hi everyone.  Any pointers on my question would be great . The question is I live in Cincinnati, Ohio . I've read reviews for my city . Contacted 20 providers with no call backs . What  gives ?????

A no response ratio like that certainly means you have turned them off somehow.

Perhaps you mentioned in your communications that you want some kind of sexual activity in return for remuneration.    That is a big no-no.  Only LE makes calls like that so a gal is likely to say uh-uh and move on.  In fact you're lucky no one did respond because the most likely to respond to that would be an LE decoy, and you don't want that.

So, here's what I suggest:  Look for the link on this page to the TER Self Help Guide.  It's by a little red and white life perserver.  Among other things you'll find, is information on how to make contact with a provider in such a way as she is likely to get back to you.

Read that over and then come back with any questions.  We're here to help

Thanks for the reply . All I ever said on the voice mail is my first name , age ,average build ,hair and color of my eyes. Ask if we could have a meeting and ask if their close to my part of town .Don't want to five 70 miles away.

Can you be more specific? If you contacted all of them yesterday, maybe you will get replies today.  

And in addition what Fish said, make sure you are contacting them by their preferred method of contact. Some girls may have a phone number listed but only want to be contacted by email.

But if you are doing that part right and no one is getting back then yes, it is your approach that is the problem.

OK I've read the how to contact  a provider. I'm 50 ,don't see any age requirements on their sites. 2 I can't get prescreened if I don't get a call back . I don't have any references.  Just got into this ,been to Vegas a few times ,was easy . Called agencies and 30 minutes later they were knocking on my hotel door . I joined this site to try and set up a regular schedule with a provider. Any help would be great .

I've  tried phone ,text ,email . Beebe trying to set this up since Monday when I get back home . I leave message my name  , age, build and ask if they  are on my side of town. I ask if their availability for a meeting.  Just trying to arrange something when I get back from Vegas . I shouldn't thought it would be easy like Vegas . Call an agency, they ask a couple of questions and girls at my door . I was prescreened at 2 agencies.  Like I said not even a call back .

You may be coming off as a tire kicker. I always request a day and time I want to meet. Sometime it'll be just morning or afternoon, but I always give them a rough time. I also mention where I saw their ad.  

Very good suggestion.

To go 0 for 20 is almost unheard of. Unless you somehow got on a blacklist of some kind?

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D'you guys think maybe the Nirvana thing was off-putting?

First, have you researched these girls to make sure they are reputable providers?

Second, girls don't really care what you look like, so I'd leave info like eye color out of your introductory note (this is not not match.com). Although age (and unfortunately race) can sometimes be important to the provider)  

This is fundamentally a business, so treat it like you would any other appointment. Would you call a doctor, and say, "Hi, I'm Matt, I'm really nice!! I'm 45 and have blue eyes, SWM, weigh 145. Are you located in XXX area?"

NO (I hope not).  

Say something like: 'Hi, [Her Name]. I noticed your ad on XX site and am interested in making an appointment, on Friday around 5PM, or if you are not available then, perhaps [alternate time]. It's ideal for me to meet in XXX area or nearby.'

Then (VERY IMPORTANT) : 'I saw on your site (or ad) that you require screening info. I'd be happy to provide said info, but just wanted to make sure that you are available at the time/location of my preference before I do so.'

It's also nice if you include something about yourself ('I like to read and hike in the Adirondacks') and also mention something about her profile that caught your eye ('It was awesome that you said you like Nabakov, I do too!').  

If you don't sound serious about meeting, and don't seem like you'd be willing to be screened, a lot of girls will ignore your email

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you can read details in reviews.

You should be looking for well-reviewed providers here on TER. No reviews should mean do NOT see.

Thanks all for the help. On some providers sites they wanted to know age ,build, hair color and so forth . That's why I left that information on the message. Thought all want to know that . I was wrong expectingit to like Vegas .I called the agencies and girls showed up . Called a couple independents ,said would be right over ,they were no shows. I just use agency girls when I'm out their .

I'm ignoring the personal and wondering about matters technical.  

First, check your spam folder. Check your spam filters.  

What about your phone / text? Do you block unknown callers?  Do you have a signal where you are waiting for your call backs or are you sitting in a dead zone?

"The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
But in ourselves."

"The fault, dear nirvana98, is not in ourselves,
But in our technologies."

My advice to you would be this: when you find a lady you're interested in, read her ad/website carefully and thoroughly. In nearly every ad I've ever seen, there are instructions for how to go about contacting her.

Just to use myself as an example, it says very clearly on my ads that I need prospective clients to visit my website and fill out my contact form (or, alternatively, email me with all of the pertinent info). Despite that, there are plenty of guys who will call my number (despite me having labeled it as text-only) and leave me a voicemail like "this is Joe, seeing if you're available. Call me back." I almost never respond to those inquiries.  

So give that a try and see if you start getting responses. If that doesn't work, the problem may lie with the ladies you're contacting.

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