but I'm going to suggest that you really should.

After you do, you can use TER as a guide to find the person you want to see.

The Review section has a "Search Reviews" page in which their are filters for all types of things such as location, appearance, activities, and even price.  There are many fine gals available for as low as $250 an hour.

The filters will give you a list of gals which you can then click on each and see their profiles, reviews and even their websites if they have one.

I've used it several times with excellent results.

As for experience, I would see someone who is newbie friendly, and can lead you into this rapturous world.  That's usually, but not always, a more mature woman.

Welcome and I hope your experience is wonderful.

Ok, so yes, I am unfortunate enough to still be a virgin.  I am not that old I guess, I am about to finish up college and have been so busy concentrating on academics and trying to get into law school (yes I know, how ironic to be in law school and on this site).  However, I have been thinking more and more about just hiring an escort.  I do not have much time to go out and meet girls, and definitely do not want to be in a relationship at this point in my life.  I am also pretty shy/self conscious and have been wondering if this might be a reasonable option for me?

I have done a fair amount of research but still do have some questions that some of the reviewers/providers might be able to help me out with. 1) How much should I be willing to spend on a decent/safe escort?  Im not poor by any means, but I am a college student and will be paying for my own grad school...

2) I obviously understand there is some std risk, but I was wondering if someone could give me some sort of example of what the risk is?

3) Where should I be looking?  I have checked backpage but most of the girls are not reviewed on this site and I obviously would never go with an unreviewed for my first time (even though it always seems like the unreviewed are the hottest, coincidence? doubt it lol).

4) Would it be in my best interest to inform the girl of my extreme inexperience?  Would they be more likely to be sympathetic?  Or take advantage and laugh at me?

I know these are probably stupid questions to most, but any answers/advice would be greatly appreciated as I am pretty nervous about the whole prospect.  Thanks!

for being willing to take the plunge and trying to do it the right way.  Based on your questions I don't think you've used TER effectively to get as much info as possible.  If you read the entire Self-Help center and go back for many pages on this board, most questions will be answered.  Having said that, here's my take on the ones you asked.
1) The is no definitive answer on the price question.  If depends on where you live and what you want.  Having said that, there's no reason to spend more than $300 for an hour with a well-reviewed gal.
2) With a well reviewed gal there's probably less risk of STDs but no one can reduce the risk to zero.  Certainly, by avoiding uncovered sex of  any kind and not kissing you will minimize the risk.  Obviously, you also will minimize your pleasure but that's your decision to make.  There are many risks in this sport on many levels.  If they become too important you should not play.
3)  Backpage can provide good providers but the risk is higher than if you stick to girls who are reviewed on TER.  Many traveling providers who are listed on TER will also run ads on Backpage, so try to find one of those.  And, no, unreviewed gals are not "the hottest."  Sorry, there's no corelation.
4) It's probably not a bad idea to tell the gal about your inexperience.  It will inevitably become clear to her anyway, so take the pressure off yourself, tell her, and relax (to the extent possible!).  I suggest telling her in an e-mail AFTER you've already made the date.  You could say, for example, "I just wanted to share with you that I am very inexperienced and will need some kind guidance.  I hope you feel comfortable with that."  No decent provider will laugh at you.  All the more reason to see a well-reviewed girl.
Best of luck to you!

First you have done you homework . Great, will save you a few bucks
Like I said you are not alone . I am a fit , good looking , intelligent 45 year old . Shy ? Yep........" Nice guy " ....Yep .........After 20 sexless years I considered myself a virgin . Struggled with the decision and looked at it this way ........It is buisness . It would take more than $300 and a bunch of drama to even THINK about getting a hottie in the sack in the civie world .
MAYBE , perhaphs your age alone MAY make it more difficult . Youth is not on your side LOL . No doubt you can't hide it - don't even try. Be a complete gentleman in your communication is paramount , I think you will do fine it that arena. Myself , I would wait until she accepts your " date " before mentioning . Thats me .........I thought I had " hinted " eneough of my needing guidance but looking back - I didn't . I will be seeing her again and this time I will be more direct . Hell I admit it, I suck !
I even had a mental roadblock to orgasm . Was NOT expecting that at all !!!!  She smiled at it all but I can only imagine what went through her mind the next day - I am going to put my ego aside and make another date with her . Again it's a buisness and I need some direction .
Good luck , hope I helped.......
Hope some ladies will chime in .....

