I just wanted to post about my first experience with a provider.  Some background first: for me, "The 40-Year-Old Virgin" and "Never Been Kissed" weren't just movie titles - they were my life.  I'll be the first to admit that there was something wrong with me to never have been intimate with anyone else.  Among the reasons, a lack of confidence and any semblance of game, a certain social awkwardness and ineptness, and not grasping at the opportunity when it presented itself in spite of my feeble efforts.  Waiting wasn't making things better, so I finally made the decision have it taken care of professionally, Catholic guilt and all be damned.

I did a reasonably good job doing my research.  This site is an amazing resource for newbies, and I read up on everything from the initial contact to proper etiquette for the date.  Got VIP so I could find a provider who would fit my particular needs.  Everything went swimmingly up to the date a few weeks ago.

I met with the provider, and she was just as lovely as in the pictures, and totally my type.  I actually had a great time, but there was one thing that bothered me.  Frankly, I suck at sex.  Yes, it was my first time, but looking at my performance objectively, I was for the most part at a loss for what to do.  My kissing needs major improvement, I didn't have any conception on how to lead, and I totally lacked rhythm.  At least I didn't come in 2 minutes, I was afraid that would happen from the excitement.  Thank goodness the provider was very patient and understanding, and was an excellent teacher.  However, there was more than could be imparted in a single lesson.  I still feel bad because during the session, based on the physical signs I could discern, she went down in arousal from around a 3 on a scale of 1 to 10 at the start, to a 2 or so by the end.

Anyway, what they say is true - you can do all the reading and studying in the world about a particular sport or activity (and trust me I did more than my fair share before this initial encounter), but in the end you're likely going to suck at it the first time (except for those lucky few who happen to be naturals).  Overall, I'm very happy with my experience, but I just had a question.  How long will it be before I get "good" at this?  I feel really bad that I wasn't able to please my partner, and I'm just hoping that this isn't something that I'm cursed with.  Thanks for reading, and any helpful comments!

V31, You might want to post this on The Erotic Highway board. The Love Goddess will set you straight. Good luck

Well, I can imagine that's how it felt for you; jumping into the deep end of the pool and not knowing if you will sink or swim. I think you did great. With nervousness, like what you're describing, sometimes it's helpful to stay with the same lady more than once; developing trust, which reduces the anxiety, which in turns opens you up to better sense what may please her. But, don't forget, she's there to pleasure you.

Congrads on getting your feet wet!  I do find that I am a better partner on subsequent dates.  It's wise not to become fixated with a single provider...  it's remarkably easy to fall for someone you have great sex with...  still a few repeats will make faster progress.

Becoming a good lover... striving to be great...  did not come easy or quickly.  As a younger man I was concerned with myself first.  I recently had this discussion with an earlier lover who stated "she had no complaints".  Still I know I am NOW much more open & much better lover with all my partners (civie & professional).  

Read everything you can about the subject.  There are articles on i-village.  I liked the basic book "The Joy of Sex".  

Best wishes,
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and you will last a lot longer.

Coming too soon is the most common problem with the first time.

By spending lots of time making out, massaging, doing oral, etc., you will build the stamina needed to go a while when your both ready for the main event.

Go get 'em tiger!

I applaud your commitment to the hobby.  I think you can go 2 ways with this. 1. repeat a couple of times with the same lady. get comfortable with technique and enjoy the journey.  2.  Sample the candy store.  Keep a profile of what gets you going.  Brunette big breasted small ass etc.  The more you sample the better you will become.  Good luck....

you are new at this.  These ladies know how to ease the tensions and help you have a very memorable time.  Most young ladies in their 20's don't possess that type of expertise.