Okay so here is my problem, now I'm still really new to this whole business but am really falling fast for it. So I have been with one escort on this site and after didn't really write anything about it. If you know me, I really don't like to talk about my experience and to me it just awkward for me but anyways moving on. I always research before actually following through to make sure that I'm getting good service and not played. When find other escorts that I really would like to meet but then need preference from other escort. Now given the fact that I have only been with 1 escort so far and have asked her nicely to see if she will be one of my referral. Now she said that she would be happy to be a referral on my account but has not done it yet and I do not want to be a pest about it. How can I show other escort that I'm safe meaning will not contact unless I am will to proceed if contacted or a setup. What do I do? Any answer will be of help, thanks.

I suggest you contact her and ask directly for her to whitelist you, assuming she's a member of TER.  If she isn't, all she can do is vouch for you when contacted by another escort.

Sorry for my ignorance, but I am also a newbie, can someone explain what is the whitelist and where would I find it? Is it on my profile or on the provider's? Then in the future, how do I direct others to it? Thank you!

"Many?" Hardly.  

He didn't ask you to whitelist him or give your opinion on Whitelisting in general, he asked a simple question as to what whitelisting is. I am certainly glad he didn't ask this question on your proposed "ask a provider" board.

Now to actually answer his question, Whitelisting is where a provider can basically vouch for a client on a permanent place on TER, the same as a client can write a favorable review for a provider. Very few providers will accept whitelists as their sole means of screening, even if you have dozens of them, but it still gives you credibility by having them.

Any provider can give you one, and it's not uncommon for clients to ask for a whitelist after a session similar to a provider asking a hobbyist to write a review for her. It's not exactly a "tit for tat" type of situation, but if both parties enjoyed each other, a little mutual vouching for each other is pretty common here.

Thank you GaGambler!

Not to discount the women's POV, but I know sometimes a newbie wants a simple answer to a simple question and not a lecture from a hooker attempting to indoctrinate him on how to play this game "her way".

Don't worry, there are always enough veterans here, both men and women, that you can usually get a range of opinions on any given subject. The only thing we ask in return is that once you have enough experience, but please not before, just do your part to guide the newbies that follow you here.

He didn't even know what the hell they are.

That's what some of us are talking about when we refer to hookers who try to indoctrinate the noobs into "their" was of doing things. They are just fresh meat, waiting to be groomed into perfect little "Stepford Hobbyists" by you. They are grown men asking simple questions. They aren't asking what YOUR practices are where it comes to something they didn't even know existed until they read this thread.

And some of us ladies do whitelist on a case my case basis! And please keep participating here, there lots a great answers to be found here!

xoxo,

Steph

I suggest that you strongly consider joining a verification site like P411. Also the lady you saw said she'd give you a reference (referral). That means when you decide to contact another lady to book with her, that then you use your first lady as the reference. The new provider you are trying to book with will then (hopefully) contact the original provider.

Whitelisting is not the same thing as providing a reference when contacted. Many ladies use it as one of several ways to verify a potential client!

Have fun and be safe!

xoxo,

Steph

Thanks to everyone with helpful information and to the rest of the people trolling this post, I say grow up and stop trolling. These post are to be answer with helpful information from experience Escort/Provider or other people. Seriously if you do not have anything good to say, then do not say it. Smh.

I asked a provider to Whitelist me and she said she couldn't because she was not VIP. Does she need to be VIP?