a provider that i have met several times has just gotten a new roommate who also is in the biz.  i would like to meet with the new girl but am worried that the current provider might feel that her roommate is trying to steal her client and this would create hard feelings between the two.  what should i do?

my atf knows I see other providers and has no problem with it. However, in your situation not knowing anything about the escort you've been seeing, it's one of those damned if you tell her damned if you don't. Wait until some of the ladies on the board chime in, they'll give you a prospective from their side. And I'm guessing some hobbyist will contribute a horror story or two about this scenario. Good luck

hmmmmmmmmmm good topic to post for comments.. well i would if i was you.. ask your current lady if she wouldnt mind if you seen another provider in the area (dont mention the roommate) if she is okay with it thats cool..... as for her roommate you are interested in?  i think its wise to approach her when your current provider isnt around and set up a meeting place elsewhere..  or she could even ask your current provider if she could date you too
JMO

I would not go behind "Provider A"s back, because she'll find out anyway.  I generally do not discuss other providers with the ladies I see.  But you might ask "A" if you wanted to try someone new if she'd give you a reference.  Then you might decide to try "Provider B".  
This is a dangerouus path...  tread lightly.
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This is an unusual problem in that it is her roommate.

I'd say to be careful. If you're planning to keep seeing the first provider, be sure to emphasize that.

You might ask about doubles first, and see what the first lady says. If she doesn't do doubles then it isn't too crazy to ask if you might have a session on the side then.

A lady is suppossed to provide a NSA experience. Don't count on it when Saint Benjamin is involved. I received some nastiness when i saw men who had expressed their dedication elsewhere. My advice to girls who lose clients is simply treat them better. Complacency has cost many a provider the loss of clientele.

If I have a client I am cool with, and I have quit a few, and they have asked me on occasion if I could recommend someone. I have done so gladly, they always see me again. And the best part about my clients is, price is not an issue. So I pay attention to the providers on here with the best personality and go from there. SO far, I have been right on the money every time. I don't mind sharing some business with others who seem to have a great personality and what I think my clients would like. And no, I never ask for anything in return. And yes, he will tell me, he had a good time, great time, or an ok time. Then make another appointment with me.

Not all providers are selfish, most are caring wonderful women who are sweet and kind and generous to a fault.

The answer took Jerry and George all day to figure out but it was so easy:

Have a menage a trois with both of them!



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This isn't your wife or your GF, so you shouldn't have to play some fucked up game of misdirection and wait until the escort you have seen is not around.
Escorts are not wives, they have no say over whom you may or may not see, they do not own you or your dick and have no reason to think they do.

I appreciate you not wanting to step on the toes of the lady you have already seen, but not all women are insecure, or catty to the extent that you have to hide a business transaction from them lest they get butt hurt.

My advice, mention to the lady you have seen that you are attracted to her roommate and from there inquire either about a threesome, or the roommate's menu or whatnot indicating you want to see her professionally.

If the lady you are seeing is mature and has a grasp of the nature of this business as far as clients freedom to see who they choose, she will be fine with that...
if she isn't now is as good a time as any to find out she entitlement and/or ownership issues with her clients.

But...
DO NOT play some stupid fucking game of clandestine appointment setting behind the current escorts back as if she had any right to dictate where you park you dick for an hour at a time.

The other reason I suggest against that "game" plan other than the lady has no reason to think she should have any say in whom you see...

If you do play the game of hide the appointment chances are she will wonder why it was kept a secret, and that can cause a lot more problems than her knowing.

Come on, they are roommates, chances are better she will know anyway, and that you hid it will look a whole lot worse than if you don't.

How did you find out her roommate is also a provider?  From your current friend?  If so that's a good sign she (#1) doesn't mind you knowing or seeing her.  If I was interested in seeing #2 I'd probably ask if they do doubles.  I'm guessing you'll get all the info you need from her answer.

I also second Bridgett's comment:  some of the best suggestions on new ladies to see have been from women I've already been seeing.  They haven't steered me wrong yet.

My opinion here .. very recently a friend of mine referred me to SweetPeach even tho she said i could still see her and she wasnt jealous of my date with SP either as she got a referral fee from it.. Even Sp referred me to other providers too .. its just timing the event not to piss off anyone involved.  So ask provider1 for referrals see what she says

Agreed - esp when asking a semi-regular provider for a ref.  

The irony here (and also noted above) is that there is a sense of hurting a provider's feelings about "seeing" someone else when in fact the whole crux of the arrangement is avoid such entanglements.  Furthermore, as a hobbyist I certainly have no right to dictate to my provider what her boundaries must be.

And if you subscribe to the notion that you have to tread lightly in these matters, how do you ever get a referral?

My experience has shown that being a polite and decent and civile hobbyist will go a long way towards nurturing a relationship with an ATF who hopefully in turn wil also want to see you enjoy yourself with a fellow provider traveler.