I have noticed a trend with a lot of the so-called higher end women: they sometimes go out of their way to mention they have "real" jobs (their words) or day jobs outside of hobbying.

Gentlemen, have you noticed any difference between the ladies that actually have "real" jobs and do hobbying as a hobby, versus ladies who do this full time?  These differences can be both positive and negative on alot of levels.  

Ladies, does being able to mention a job outside the profession, a degree, etc. make a difference in the level of clientele you serve?  

This is just something I started noticing as I check out many of the lovely ladies and their profiles.

 

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I always took that to mean that they were lower-volume.
As in, hey I work a regular 40 hour week, so I need to be extra discreet, extra selective.

I don't know if that's the intended meaning, or if it is, if it's even always true, or just clever marketing.

On the flip side, I think that someone who does this full time, may have a better understanding of the industry, be more professional, safer even. That IS her job and she probably takes it seriously. Whereas some part-timer may not be quite as accommodating.

But that's just my take, I'd be eager to see other points of view.

Yes, mentioning I have a real job definitely helps me to remember my self worth. Mentioning I have a degree, reminds me that I have options. I'm a provider, because it's a fun filled,fantasy, that I'm really good at. By having a real job and degree adds to my confidence and keeps me grounded. Therefore, I attract equally desirable suitors who stimulate me physically, intellectually, and show their appreciation financially.

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(It's rather demeaning to the job of being an escort to refer to the other job as "real", thus implying that escorting is not a legitimate job as well.)

But in any case, I can't say I've found any difference one way or the other if the gal does escorting full time to the exclusion of everything else, or part time to fulfill her sexual wants and make a little more money

being a student or a mother is sometimes equivalent to a real job for pay.

My apologies, I never meant to be demeaning, as I emphasized that the providers used the term "real" jobs.  I knew as soon as I posted it that it might be taken that way, but no offense of any sort was intended.

Just doing my best to learn more about the hobby.  Ladies, I apologize if offense was taken.

and providing is not their primary source of income.  This is their private life and should be respected.  Sometimes the provider income is their primary source of income, oftentimes it is not.  That is none of our  business.  There should be no difference in their service to you regardless of what their income situation is.  They are doing what they do for their own reasons and not your concern.

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Swi

This certainly is as "real" of a way to earn money as any other, and it's more fun than most socially acceptable options, but until social mores change, this "job" is seen as a last resort by even some potential clients.  Some guys really think ALL ladies who do this have no other options in life and that we'll be desperately accommodating with our schedules or even risk our safety.  

I mention that I am busy outside of the hobby mostly because scheduling with me isn't always the easiest, and I like to set up accurate expectations at the start.  Additionally, if my education is a turn-off to those few guys who get annoyed by such proclamations, then it also works as a screening tool.  Does it make a difference in clientele?  I'd have to experiment and take that info down to have a real comparison, but most who contact me are genuinely interested in meeting me at least.

Good, I applaud anyone that's found his or her own way and what works for them. I've found what works for me, my way. I never said, someone else's way was wrong. I just said, what works for me. To each his own. Good luck!

I didn't notice any difference in types or personalities of gentlemen I met. The main difference it makes for me when I'm working (or in school) is that I'm not as available or my schedule's not as flexible. And with a day job it's nice having a reliable paycheck during those times the biz is going through a dry spell. On the other hand, with a regular day job, you usually can't just decide you don't wanna go in that day, like you can if this IS your day job. Being able to set my own schedule and answer to no one about it was amazing.

Julia, before I got on this site, I had no idea how amazing the women on here are in terms of how they operate as courtesans.  We get an image of street hookers from TV, but this aspect of the lifestyle is never discussed in mainstream media.  Courtesans have to become knowledgeable of eCommerce at least enough to derive business from a web site, and often times they handle the techie part of setting it up.  They have to be good marketers, and be excellent at customer service.  They have to learn about the physiological aspects of the occupation to minimize the risk to themselves.  They have to be familiar with legal issues and have to always be alert.  I admire the fact that they are their own bosses and independent.  They also have to be good at finances too, understanding how to manage the money they make and since they are independent contractors have to pay for their own insurance and do not get sick days.  In a way, courtesans are the ultimate small business professionals.

A courtesan that runs a good operation could easily teach most MBAs how to run and function in a business environment.

