So if you find a provider on BP or some such or if you find a provider here on TER and it is not clear what services she provides how do you go about finding out?  I saw lots of ads where providers say they will not discuss services.  And please don't give me the just read the reviews on TER line.

... besides TER profiles and reviews (which I find very helpful in this regard) are to PM reviewers if you have questions about their experiences, and P411 profiles.  Also many providers will mention some services on their web sites, eg whether massage is offered as a separate (possibly lower-cost service), whether they like threesomes and couples, and whether they do Greek (may use euphemisms like "Greek goddess").

If he's using an alias or if he hasn't written any reviews.

But this poster could use his handle to send questions to reviewers.

This is the Newbie Board however, where replies should allow a little more leeway to inquiries than on other boards.

Chiguy

NYE and I are perfect examples of this. If I got a PM from NYE asking for info, I would almost certainly respond as his alias has a history on the boards. By the same token if I reach out to someone for some backchannel information I couldn't imagine anyone not responding because I have no reviews,  but I will concede, "in general" I don't respond to requests for information that is not already public from any alias I don't know well or any "yellow envelope" with no history.

Ask her when you see her. Most of the time when I ask a provider in person she'll tell me what she can and can't do. From the things she can't do, when I see her enough times she'll usually do those things.

specific rules I need to be aware of?

Years ago I saw a provider who, when I nibbled on her ear, said "please don't do that". OK. Then "What else do I need to know?"

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I would first ask what's on the menu. If discreet may say everything covered or refer to my website if she has one. She may even rather discuss in person. It is very, very important to discuss the menu prior to providing the donation. Some girls will become a different time person when you give them money. Make sure you become familiar with the abbreviated terms for menu items such as bbbj meaning bare back blow job, Greek meaning anal etc...

Your best bet is to buy VIP for a month and read over her reviews. The juicy details section is usually pretty in-depth. You could also see if she has a P411, as they do have services listed on there as well.

Thanks I already have it.  I am asking about providers who aren't on TER/P411.

So it's already a given that the OP is a VIP member.

Personally, I think the OP would be better off asking these kind of questions under his "real fake name" as opposed to an alias as MANY members here are loath to answer questions like this to someone completely unknown.

I try to be helpful to many people in the hobby, but I prefer to know who I am communicating with and not giving specific information to some one using an alias. General inquires I would be happy to respond, but specifics probably not.  That's a choice I make becauase I like to know who I am dealing with.

Is to stick with ladies that are at least on TER and hopefully on p411.  I've been using the TER/p411 combination for a few years now and every session I've had using these together has been very good with no downside surprises.  It'll take a bit of research on your end but in the end it is well worth it.

My process is quite simple.  If I see a provider ad on TER that appeals to me I'll check out her profile.  From there I can determine what she looks like, what services she offers and of course I can read the reviews.  The numbers are some help but what I really like are the written parts of the reviews.  Much information can be gleaned from them that can't be explained in the looks/service numbers ratings.

I also look to see if that provider has a presence on p411.  If she does not I'll usually only visit ladies who are both on TER & p411.  I guess there is nothing wrong with not being on p411, but the ladies I've seen from there who are also on TER have been very professional in their communication, being on time, and delivering services as they are listed on their TER profile page.

I guess we all have to find what works for best.  TER/p411 has been easy to use and has produced results.  Im not saying this is the only way, I'm just giving you what worked for me.

Wish you all the best in your hobbying.!!!