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Ditto. I'm exactly the same way. [eom]
newbieone 2581 reads
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Just wondering how were you first experiences when you first started hobbying and do you still get first time jitters from time to time? I just started late last year, but even though I visit a new provider bi-monthly or sometimes weekly I still get first time jitters.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 1004 reads
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It makes the session more fun in a way, as long as they don't get too bad.

manypoppins 2 Reviews 1339 reads
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But after that, not really. Even the first time wasn't as bad as I had thought. I think there's something very calming about a naked woman in my presence. Or maybe it's that she's giving me a BJ, LOL.

I still have some performance anxiety just from reading reviews. Everyone seems like a stud that gives the provider ten squirting orgasms before they go through the Kama Sutra, and my experiences haven't been quite like that. After being in a 10+ years monogamous relationship it's hard to get used to being with other women, especially in this kind of a setting, and trying to please them with skills that you haven't gotten to use at home for many years. And to have to worry about what's an act, what's real. That's the main thing I'm nervous about these days. That and going limp in a condom. Putting one on feels like having my dick cut off, but it's getting better. I try not to let it stop me from enjoying myself.

hiddenhills 143 Reviews 1187 reads
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sometimes a lot worse than others. If the lady is well reviewed than it's not bad. But if the lady only has a few reviews, and I'm not quite sure what the date will be like than the jitters appear. They usually go away after a dfk greeting after the door closes.

quartertone 36 Reviews 809 reads
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and even sometimes when I have seen the girl before.

Tonight I am seeing someone I have met once before, and I am worried that when the door opens she'll be thinking, "Oh no, I didn't realize it was THIS guy."

I have no reason to think that..I am just the worrying type.

mattradd 40 Reviews 1344 reads
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even on return visits, and going to new amps. But, it's so good to have a naked lady quickly putting your mind at ease.

swimtrekr 59 Reviews 1462 reads
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7 / 14

Esp with a new provider.  Even with girls I have been with before, I still get a little nervous but it goes away quickly.

However, I don't worry about what they might think about me.  If I did that, I would have a real hard time hobbying.

Swim

romeogolf 34 Reviews 1942 reads
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keystonekid 114 Reviews 850 reads
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high school or college before a game.  During the day I'm walking lighter than air and as the hour of the date gets closer I get more keyed up.  The jitters generally go away with the first hug and kiss.  You just never know if something will go wrong and the girl does not show up.  Then comes the knock on the door or the call back with the room number if doing incall.  Sometimes shit happens and the date doesn't materialize, happened 2 or 3 times in almost 8 years; yes, even with well researched ladies.

RedCloak 6 Reviews 1049 reads
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tallyguy 4 Reviews 541 reads
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I've been doing the hobby for about two years and still get the jitters.  I go through a range of emotions from guilt to lust, and often cannot sleep for several days leading up to the encounter.  I get the feeling like I just drank 5 cups of coffee. Then comes the moment of calm, of resolve, as I sit in my car outside the hotel room and get the call to come up.  There should be a name for the walk to the room.  It feels like Christmas, you've had a peek at the present but are not quite sure what you will get when the door opens.  Every time I have been pleasantly surprised, and it only gets better after that.

rover122 18 Reviews 548 reads
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I also am pretty new at the hobby and do get some jitters each time.  However, I'd have to say it's more eagerness than anxiety.
The lack of clothing, for both of us, is liberating and can quickly dispel the anxiety.
Most importantly for me is that performance anxiety never enters into it.  At my age I know my performance will be limited and frankly admit it to myself and the lady at the outset.  I view this as a NSA experience and the lady is looking to me to treat her politely, respectfully and rea$onably.  I'm sure she has many dates with young studs who give her adequate sexual stimulation and she won't mind if I can't.

Zaraki 14 Reviews 577 reads
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"often cannot sleep for several days leading up to the encounter.  I get the feeling like I just drank 5 cups of coffee. Then comes the moment of calm, of resolve, as I sit in my car outside the hotel room and get the call to come up."

I hate having bad sleep the day before. Unfortunately, it happens more so than not.

I've been doing this for a year and I still get the jitters. As another guy said, the jitters are part of the fun haha. It seems like my jitters are dwindling though.

eros17 1 Reviews 3102 reads
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I was wondering about that, I had setup my second date ever, was told to call before heading out. It was  a morning appointment, had even taken time off from work. I called her but she never answered or called back. So the date never materialized. Got ticked off because it was a wasted morning and was looking forward to meeting her. It's only happened 2 to 3 times in 8 years?! It happened to me in one week!

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