When I'm with someone for the first time, my primary objective is that both of us enjoy the session. Most providers ususally focus on satisfying the client - ie, his "getting off". Many find it refreshing when it is made clear that my main focus is their enjoying the session as well. The best way I know to gage if they are "getting off" is if the session extends well beyond the time the client has paid for. For all providers, time is money. I have had encounters in which the session ran well over the allloted time by as much as 30 minutes without the provider mentioning extra pay. For all providers, time is money. Doubtful this would happen if provider is not enjoying session. This is not uncommon if the provider is an indy; never happens with agency girls.
I want to get my provider off. Do they really get off ever? Or do they always fake it? How do I explain to my provider that I don't want her to fake it? How do I really get her off? What about vibrators? Should I tell her to bring her favorite vibrator?
Hobbyist, and Provider input is appreciated.
Some do some don't. Some do sometimes and not other times and some just won't even consider allowing it to happen. One thing's for sure, if you TELL your provider you want her to get off she will certainly oblige you by putting on a very good act.
The first thing you need to realize s that, prior to a first meeting, you are not going to tell her anything. If you even try she will probably hang up on you. If you hit it off and you decide to see her again then sure, mention toys or anything you like.
My ATF has three or four orgasms on every visit. One of my other regulars has at least a couple on every visit as well. My two or three times a year Jersey girl is only good for one but it's freaking earth shattering! Now, that's three that I know have orgasms. There have been several others that did, many that I was unsure of and many more who either faked it or didn't even bother to fake it.
Some ladies will allow themselves to relax and enjoy the sex and some simply never will. If you keep hobbying long enough you will run into a fair amount of both.
Even those who do, do not every time nor with every activity or position. Probably less often on the first meeting because there is a trust & relax issue.
I like to please my ladies... I am like the motor... but they are the driver. If they can & do cum I'm pleased. If they don't then, that has to be ok. Kind of like real life.
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I only hobby about 5 to 7 times per year and do so mostly with repeat providers. There's actually one local girl I have seen at least once per year for over 7 years! I have found that this creates a "no strings attached" chemistry and bond which enhances the experience for both of us.
Just this past week I saw a girl who only comes to my area about once every two years. She is an incredible woman and we trade e-mails about 3 times per year. I spent 4 hours with her this time - I came 3 times and she came twice. Other times she has cum more than me. It just depends on her level of horniness. The common thread is that she takes me to a place of escape and I do so for her as well. It doesn't happen all the time, but if you can find a local provider and form a bond it will make each session better. It helps that we both are very attracted to each other and have a lot in common. I also make her laugh a lot. I also keep an appropriate distance and don't smother her with e-mails or always try to stay in touch. She usually reaches out to me. One time she actually called me and asked for a ride to the airport and I did so just as a friend doing a favor for another friend.
During our recent session I brought some music with me with wine and fruit and scented candles. I took control and set the scene. I sang to her - I'm lucky that I have a good voice and sang two songs she has never heard before, but made her melt into my arms. When then slow danced and made out for about 20 minutes. This got her so fucking hot! The point is that I take my time. She came once while I performed oral on her and the next time while we were in missionary.
A trick I have learned (and it's tough to do) is to take my time and don't rush it. Women love this. For example, when she came in missionary this last time, I only put my penis in her about an inch for about 5 minutes. I then pulled out, rubbed her clit and made out with her. I then went back to slow insertion again, pulled out and went to performing oral on her. After about 20 minutes of toying with her she could not take it anymore and demanded I fuck her hard. I obliged and she came within two minutes of full stroking her. So much so that I came too while she was just finishing her tremors. I cannot describe the feeling of a mutual orgasm, but I have had about 10 over the past 5 years with providers. IT'S THE BEST.
So, my advice is slow down, build chemistry, romance her and "mix it up". Even if she doesn't cum, which still happens to me at times, she will appreciate the effort and pay you back by still making you blow your wad!
since we aren't her, and for all we know she is very good at faking. By the same token, she could come but not want to reveal that fact.
So, here is my solution to the question:
If you think she came, she came. If you don't think she came, she didn't.
And finally, if you're not sure, you will have a mystery on your hands that you can either spend eternity on, or drop the matter. I suggest the latter.
I do enjoy dining and really like it when I can get them off. Even though the date is spsd to be about me, I enjoy it when they get off. I do see one provider that gets off in intercourse almost every time we are together, but I think that is unusual.
Swim
I actually can't think of a single orgasm from a provider during penetration that I can be sure wasn't fake. The orally induced ones OTOH, are very real...one of my favorites was a Brazilian girl I used to see years ago who would wrap her leg around my head as she was getting close to cumming and pull my face in closer to her clit. Mmmmm.....
Most of my clients are very thoughtful and make sure that when they leave, we both are happy!
I love to get off, or I wouldn't be here! I am easily excited and really good at showing anyone half willing how to please me... or to simply please myself for him.
Ask her! She will show you, tell you... I think most Providers are the same as I am... we love it, or we would not be here...
You are the kind of guy we all hope for =)
Xoxo,
Renaissance Dawn
Hobbyist, and Provider input is appreciated.
Some do very often, some hardly ever. It is much too complex to pidgeon hole with a simple answer.
Yes, I have been with some ladies who I assure you came. Others might have, I am not sure. Some I know did not. It is a little bit about you, a little about her, and a lot about how the two of you match. Is what you enjoy doing the same as what she enjoys.
Yes women are multiple orgasm equipped but the fact is she might not want to get off or there might not be enough time during a session and her focus is on you.
She might have five other appts that day or none at all. She might have just had someone treat her delicate lady parts roughly and she might be hurting (she's probably not going to tell you that as it spoils the GFE illusion).
One of the worst things I have ever had a guy say to me is "Did you fake it"? I read a review once where a guy stated he could tell when a woman gets off because she had sweat on her back or something like that. Each of us is different and no woman orgasms the same way! Wow that guy was a freaking genius and could tell? BS.
No matter what you say you want....our desire is to get you off and for you to have a good experience.
I try but I rarely get off myself-I usually save that for private, personal time. Don't be offended if we don't. Sometimes, we just don't.
FYI: please read my review.....I offer quality, honest to goodness MULTIPLE O'S!
I promise. 
Love, Brooke
When I'm with someone for the first time, my primary objective is that both of us enjoy the session. Most providers ususally focus on satisfying the client - ie, his "getting off". Many find it refreshing when it is made clear that my main focus is their enjoying the session as well. The best way I know to gage if they are "getting off" is if the session extends well beyond the time the client has paid for. For all providers, time is money. I have had encounters in which the session ran well over the allloted time by as much as 30 minutes without the provider mentioning extra pay. For all providers, time is money. Doubtful this would happen if provider is not enjoying session. This is not uncommon if the provider is an indy; never happens with agency girls.