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It's very low class because inevitably clients will cross in the hall or elevator.  Plus you should need time...  to have a snack, wash up, use the toilet & shower often.  Inevitably, getting the client dressed & out the door will run over.  If you plan an hour in between, you have a cushion to run over a few minutes, do what you need to do & be relaxed when the next guy arrives on time.  

I know, sometimes stuff happens but it's not a crisis if you have time to deal with it.  There may be scenerios....  like you are not ready & it's wise to have a plan.  Like ask the next client to wait at the coffee shop for 10.  

Another thing to plan for & hope it never happens...  if you have a bad client & you decide for your own safety that the appointment is over.   If you have to refund part or all of the money to get him to leave, that's a bargain.  As a last resort, grab your clothes & your phone & lock yourself in the bathroom.  

A last thought...  What would you do if a client has a medical emergency (heart attack) in your presence?  Having a plan could make the difference between life & death for somebody.  I suggest call 9-1-1 & the front desk EMS will need to get in.  Provide first aid to the best of your ability until EMS arrives.   Unlock the door.  Get some clothes on if you can.  Once EMS arrives, bolt for the bathroom as above.    

I had a Fav lady have asthma attack while I was there...  she used her inhaler but I stayed until she was ok.  

Problems are much less so if you have planned out some options before you need to.  

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I just made the decision to become a provider in the L.A area..I'm doing research and trying to understanding how to make hobbyist comfortable enough to work with me considering the fact that I do not have any reviews because I have not yet had a date..I am trying to remain positive..Any ideas to gain trust..i.e Skype call before scheduling date..any ideas are appreciated  

Info about me:
29
Curvy
Black/Dominican
Hazel Eyes

Besos and Blessings,

Carmen

Do you have a website? You might want to start marketing yourself on LA AD Board. No need to do Skype. Most guys won't skype with you anyway. They are either married, or they will thing you are LE.  

Learn how to screen the clients. You will need access to P411 or Date Check websites. You will also initially have to pay for VIP membership here to use the PM feature. If you don't know how to do this already, please get a mentor or join a reputable agency. If you do the latter, make sure that they are not taking advantage of you in any shape or form.  

Use the life saver link on the top right labeled "Self Help Center". Its a great place to start.  

Once guys see you and you have a session, ask to be reviewed. After getting a few positive reviews, you will have no problem gaining business as long as you keep your reputation.  

Good luck..

Hi CurlyW..thank you for the reply and valuable tips...I have not set up a website but I am seeing that it is a very good idea to make one...I am learning a lot from you all just responding to my thread and I am so thankful...Once again thank you for your time :) Have an awesome night..

moonfruit or wix.com  Its a standard template, but it lets you add your pics, rate, info about yourself, and most importantly its free. Its a good place to start before shelling out money for a professional designer.

Yahhhhh!!!! this is Awesome...Thank you CurlyW...I will definitely check on these...

To a few hobbyists on the LA board who have many reviews and arealso a frequent posters.

If I post on the la board and recommend you it is not as good as having a review from a. Well known hobbyist.

Posted By: SweetCarmen1984
I just made the decision to become a provider in the L.A area..I'm doing research and trying to understanding how to make hobbyist comfortable enough to work with me considering the fact that I do not have any reviews because I have not yet had a date..I am trying to remain positive..Any ideas to gain trust..i.e Skype call before scheduling date..any ideas are appreciated  
   
 Info about me:  
 29  
 Curvy  
 Black/Dominican  
 Hazel Eyes  
   
 Besos and Blessings,  
   
 Carmen

Earthshined Hi...I definitely am thinking about coming in at an introductory rate..I do notice you can't get a well known hobbyist to spend time with you if you don't already having raving reviews but you can't get reviews if no one actually gives you a chance...the ultimate Catch 22!!!

This was a wonderful idea...Thank you :)

...don't give the discount for a review. That makes it appear you are giving discounts for a good review. That is not acceptable. But giving a discount or introductory rate to TER members is ok and it is the TER members that are likely to review you once they have seen you.

Another thing to do is to read and participate in discussions on your regional board here on TER. That will let guys know about you.

Xyz23 Thank you for that tip..it makes so much sense..I will defiantly be clear and state the discount is for TER members.

Perfect..I will continue to participate in the boards on here..

Thanks for your time and your help...I've honestly learned so much today because of the wonderful people here in this board...

