While i would not consider myself a newbie , recently had something come up haven't experienced before and would welcome others input !! Have come across a situation where provider required a deposit for a multi hour date , and a bit hesitant ! She will be touring my city , requires payment thru green dot to secure said date . Never have been asked , or had to in past , wondering what others thoughts may be ?

I receive a few dozen thousand dollar+ deposits annually.

The unlisted/linked deposit page which I direct clients who are planning multiple hour/multi day appointments to is very clear about my intent.

If I am spending time with a man professionally and I request a deposit to secure the time I will follow through with our plans 100% of the time or refund the deposit in its entirety (which has never had to happen yet, thankfully).
I take my professional reputation very seriously- a deposit is not to "get over" on the client, its to ensure I'm not abused.

You may hear answers that say never send deposits and that is fine.  But its entirely up to you as an individual- can you afford a loss?  How much communication have you had with the individual you're supposed to spend a time with? What is her reputation like?  Does she appear to value her professional reputation? etc.


I've had clients who have never met me before and never read a single review send me thousands of dollars in advance.  Why?  Because they communicated with me, read my website and had a great sense of what I'm about.

You have to take it down to a very base level- slow down, communicate at length with your intended provider and see how she strikes you.

Some providers have no interest in holding general incall, throwing it down to the masses and waiting with a "maybe I'll be out of $1k, $1500 for this tour, maybe I won't" attitude.  Some girls make sure that every single base is covered prior to touring.  I'm not that sort but I do require deposits for 6+ hours, overnights and multiple days and I must say, I've never had a single inquiry for any of these appointments say "no, I won't provide that".

Good luck!

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I do not see what the big deal would be as long as you checked review (and the reviewer's reviews) to make sure she will deliver. She is just making sure you will keep appointment.

Too many things can and do happen in this world of ours.  You get ill...she gets ill...she gets a better paying john..and so on.

Pay ONLY when you walk in the room...and she is the gal in the pics.  Otherwise...turn around and walk back out...with your money.

Way too many fish in this sea.  Find one that plays within your comfort zone.

Plenty of stories on these boards that you can read about paying in advance (do a search and educate yourself)...and most of them turn out badly.  But you could be the exception  LOL

reviews and ask around by PM about her credibility.

I always required deposits for MH dates, as taking that much time out of your schedule (usually overnights and weekends) and then suffering a cancellation can really mess up one's financial planning. I haven't as yet toured, but I can imagine that it would be a similar situation.

Although I have never done it, I cant say I never would. There are a few, make that VERY few women I would even remotely consider dropping down a deposit for. It really comes down to your own personal "bucket list" and where she ranks on that list. If she is one of those two or three girls you just HAVE to see before you pass, I'd say go for it.

as you can see already providers viewpoint is much different than clients ! I'm a bit cautious , i do check reviews , ect, so i wouldn't say i haven't educated myself ! Still , comes down to you are taking a risk in sending a deposit to someone you haven't met yet ! Taking a chance on this one , has my full attention and hoping for the desired outcome , a nice dinner /desert type of date !! Not sure if she'll deliver , if so bad review and i'm thru , stick with the friends i know ! Hope for the best ..

Bluepillman  hit it on the head !! You win the prize big guy, while i do feel i'm taking a chance , this is one i want to meet ! Life is short , won't be end of world !!

If you can't trust her with a petty deposit, I would not suggest putting your raw dog in her mouth. Most deposits are to ensure you don't cancel when we block off so much time, and miss out on another call, so if you can't guarantee a meeting, don't bother booking in the first place.

It's comical how many cancelations we get when there is no deposit, and how few when we have even a mere 100 bucks from a guy as a deposit. Coincidence, that he never "gets called to work" when giving a deposit? I don't think so.

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Yes, thank you lol! Fk you CPA!

Thanks Julia, pretty logical answer ! Sometimes gentlemen think with their little head , i sent deposit !! lol

LOL, thanks London, Good logical answer !! I sent deposit .

I would never EVER pay in advance.  Not even for you sweetie.

And I only do 2 hour minimums...more often longer.

And no hooker has ever suggested a deposit....fortunately for her.  Otherwise she missed out on a date with CPA.

Posted By: JuliasLilSecret

LOL!  

Listen, if I am going to block three hours or more off of my schedule for you, you are going to give me a deposit to do this because I am not going to risk the loss of another meeting if you decide to cancel for whatever reason.  I'll risk an hour for you, no problem.  But 3 hours or more, I'm not taking that chance if I don't know you REALLY well.  

So, if you don't know her well enough or believe in her reputation enough to determine that you can trust her with a deposit, then you should probably go with an hour meeting to establish a comfortable connection before you book that multi-hour date with her.

Good luck to you!!  

How the gal doesn't reply to your emails...or texts.

Should have read the other stories pal.

Of course the hookers are going to tell you to "send that deposit"..."you can trust us"  LOL

Good luck...I'm afraid you're going to need it.  And just to answer your crying in a week...it's gone and you won't get it back.  Move along and find hookers that don't have the audacity to think that getting upfront money in an illegal venture is a good way to operate.

And then you too can answer the next newbie who asks the question you did.  And yet tell another story of "why I would never ever EVER pay in advance".

Ordinarily NO!  For an hour or 2, NO!  
But London hit the balance point.  This is actually pretty reasonable.  4 hours, a long dinner date or overnight...  one is asking her to clear her schedule which would be a serious $$$ hit if you no show.  
If she is well reviewed & the deposit proportional, it makes sense.  Now, I'd never book an extended date with someone I'd not spent time with already.
HV

That he still has time to write that loss off for his 2012 tax return! lol

Lol!!

2 hours on the first date.  Regardless of how well you check reviews, sometimes two great people just don't click.  Imagine spending 3 hours with someone you don't have chemistry with.

I have done very few extended dates (3, 4 or more hours) but only with ladies who I have great chemistry.

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I guess i have been lucky in who i have met , See your point, just hasn't been happened to me yet ! Almost all of my first meetings are dinner/desert extended dates and have all been awesome ! I'm talking 8, 10 times , its nice to get to know a provider a bit and it really pays off after dinner!! Just been extremely selective and yeah lucky too !! But your point is well taken !!

Not for everyone, but it weeds out the lames, and I never have my time wasted.  I would never go back to taking huge risks & having flakes waste your time, or my $ with out of pocket expences.  Never again!

Thanks Madame Patricia for you input as well, Already did !! Would seem to express the gentleman's commitment and true desire to see a provider !! Also speaks to the quality of who you intend to see !