Hi,

I am about to take the plunge into the hobby.  Everything is set up and she's well reviewed both in quality and quantity.  I expect her to want to check my ID.  Can I ask for hers?  Not that I care what her real name is but more that I am exposed and could be  blackmailed by her to tell on me but there's no threat of the other way if I don't ID her.  I ask all of you so I don't make a fool of myself on the day and start the it off badly.

Thanks

Well reviewed ladies don't need to see your ID if they have verified you.  

You can ask to see their ID but I wouldn't bother. If you are worried about being blackmailed, maybe you should just stay home.

Sticking with well reviewed ladies is the key. Take a shower, fresh breath, try to be relaxed, be on time.

Have fun!

I'll let all others explain why. But trust me on this one

...It wouldn't get things off to a good start and could end them suddenly.  

Has she stated she would want to see your ID upon arrival? I know some do but many don't. There are many here that will tell you don't show yours if she isn't willing to show hers. Their reasons are as you stated. It would be simple to cover the address and Lic # but let her see that the name is the one you gave her and the picture is you.

If she has many reviews and the reviewers have reviewed many providers there shouldn't be any concern about her being legit. Legit providers aren't likely to cause you problems. It's bad for business. Just be sure you don't give her reason to have to use you info in an adverse way. Be sure to follow her instructions about how she wants the donation handled. Be clean, be courteous, don't try to go beyond her boundaries, and there shouldn't be anything for concern.

Unless she has already said she would ask for ID I wouldn't be concerned. Don't offer it.

No you should not ask nor expect to view your providers ID. Providers use " stage " names for a reason. Your due diligence is in reviewing and screening your provider through her reviews....overall history and presence within reputable sites. If you do your homework your risk of drama should be greatly reduced. Guarenteed if you ask to see her ID she will leave.

And even if she was willing to do it..don't even count on that ID  to be real, providers can be blackmailed too. If you are concerned about blackmail then you are not doing your homework, well established and reputable providers will never ever have the slightest thought pertaining to that horrible behavior because we have a lot at stake as well ( school, a real job, kids, a family etc). Yes there has been some bad apples to whom we have to thank the fact that some guys may not be willing to reveal their personal info but keep in mind that asking for ID is not an abnormal procedure,  it is more common than you think actually.

A vast majority of providers use a professional name.  This is to protect them.  Respect that.

I will follow your advice and not bring it up.  I am grateful to you all for replying and saving me from ruining a night.

You don't need to see her ID.  She's not going to show it to you anyway because she doesn't want you to know her real name

Thanks.  I was only concerned because she knows my real name but I don't know hers but I am going to listen to all of you and follow your advice.