You need a web site...  even a template site will do.  
You need ads...  on ad venues including your local TER board 1 every 7 days & a TER link logo as required.
You need pictures.  Need not be pro in this age of high quality digital but good resolution.  I'd say between 6-10 good photos or even more.  Your looks are your selling point like the sizzle in a great steak.  A combination of dress & undress & with props or various settings...  front, back & side.  I want to see more than your back side.  Do show your chest, rear, tummy.  They need not be explicit BUT taken in total should show what you look like naked.  OK to hide or blur face.  

You might want to purchase one month of VIP.  Once you have a review, your first reviewer sets up your profile...  you can link your account & get FREE LIMITED VIP.  But BUYING regular VIP will allow you to look at the profiles of well reviewed ladies & what kind of photos they use.
At the same time you want to research what the average provider charges in your area.  In my area, 200 hour is pretty standard but creeping up.  Some gals can get it & others find they lose much business if they go up.  I'd suggest starting with the basic rate but then offer 10-20% off Specials as an intro.

As a new member (as we all were once)  you are "Moderated" which means your posts are reviewed before they display live.  It is a nuisance but you must build a posting history of following the rules.  After say a month & with enough posts (I don't know if there is an actual number) you can use the "contact us" button to request admin to un-Moderate you.  
You must be careful as threads you start often look like ads which are only allowed on the local ad board (1 per 7 days) & ads will get moved  but you can make sensible replies on any board you have access to.  Even if they take a hour or 2 to go live.    

BTW, Welcome.  If you do a good job, give honest service, you'll do well.  Use real pictures.  There are clients for every body type.

Harbor_view Thank you so much for taking your time to read my question and respond in great detail...I took notes LOL...I'm a bit of a perfectionist so I want to do this the right way...Being smart and safe so I don't end up as a missing person...Again Thank you and you are Awesome..Have a great night

Dear Carmen:
I was just wondering who was doing your screening and booking for you? If you could, also target p411 and date-check members as well. These hobbyist would also be known to write reviews and discuss providers online as well.

area who offer similar service with looks comparable to yours. Then you could set your introductory rate a bit below their average to attract guys. Once you get some reviews under your belt, you may consider raising your rate gradually.  

Also, try to find a local provider who might be willing to serve as a mentor to you regarding screening, where to set up incalls, etc.

keystonekid..thank you...that sounds Perfect...I will definitely start like you said when it comes to my rate..A mentor is another interesting option that I never knew was available..I will keep my eye out for a good Mentor who has a load of great reviews from all the well known hobbyist...Once again I thank you for your time and your ideas..I honestly am grateful..

Posted By: keystonekid
area who offer similar service with looks comparable to yours. Then you could set your introductory rate a bit below their average to attract guys. Once you get some reviews under your belt, you may consider raising your rate gradually.  
   
 Also, try to find a local provider who might be willing to serve as a mentor to you regarding screening, where to set up incalls, etc.

because it lets your personality out & lets prospective clients get to know you...  especially on your local board.  Just remember to put the ads on the ad forum.  I took a chance of an unknown provider who I liked her posts.  I'd see her again if I got to her area.  

You need a work email separate from your real one...  and a work phone...  when you are not available, you shut them off.  

A lot of gals develop a work personality...  separate from their personal time...   sometimes it's very far from their every day or sometimes a mirror image

Ohhhh that's amazing...I'm glad you had a good experience with her..It's a perfect idea to have things separated...I have set up my additional phone and email so I can do just what you mentioned..

Hmmm...a work personality...that's something to think about...Definitely a good plan..

I'm pretty much a social chameleon so I'm sure I will adapt and come into my own once  I get started and into my flow..

harbor_view I appreciate you and all the help you have so graciously given to me.. Thanks

 

Posted By: harbor_view
because it lets your personality out & lets prospective clients get to know you...  especially on your local board.  Just remember to put the ads on the ad forum.  I took a chance of an unknown provider who I liked her posts.  I'd see her again if I got to her area.    
   
 You need a work email separate from your real one...  and a work phone...  when you are not available, you shut them off.    
   
 A lot of gals develop a work personality...  separate from their personal time...   sometimes it's very far from their every day or sometimes a mirror image.    
 

