Never done this before. I'm young (mid-late 20s). Self-employed, no job/employer to call, no ref from past experiences.

What to do to ease their mind? I know some of the lower class ones don't care but I'm not looking for that. I want to spoil myself.

YOu can use the search feature at the top of the board and search for "references" "verification" "screening" "p411" etc, and you will find tons of threads on this subject. The default search range is 30 days. you can change that to a higher number to get more results. read those differetn threads for ideas.

My advice would be to join P411. They will work with you to verify self employed status etc. they have verified students, retirees, military etc. After you join P411 you can search for newbie friendly providers on their site. After you have an appointment, ask for a p411 ok. Once you get two oks, it gets a lot easier to see ladies.

There are other options also.

Good luck

There are 3 main verification sites.  PS mentioned Preferred411, there is also DateCheck and RoomService2000, aka DC and RS2K.  Research your area to see which one is most popular locally.  RS2K is most popular in the midwest, esp around the Chicago area.  

As far as I know P411 is the only one where providers can indicate that they are 'newbie friendly'.  They do have a toll-free number, and from what I have read, Gina (the owner) will do her best to work with you to get you verified.

Swim

I did things a little differently. I used a couple bodyrub providers as references. Worked my way up. I did get VIP here then after I saw my first escort I got set up on date check. Been fairly easy to get appointments since but the whole LE thing still spooks me a little. But I'm no seasoned vet either.

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