I was wondering exactly what massage privates to privates means?

Is it like rubbing your cock between the girls pussy lips?  And do most providers let you with your bare cock?  I wouldn't see a problem as long as you don't enter her.

Im really into this and would like to know what others thought and if it were safe.

I've never heard of anyone using a condom for that, but I've been wrong before. If I am going to rub my vagina on a guy's c*ck, I may as well offer BBFS, because contraction is on contact, NOT when the shit goes inside you...you were saying that would not be a problem? LOL, ok.  Last time I checked, precum was a bodily fluid that could get you infected and pregnant...no thanks. The risk is much higher with genital contact, than oral sex...always has been, and always will be. The CDC website is the expert opinion, and should be your best friend.

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so I suspect it is misunderstood by some reviewers.  It is really fun for a true GF in a monogamous relationship...  not so much for hobbiest.

Most of us know that's not safe and actually really don't like it when clients do that. It's usually accompanied by a quick wiggle away and a mental note to watch him.

PSA y'all

From my experience it's always been with the girl on top. Since in that position she has total control of the tempo and angle of stimulation of her clit, it can be a great way for her to get off. Only done it with wife, girlfrend and 2 ATFs. It can be risky like others have said without a condom; so you need to think twice before attempting it - especially with a provider.

since the last TER poll said 56% against, 43% for (I think).

You could say "the majority of us" but definitely not "most of us".

Wouldn't the majority of us be most of us?

I can very confidently say as a provider who talks to many others, that while it may feel good, many know the risks and are very uncomfortable when a client does stuff like that. Lots of times it's accidental contact that gets misconstrued, and it gets put in a review regardless of the girls intentions. Are there some girls who do it anyways? Sure, but they've decided that the risk level is ok for them.

That's what brought me here to look it up. I was with a provider who - yes - was rubbing up on my cock with her pussy in order to get me harder. Yes, it was a huge risk. But I'd gone down on her, seen her pussy up close and gone DATY (very clean and tasty - but of course that's not a conclusive test). She must've felt the risk was low since she'd been up close and personal doing a BBBJ on me. I don't feel so worried, but you better believe I'm getting tested.