It has been mentioned that light screening or not screening at all is one of the main issues when it comes to these world. While you want to be approachable and start right away, be aware that you must show professionalism and high standards of safety in order to put your potential visitors at ease. Great website, good pictures help but overall your attitude is the key here.. Communicate professionally and clearly with the gentlemen, provide great standards of service, be punctual, empathetic, genuine and trustworthy. Being an stellar provider is not as easy as most think, you need to strive for excellent always. My recommendation is to find a mentor or talk to other ladies in order to learn the ropes of screening, safety procedures etc.. A major mistake new providers make is to place financial gain over safety. In the long run these puts our entire community at risk. I am here to help so I would be glad to answer any questions. We all started somewhere and mainly learned along the way.

Palomam  Thank you so much for all these valuable tips...I definitely will take my time and make sure I do it right...I'm fortunate to be doing this for love of it and not financial distress so I am taking plenty of time so I can start offering my services the right way..

 

Posted By: palomam
It has been mentioned that light screening or not screening at all is one of the main issues when it comes to these world. While you want to be approachable and start right away, be aware that you must show professionalism and high standards of safety in order to put your potential visitors at ease. Great website, good pictures help but overall your attitude is the key here.. Communicate professionally and clearly with the gentlemen, provide great standards of service, be punctual, empathetic, genuine and trustworthy. Being an stellar provider is not as easy as most think, you need to strive for excellent always. My recommendation is to find a mentor or talk to other ladies in order to learn the ropes of screening, safety procedures etc.. A major mistake new providers make is to place financial gain over safety. In the long run these puts our entire community at risk. I am here to help so I would be glad to answer any questions. We all started somewhere and mainly learned along the way.

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It is much harder to raise prices than it is to lower them. If you are a newbie, there will be plenty of guys that will want to see you just because of that. Don't ever forget, your screening is much more important than theirs! Be Safe & Good Luck!

Nor would I, and any review written because of a discount is pretty much worthless. Just a clever way for a few assholes to get bargain basement rates. I would wait until said "credible hobbyist" contacted me in private, not post about it in public, or again, useless. I am so sure a guy is going to give a bad review for an almost free fk.

Hooktargold Yikes!! I can see how this could happen...it gave me something to think about...

....that if the gentleman reserves another date (not all future dates, just the second), he will receive additional time; maybe an extra half hour depending on how many hours he first reserved.  

   I agree with the captain; raising rates can be difficult.  Also, once you begin offering discounts, men will wait until you run another special to book.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

Kelly thanks for taking the time to say this..I would've never thought about the additional time bonus..that sounds completely awesome..I appreciate you for even taking your time to tell me this...

But pay regular rates for future business ... All depends on how you handle it... Also once you get a few reviews or should I say several reviews and they are pretty good you can raise your rates. Most providers do that or should I say many. Lots of good advice here but much of it is based on your location and what you offer then of course reviews.

Captain7 thanks for this...it is something to think about...I know people never react well to a price increase of any kind so I can see how that may apply here too..I'm a very upfront person so in the event I do offer a discount in the very beginning while trying to find a few regulars I will let them know it's an introductory rate and I'm going to list the regular rate..

Once again thanks for your time and valuable tips...I appreciate you..

reply was really to get an experienced hobby to see you and review you. For example,

There is a lady I want to see in dc but her reviews are from handles I never heard of so until I see one im still suspicious.

I would definitely listen to the other providers regarding rate

to take Paloma up on her offer and also reach out to several of the other ladies who contribute to this board via email or PM, many of them would be happy to help you learn how to successful while keeping out of harms way.

Yes..because this is my main concern...I will definitely reach out to some ladies..

Get everything done in about the correct amount of time, without letting on that you are really managing the time.  Yes, you must.
No TV unless it's porn & not all go for porn.  I'd rather my ACTION be the only action going on.  TV is low class.  I've had providers so into their soaps that they shorted me for attention.
Music tracks are good.  A lot of gals use playlists that they learn where the time is coming up.  Also have several types of music.  Last...  music is a good cover for sex noise...  but aim the speakers toward the door so it does not give your client a headache & you can hear each other.  I am very noise & sound sensitive & insist the music be background.  I'm not there for THAT concert.

After a while I discovered a Fav lady had a small clock... (a fancy brass cased clock the size of a travel clock)  It was always to the side of where ever we played.  One time a mantle, next a low book shelf, another time an end table...   I never caught her looking at it & it didn't bother me that it was there.  Several times I've been with gals where we could not see the bedside clock & one gal even covered it.  As we were getting dressed I had to ask what time it was...  we were very lost in each other...    

