I had a session a few weeks ago with a provider I had visited once before.  I arrived a bit early at the incall and she told me to come up right away.  The session was **EPIC**. By far the best sex of my life, and the most rewarding thing was seeing her flush and cum several times.  At the end of my time, I was saying that it was time to go, but her body was telling me to stay.  I overstayed by at least half an hour (on a two hour appointment), largely giving her DATY and another believable O.  She then started talking to me about other personal stuff and I stayed for another 45 mins longer.

I would say that if she didn't ask for more money, you didn't overstay.  I have heard of providers who will go out with clients on 'social dates', just like normal dating.  It should not hurt to ask if she would like to go out on the town off the clock.  

Thanks Gameami,

idea of going to dinner after your next session with her. "Hey I'm hungry. Care to go out for a bite to eat after we both get dressed.?" If she says "no", then go on your way with a smile on your face.

I always enjoyed being asked out before hand by my clients/friends.  

That's very thoughtful of you. If you are really that concerned about if you over-stayed or not, then just ask her if she would like to go to dinner to show your appreciation of how nice she was to you on your last session.

Ouch.  I appreciate the content, but why so aggressive in your tone?  It was an honest question and it seems several people have a different view from yours.

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Quarter is right. But ask her to dinner, just pay for her time. She probably wouldn't object to dinner if you paid her.  

That she had no other plans and didn't mind the company.... Yes you overstayed, but occasionally a provider doesn't mind.  I have had occasional times where providers have come to my hotel and stayed way pass the appointment.  I would offer to pay for the time and be told not necessary, even out right refused.  When I say stay way pass, I'm not talking minutes.  Of course I now choice to see these ladies multiple times and extended visits also.  So, if she seemed okay with being with you the extra time don't worry, be happy(that sounds familiar).  The real indicator if it was alright is if you go to make an appointment with her again and she says no.  Anything other than my last sentence is not important, no matter if I said it or anyone else.

Yes you stayed past your time but it doesn't sound like she was trying to get rid of you either.  Every situation is different in the hobby especially once you start to develop regulars.  I pay my ATF for a two hour appointment that typically lasts five or six hours and includes dinner.  This is a unique situation that developed over time and something that I would never try with my other regulars. What may or may not develop "off the clock" with a lady is pretty much up to her.  You can approach her with the idea but may ruin a good thing if she feels that you are trying to take advantage.

Never assume that your pleasuring her is a replacement for money.  No matter how many orgasms you give her it is her time that you are paying for.

Actually I often do my job for free with people I like.  Giving advice, talking as friends or as a mentor is part of what I do every day, and I only bill for the specific part of my job that I am legally obliged to bill for.  So from that stance, my job is quite analogous to that of a provider.  The difference is that it is not a part of my paid work to make people believe that they are a special person that I'd like to spend time with outside of hours....  In other words, if I make a client believe that I want to spend time with them off the clock then I actually do want to spend time with them off the clock.

She was probably just being polite and did not want to come off as rude.  

then I'd say no harm, no foul.

However, for karma's sake, you ought to give her a good tip to make things right.

It is nearly impossible to tell when a gal is letting you stay long because she genuinely enjoys your company and when it is because she doesn't want to cause you any offense.

I bet if truth be told, the gal may herself be conflicted on this at times.

By the way, some of the more subtle hints that it is time to go are: (Note:  NOT being facetious here.)

Her sighing and saying that WAS great

Her saying:  Do you have to be going soon?

Her making a phone call or checking email

Her talking about what she has to do the next day

Note how subtle these are and yet indicative that she has a life to get back to.  Men can be oblivious to these things, so watch carefully for these.

On the other hand, if she is constantly continuing to snuggle or make out, or discussing sexy issues like what is the most far out sexual thing you've ever done; then she is giving strong signals that she enjoys your company and wants you to stay.

Hiding your clothes is another strong hint.  (One gal actually did this to me.)

it happened. It's done. Only you and the provider were involved and neither of you objected. She did you a nicey-nice, you should see her again and splurge for the dinner and time - do her a nice in return. And then be done; balance restored and next time keep track of time somehow... maybe a timed ipod playlist or something, and NOT set to loop, either. Next time things seem to be headed OTC, do a double-take and freakin' ASK HER what she intends. Don't try to read her actions or her mind on your own. What guy really understands what a woman intends or is thinking? You gotta ask and clarify.  

This is what I would do....

I agree with you on most of those hints but this one:

For free next time.most likely be denied. You had a good experience but asking for free time is not appropriate.

Truer words were never spoken...lol I sometimes feel like PMing the guys who talk about the OTC time they received and suggesting they STFU!  Don't they understand what that does to the lady? I've had several women tell me that they will never give any OTC time again to a guy who talks about it in a review, assuming they even did in the first place. Guys never exaggerate in their reviews right?
    And ditto your comments re YMMV!
                    Regards.....RR

Well said, Ron.  Sounds like you've got some experience behind you.

LMFAO...yep! I agree 100 percent BUT if she did not kick him out, that's on her too. Can't only blame the guy...they are guys afterall. The 45 minutes she spent yapping, totally on her. Maybe she is just lonely. Many providers have no friends in real life, or much else.  

Thank you for the compliment.