I was a lonely college grad and couldn't hold a girl friend.

I think the hobby gave me some experience and confidence to go on and meet women, eventually marrying one for better or worse.

I don't suggest getting in over your head emotionally or financially, but a little lovin' can really help straighten things out done right.

OK, so you have a penchant for hotties on Backpage. Well, we've got a phrase for that. It's called "thinking with the little head" You'll need to start thinking more with the "big head"
To start, if you insist on BP as a source, always google  the phne #.  Then always use tineye.com to verify the photos. Many here,  will critize you for shopping on BP, but I use it all the time and have had great success. Of course I always do the research before making the date. Other escort mall sites you might try are cityvibe and eros. Same caveat, be careful, do your homework and you should be fine. Just remember if it seems TGTBT it usally is. Good luck

AS A NEWBIE, I would not recommend seeing anyone other then a well reviewed provider for two reasons:

1) taking your chances on BP runs the risk of getting stung by LE, even with tineye and google as tools

2) well reviewed ladies on TER are much less likely to upsell or rip you off.

I have never had a bad experience sticking with well reviewed TER ladies and I am certain you will not either if you follow these suggestions.


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Thanks for all the input.  Definitely made my decision easier.  As far as VIP goes, no, I don't have it yet but was planning on it once I fully committed to this process.  And I already discovered that google will most likely be my second best friend in this process (besides ter of course).  Thought of a couple more questions if you guys dont mind answering.  How many reviews should a girl have to be considered reputable and dependable??  And do girls often see many guys in the same day?  or one right after the other??  Just curious...
Thanks again!

Your first time will be short and to the point.  After that, how long it takes you to recover and be ready again, and will your lady be accepting of that is a good question.  With the right girl, booking another appointment very soon after the first will be a good investment.  The nervous energy will dissipate and you will be able to relax and enjoy the experience more.  Consider choosing a more experienced woman - someone 30+.  She is likely to be more patient, gentle and understanding.  Ask her to teach you - I'll bet she will be happy to.  Just my thoughts.  Be open and accepting (of yourself and your partner) and you will be fine.  Everyone goes through it sooner or later!

This topic has been discussed ad nauseam on this board.  There is divided opinion, but most posters have argued that this hobby is not appropriate for young, single men like yourself.  If you do hire an escort(s), be sure that you don't get too obsessed and neglect your health and education.  Dr. Alexa Albert in her book "Brothel: Mustang Ranch and its Women" describes the sad case of one young man who became so obsessed with escorts that he damaged his career and let his weight increase dangerously.  Furthermore, don't expect that any experiences you have with an escort, will help you later in dating civilian women.  You will have to unlearn most of what you learn in this hobby.

First,welcome to TER this is a great place for discussions and searching for the right lady for you.Since,you described you do not have the time to engage in a relationship or go out and meet ladies TER is the palce for you.Find a lady here no-strings attached and have a great time without all of the issues of a relationship or casual dating.I also would suggest investing in VIP membership.With VIP you will be able to search for any ladies in your city or other cities if you travel.You can search by rate,body type,etc.This will help you out.Go with a well-reviewed lady.That is where VIP comes in handy again because you can read the reviews of the ladies you are interested in to get an idea of the lady.

I suggest advising any lady you contact to let her know you are a newbie there are ladies whom are newbie friendly and some that are not.Some ladies may indicate this on their websites and/or ads.There is no reason for a lady to laugh at you because you are a newbie us ladies and guys have all been new at some point in time.I also would recommend looking at a few of the verification sites P411 or Date-Check they can verify you then you can search for newbie friendly ladies on those sites in a specific city.Or you can cross-reference the newbie friendly providers on those sites and see if they have reviews here.All of the questions yo asked are legitimate questions and not stupid.

