A question targeted at the ladies. My understanding is that providers don't want to be bothered with clients e-mailing or otherwise bothering them after a meeting.  So my rules off engagement have been a quick thank-you follow up and then no further contact.  Recently, I had a session which leaves me wondering a little.  During our meeting, it came out that I have never repeated with anyone.  Not because of any particular issue, but because of me wanting variety.  Well, this session turned out to be a total blast in every way.  Had an amazing time.  I am an out of town visitor, and therefore not a frequent-client candidate.  I have been lucky so far in this hobby in that all of my sessions have gone really well.  The difference between this one and all the rest was unique mental stimulation on top of amazing sex.  It took fun to a whole new level.  

Wake up the next day, and I have some funny and interesting e mails from her - kind of a continuation of the mental stimulation part.  I answer, but never initiate anything new.  She keeps the contact up, and we have further e mail dialog, which I enjoy, as much of the content is flattering.  After the session, I was on the tipping point of breaking my no-repeat rule, but kept those thoughts to myself.  I finally hint in e mail that I am considering breaking the rule, and she provides some very subtle support for the idea.  Nothing pushy.  I then confirm after more dialog that I will repeat.  Which is well received.  She then goes back to the conversation we had been having.

My conclusion to all of this is that she is highly perceptive, and that this follow-up was a well executed marketing plan.  I have not answered her latest e mail, which did not really invite any kind of answer, and do not intend to re-initiate unless it is to book again.  My conclusion is that her objectives have been met, and that further contact by me will be unwelcome.  I would be happy to keep the dialog up until the next meeting, but I don't want to be a pain in the ass.  Date for next meeting is unknown.  

Is my view that all of this was simply effective marketing too cynical?  The answer to that changes nothing.  I will repeat, perhaps many times, as this girl is exceptional in many ways.

I almost always send a email, thanking them, telling them how much fun I had, and cant wait to play again...

Very generic however genuine email.

Now, if she SPECIFICALLY emailed you something about which you two were talking about last night, then this is a SINCERE email to just talk to you. Actually, It says the time you spent with her, and your conversation was enough to stick in her head to email the next day.

I do not think this was a ploy. I think she may have generally just liked emailing you!

If she stops responding yo your emails, or her answers start becoming short, then that will be a sign to me...

You can always say something about you are enjoying these emails, and you know her time is valuable, and you dont want to taker time away from anything else. You also do not want to become a annoyance to her, so if she ever starts to feel this way, to let you know.

Dude of course it's marketing. Did you have a good time? Was she hot? Did she make your nipples hard? A woman that is a good time and follows up will 90% of the time get at least one more visit from me. Over the course of my hobbying my best provider relationships were with ladies who kept in contact with me even when they knew I wasn't coming their way. I'm not talking everyday or every week or even every month, but you need to keep in touch. Many erase contacts they haven't heard from in a while. my 2 cents worth

she is contacting you and at least ATTEMPTING to have a conversation, even if it is just a "hey how is life treating you"

Versus

the only time she contacts you is to find out when you are seeing her again, or to give you a one time only special, if you come see her, or to tell you when she is coming to your area...

 
I mean BOTH are being done because she wants your business.... but at least the first way she is not making it cold, and and business like...

If you want to see her again...see her again. Don't over analyze and don't play mind games. This isn't 'that' world. It's up to you if you want to or you can continue moving on to the next gal. It just depends what you look to get out of the experience, nothing more. Good luck, but always keep it simple.

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Everything we do with you is a part of our business, if you want to look at it that way. The fact that I am typing this is part of my marketing. It doesn't make what I type any less sincere or true for me.

She obviously enjoyed your company- so just enjoy that fact and don't stress. And consider yourself lucky to have found someone with whom you click!

I have four providers who I consider to be "in my rotation", two of whom I see any time they visit DC and the other two are local.

One of the four is the most intimate experience I have ever had, civilian or provider.  It is the intimacy that she markets, and she just provides an extraordinary experience.  She and I have pretty consistently contact with eachother, probably once a week or so by PM or email, even though I "only" see her about every six weeks or so and we have only had two dates so far (we are due!).  She encourages and sometimes even initiates this, it only adds to the experience when you are together with her.

Depends on you, and depends on the lady.  Not sure anyone can actually answer this for you.  You would think it would be the lady I have seen close to 25 times with whom I would have the consistent personal communication, but that is not her thing and that is just fine, I don't need to be falling in love with her, already have a wife.

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Unless they are wasting my time talking about future sessions with me, then never booking.  I had 1 guy I saw a few times whitelisted him, than he would text & email all the time with no booking.  This went on for over a year, so I took my whitelist back & told him do not continue to waste my time because I had not seen him in over a year.

I erase all contacts, which is why I am on TER all day. If a guy wants to message me every day, this is the place to do it lol. I always appreciate a follow up email or "Can you provide a reference," but beyond that, I am on TER so get me here ha ha. If she initiated the contact, nothing wrong with keeping in touch. I prefer to erase everything after I see a person, though so unless it's someone who I talk to a lot, I don't have their info anymore. That's not how I provide a reference.

After my second time seeing a provider we've continued emailing me and she's asked if she can text me. That certainly isn't a boundary I'm concerned about, but it seems odd to me to happen so quickly and so I'm not really sure how to read it. being new to the hobby doesn't help me much either.