and yes, it should be about you as you are the customer, within reason, of course.

Speaking for myself, I like to do various things during a session.  Most gals have a varied menu, and I like to sample a few things.  After you get to know a gal well, you can learn where her strengths are.

Welcome to the hobby, play safely and have a good time.

Be sure to also do your homework and select a well reviewed gal that you think will make you happy.

so thinking I'm gonna bite the bullit soon and start seeing a provider(s)..Done the online date thing and to be honest I dont want romantic hassles..So gonna do it..But got aquestion for you guys and providers...

In the civi world I'm not a selfish partner but since I'm gonna pay I figure it should be about me,right?
I love oral/forplay and it seems alot safer..So do any of you here on your first time (or still do) just stick with getting repeat bjs with a provider during your time? And providers is this uncommon

would depend on the guy, particularly on his age, physical fitness level, and whether he has difficulty with a condom.  Some ladies will use a female condom which partially solves the problem.

Do what you are comfortable with.  If you don't want FS, then use the time for your "other" interests.