Good luck!You are about to embark on a mind-blowing ride as long as you do your research!
Jaydalee

Hey, I just saw my first escort yesterday and it was great. I'm not a virgin or nearly as young as you, but it cost me $300 for one hour incall. $250-$300 seems posssible for you. Take your time and read this TER site. Do the research and go with a well reviewed provider. My gal was awesome and actually gave me me tips on how to be safe, etiquette etc. I spent 3-4 months just reading comments here and these guys seem to have covered all the questions. Be polite and honest about your inexperience and have fun!

and enjoy yourself....

should throughly read & understand the self-help section (under the life ring at the top right).  It's invalueable & it's FREE!
Then you should read back on this board until you can answer every question yourself (no peeking).  This is also FREE.
Then you should find the most recent reviews, learn to scan by area code & location nearest you.  Read the profile, the ads, the links.
Read your local Regional board...  Yup, all FREE!!

Now you are ready to get VIP & read the full reviews.  Just having reviews does not mean they are good ones!  Some are warnings!   A well reviewed lady has 6-10 reviews and at least some of the reviewers are experienced reviewers...  10 or more reviews themselves.  

This is a secret world, 007.  You never tell anyone (outside of these boards) what goes on.  Not your brother, your best friend, a GF, or even the person you will marry someday.  You can say you had GFs before.  You never tell how long they were your GFs for.

A bit of sexual experience is a great confidence builder and a stress reliever if you are civie dating (as you will and should want to at some point).  If you are not HORNY out of your mind, it relieves that stress so you can actually get to know a woman before jumping into bed.

Now a bit of warning...  it is very easy to fall for any woman you have great sex with.  It's hormonal!  You must control this & the knowledge will again stand you in good stead in the civie world.  (I'd have been much better off to have been hobbying than my first marriage...  and I swear that MY hormones kicked in I fell for the EX & she cleaned me out!)   I recommend NOT serial meeting with a single provider (too esy to fall for them) I DO fall a bit for the lady I'm with...  right up until I see another of my Favorites.  I rotate a small number, currently 3.

I still recommend you use a separate email and hobby phone.  If you can afford to play, you can afford this.  When / if you meet someone, you can leave the hobby & not have to worry about tracks you have left.  
Well this should give you something to do.
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Re how many reviews, it depends.  For a newbie, I'd say at least 10.  For someone more experienced, it still depends.  For example, is she an indy or with a reputable agency?  I just saw a great gal last night who had no reviews but is with a top agency.  Good enough for me, and she was terrific.  I reviewed her and it was posted in less than 24 hours.
As for how many guys a gal sees in a day, it also depends.  Some BP girls are like revolving doors.  More expensive, TER gals see fewer but you can't simply put a number on it.  Hint:  do NOT ask a provider how many guys she sees.  You don't need to know and it's intrusive.  There are some guys who get off on this kind of information, as if it's masturbation material.  It's a good way to have a date end quickly or go downhill  fast.

Thanks guys, definitely been helpful.  I'll for sure invest in VIP soon.

A virgin newbie. Make sure you find somebody who is good with first timers. I love any kind of meeting and first times are usually lovely and your never forrgotten. I think from what i've ggrasped so far on this forum if you pay for a membership then you can read all the reviews and make your mind up based on those...... That said im a hot uk girl (lol) on my way to the big US so obviously i have no reviews yet but that doesn't always mean too good to be true HAHA. Good luck on your search honey and I hope you have an amazing time

Casey xx

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Hi Hiddenhills, excuse my ignorance again lol but what is tinyeye.com for and when you say google the nummber do you mean google  the ladies number? and if so I take it that it's possible when i move to get an unregistered pay and go sim so that my real name isn't attached to cause surely if somebody googled it and it was an account phone then all the ladies personal details come up no!!!!! sorry more questions from this little newbie


Thanks Casey xx

i am a virgin and the provider i want to see has a rate of $800. is that fine or for my first time should i go for something lower?