stop now.
** Stop hurting these ladies.
No one (but yourself) is impressed when your reviews speak endlessly of 'pounding' relentlessly into orifices.
It doesn't make you a man, stud, or sexual beast to abuse these gals and ignore words like 'no' or 'stop'. It makes you an abuser and a disgusting piece of shit. An envelope does not absolve you or make it any less of an asshole abusing another person.
Once again....you have no idea how many in our community will not put up with this. We've seen this community protect it's own in the past...and there's no reason to believe it will not do so again in the future.
Be smart. Take the hint. If you're doing it...you know who you are...and so do I...and so do others.
Change your behavior before circumstances force you to do so. 'Nuff said.
This thing of ours can, and should be, fun. Like anything else in the human experience, it can be ruined by a few who range from dense to dangerous.
How about we try to minimize the stupid, and eliminate the hurtful......merely by analyzing and altering our behavior. Now..wouldn't that be nice and easy?
Let's all try to have fun out there...and be decent and smart along the way.
Just sayin'
DD
Two notes before the actual post starts (think of this like the annoying previews before the movie).
1. This post represents the thoughts of an individual, and not those of a TER board mod, hence the regular handle and not the 'red' one.
2. I used the word males in the title intentionally. Anyone participating in the mentioned behaviors is not a man at all.....and yes...I'd tell you that right to your face anytime.
There's only one part of being a board mod that absolutely sucks. No...it's not the stupid posts, the gossiping, the whining, the backstabbing, the lies, or even the monotony of approving posts.
It's the ugly side of this thing of ours that you get to find out about on an almost daily basis.
The things people bring to you because, as a mod, they either think you should know...think you can help...think you can warn others or all the above. The things you hear about that cover the range from stupid.....to downright scary. The kind of things that can cause you to get jaded, bitter, and flat-out enraged.
So let's cover a few, shall we?
** If a lady can't see you on the exact day and time that you specify....just take it graciously. Do you really think that responding back in a pissy and condescending manner will improve your chances? Accept that they have lives too and avoid the urge to be a douche and give them a hard time.
** If a lady asks you for screening information for what she feels is her safety....either give it or don't. If you don't want to, then just move on. Bitching about it, or bragging about how important you are with X number of reviews or X number of whitelists won't change anything other than to show what a self-absorbed blowhard you really are.
** Don't be an annoying high-maintenance child.
Your time with the ladies is just that. Your time.
Outside of that time...stop bugging the shit out of them with emails, PMs, texts, and phone calls.
Just because you compensate for the time you are together does NOT mean that you own them in any way shape or form outside of that time.
Like it or not...THEY get to decide if they want to communicate further or not...how much...and when it ends. Deal with it. Just because you have no life and think you're special...doesn't mean it's the same for them.
** Don't think you are 'owed' anything. If you post a review, some shout-outs on Provider Friday, tell a few guys about someone special....the lady still owes you nothing. Stop asking for freebies, or flat-out not paying. You aren't a suburban pimp, agent, marketing director, or talent scout. You're just a scumbag trying to exert power and influence over someone to get free sex, which you think will make you feel better about yourself. All it does is give you a reputation that will soon catch up with you.
** Don't be a crazy stalker douche. Don't think you're cute or smart or better than anyone because you found out a gal's personal information. You're not smart...you're an unbalanced whack-job. Don't try to frighten or intimidate these ladies into doing things by threatening to "out" them. You'd be surprised at how many men will not put up with that kind of behavior and you might just find yourself "outed"...just for starters. It's really not difficult to have your wife, neighbors, parents, church members, and co-workers find out all about you with something as simple as a letter they just find in their mailbox.
If you're doing this, and you know if you are, you need to wise up and stop now.
** Stop hurting these ladies.
No one (but yourself) is impressed when your reviews speak endlessly of 'pounding' relentlessly into orifices.
It doesn't make you a man, stud, or sexual beast to abuse these gals and ignore words like 'no' or 'stop'. It makes you an abuser and a disgusting piece of shit. An envelope does not absolve you or make it any less of an asshole abusing another person.
Once again....you have no idea how many in our community will not put up with this. We've seen this community protect it's own in the past...and there's no reason to believe it will not do so again in the future.
Be smart. Take the hint. If you're doing it...you know who you are...and so do I...and so do others.
Change your behavior before circumstances force you to do so. 'Nuff said.
This thing of ours can, and should be, fun. Like anything else in the human experience, it can be ruined by a few who range from dense to dangerous.
How about we try to minimize the stupid, and eliminate the hurtful......merely by analyzing and altering our behavior. Now..wouldn't that be nice and easy?
Let's all try to have fun out there...and be decent and smart along the way.
Just sayin'
DD