The MAJOR message I come away with is that she can't answer emails, calls or texts 24/7: she's got other stuff to do than wait around for the next caller.  

I've enjoyed the company of many ladies who are intelligent, witty, informed, fun ... without knowing anything about their real world happenings.  

I don't think it's what the OP meant by her question, but I have also met some young Moms who do not say anything about THAT "real job" in their ads or emails or anything else. It's the sort of thing that only comes up during chit-chat. While taking a tour of tattoos, I might ask, "Who's JJJ?" and get "That's my son, the love of my life!" How old is he? (1-11, usually). Or, "Whatcha doing for Christmas?" and get "That's my little boy's favorite holiday so I always throw a big family party for him." And so on.  P.S. The ones I'm remembering right now were all unwed single Moms with disappearing daddies.  

Would "real job" = Mom for an 18-25 or 18-30 year old be good for business?

(I am not including older MILFs who sometimes mention their grown children in their discussion board posts. Having raised their kids, they are "retired" from that job.

I have also noticed a bit of a trend of some escorts advertising they have a Bachelor's degree when they in fact, do not.  Now before I get attacked, I do realize that many do actually have a Bachelor's degree.  However I know that some girls don't have a degree based on some the things they have told me, then I can draw the conclusion.  An escort's education doesn't really matter to me as long as I can hold a conversation with her, and she does necessarily need a college degree to do that.  I am just curious as to why some lie about it.  Are some johns that particular that they can't even do the hibbidy dibbidy with a stranger unless they are university educated?

In my opinion not really. Having a degree did make a client of mine and his wife leave their kid with me but other than that nothing came of it. Honestly. It's like most hobbyist ask you if you went to school or got a degree.  

 
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Roxanne

It always reminds me that I'm here by choice. I'm here because even though I make six-figures in my personal life, I absolutely love the industry. Money doesn't motivate me to participate in the industry. I don't have a drug addiction I need to sustain or a family I need to support. I'm here because I love sex and I love meeting new people!

On the flip side, some clients get agitated with my schedule. They want me available '24/7' at their beck and call. I tend to avoid those clients. (Misogynists.)

a "real job", but I will refer to it as my "day job". That's because THIS is definitely a real job. It's just my "night job" (for the most part). And it happens to be my favorite job ever.

I'll mention it occasionally because I want my friends to understand that it is not ok to call my number just any time they want- that it should be at specified times prearranged by both of us (of course, they don't get my number in the first place until they're screened and we have a confirmed engagement). It's also important that they know I do other work so that they don't get bent out of shape if I can't reply to emails within the hour or even 6-8 hours, or until the next day. I actually had a guy tell me that I was unprofessional because I didn't respond to his message on the same day! Had to set him straight- besides my day job, I also mentioned to him that I am the primary caregiver for an elderly family member. It's true that some men imagine you just sit around in your marabou slippers and lingerie all day awaiting their messages.

I don't specifically mention a degree necessarily, but I do mention that I have an excellent education. This lets my prospective friends know that I will be able to carry on a decent conversation over dinner, and that perhaps we have something in common. It also gives us plenty to chat about in person (where I would happily divulge my degrees), which always increases chemistry and fosters great friendships. I think it does attract a different clientele to mention an education. I prefer longer engagements, and gents who also prefer longer engagements want to know there's more to me than a pair of double Ds and a big bottom. So far it's working.

The clients that see me are generally comforted by the knowledge that the fee they are paying me is going to tuition, books, savings for grad school, rather than frivolous clothes, or drugs, or whatnot.  

In a perfect world, what I do with my income would be of no concern to potential clients, but this isn't a perfect world, and sex work is highly stigmatized. Thus, it's helpful to include info about my education on my website to assure clients that I'm putting my income to "good use."  

Also, as a fairly young provider (20), I get a LOT of potential clients who are nervous that we won't hit it off because they assume that I will be immature, or daft, or not able to hold a conversation. Assuring them that I am easy to converse with, intelligent, and an "old soul" makes them feel much more secure about seeing me. I talked more about age discrimination in another TER post, linked below.  

Is it a bit classist? Sure. Maybe even a bit snobby. But it works, in my experience and observation. I look forward to the day that the public doesn't assume that all my income is going to drugs or a pimp, but until then, I will proudly tout my education-in-progress to break free from the stereotypes.