ANOTHER thing.  If your laptop or devise is open, (some gals use it for the music) turn it so the camera does not cover the bed.  Or tape over the camera.  Or put a cover over it.  Recent events...  like Zumba...  make one wary of being filmed illegally.  Same goes true for clients.  

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Ohhh Wow this is full of great ideas...This is so amazing how much information I am getting just off this board...thank you so much  

Posted By: harbor_view
Get everything done in about the correct amount of time, without letting on that you are really managing the time.  Yes, you must.  
 No TV unless it's porn & not all go for porn.  I'd rather my ACTION be the only action going on.  TV is low class.  I've had providers so into their soaps that they shorted me for attention.  
 Music tracks are good.  A lot of gals use playlists that they learn where the time is coming up.  Also have several types of music.  Last...  music is a good cover for sex noise...  but aim the speakers toward the door so it does not give your client a headache & you can hear each other.  I am very noise & sound sensitive & insist the music be background.  I'm not there for THAT concert.  
   
 After a while I discovered a Fav lady had a small clock... (a fancy brass cased clock the size of a travel clock)  It was always to the side of where ever we played.  One time a mantle, next a low book shelf, another time an end table...   I never caught her looking at it & it didn't bother me that it was there.  Several times I've been with gals where we could not see the bedside clock & one gal even covered it.  As we were getting dressed I had to ask what time it was...  we were very lost in each other...    
   
 ANOTHER thing.  If your laptop or devise is open, (some gals use it for the music) turn it so the camera does not cover the bed.  Or tape over the camera.  Or put a cover over it.  Recent events...  like Zumba...  make one wary of being filmed illegally.  Same goes true for clients.    

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things were different back then the internet was different in relations to this biz and this biz was more wildwest than it it is now.

It was easier then it was simpler.
Now its caution on both ends we screen they check reviews.
we verify them they google us.

A new provider has difficulty getting her foot in the door and I can see why.
BUT a well known verifiable screener who is a local provider or assistant to your area can do wonders for your credibility.
If shes trusted as being decent honest and respected in your area you will be in like Flynn! Easy Peasy!
There are so many benefits to hiring a lady like this. they will help you with ads where to advertise and how.
they know whos wo on the local market can screen for you book your appts tell you which hotels to stay in and which ones to avoid.
they have access to the PO board so know anything that's needed t know in your area, bad clients and so n.
they are members of blacklist sites know how to do all the research and so on.
Its also an ear t listen to someone who has your back teaches you the ropes and keeps you out of trouble.
there are many roadblocks and tricks of the trade that without an experienced veteran by your side you are going to make some mistakes, some not needed to make, this biz is safe if you know what you are doing and can be dangerous and risky if you don't.
its like having an insurance policy.
Clients will see you based on HER reputation of being a straight shooter.
theres always an agency too. get in get reviewed learn the ropes read the boards 3-6 months down the road go Indy.
you take your reviews with you.

Good Luck!

It's very low class because inevitably clients will cross in the hall or elevator.  Plus you should need time...  to have a snack, wash up, use the toilet & shower often.  Inevitably, getting the client dressed & out the door will run over.  If you plan an hour in between, you have a cushion to run over a few minutes, do what you need to do & be relaxed when the next guy arrives on time.  

I know, sometimes stuff happens but it's not a crisis if you have time to deal with it.  There may be scenerios....  like you are not ready & it's wise to have a plan.  Like ask the next client to wait at the coffee shop for 10.  

Another thing to plan for & hope it never happens...  if you have a bad client & you decide for your own safety that the appointment is over.   If you have to refund part or all of the money to get him to leave, that's a bargain.  As a last resort, grab your clothes & your phone & lock yourself in the bathroom.  

A last thought...  What would you do if a client has a medical emergency (heart attack) in your presence?  Having a plan could make the difference between life & death for somebody.  I suggest call 9-1-1 & the front desk EMS will need to get in.  Provide first aid to the best of your ability until EMS arrives.   Unlock the door.  Get some clothes on if you can.  Once EMS arrives, bolt for the bathroom as above.    

I had a Fav lady have asthma attack while I was there...  she used her inhaler but I stayed until she was ok.  

Problems are much less so if you have planned out some options before you need to.  

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