hey everyone, had my first meet with a provider last week and it was a great and smooth session
still new to the hobby so im very paranoid

see well reviewed providers who have reviews by established reviewers.  Do the research on her, check reviews, google the pics, google the phone number.  It might help to join one or more of the verification sites, Preferred411 will work with you to verify you.

the texting, IM crap.  Are you understanding?  Not r u.

... to know for certain if a provider has been "flipped" and is working for the cops.  

the p0int of txt kommunication in an unformal enternet settin is to get ur p0int across two the other party as convinent as possible and not to be an engrish nazi, fornuately providers i have spoken to r all internet txt friendly and not engrish nazis

except when you are actually texting. To use text speak when posting or emailing is a sign of laziness and disrespect to the recipient of the message.

If you want respect here, you will have to give it first, and one of the first signs of respect around here is to write in proper English.
Do as you wish, but outside of the Newbie board where we are required to be nice you most likely will catch a lot of flack for your lazy way of expressing yourself. Take my advice or not as you see fit, but I've been around here a long time and I know of what I speak.

Which btw ur mor likely to gt in trbl w LE.

ok i apologize if i came off as rude but my OP didnt really contain much txt slang, only are replaced with r or you replaced with u, and plus im doing this from my phone so i felt it was unnecessary to point it out especially since he didnt contibute to the thread

I am new to this community but is this really how it is? He seems like a genuine guy with decent intentions and is getting put on blast for using "r" and "u"?  haha excuse my language then: LOL

...this is a place where we have all the "characters" we need so we use them. Yellowfever's dismissive reply and his poor advice to a newbie being a newbie himself in an earlier thread is what has caused a mild admonishment pointed in his direction.

...you were not honest with a provider about your age. I said poor advice, I think poor example applies as well. I didn't say bad advice but I probably should have. What you do effects you but telling a 19 yr old not to divulge his age to a provider is very bad advice. Seeing someone who needs to trust you in this business where we all do everything we can to be safe, discreet, and trustworthy then being dishonest by withholding his age makes her wonder what else did he lie about or not tell her. She won't be happy and therefore niether will he.  

How can he say he goes to LI to see "providers" (plural) when he just said he had only just seen his very first.

That makes him a liar to the rest of us as well as the provider/s that he sees.

Some of us have been doing this since a long time before you were even born. please don't think you are going to be putting one over on us, and if you continue to try to deceive the hookers that frequent this board, you are going to end up on a lot of DNS lists as is any other noob who follows your advice.

Now go stand in the corner until you have earned the right to be giving advice instead of asking for it.

(oh for the record, my last two paragraphs were obviously NOT directed towards xyz)

lol i dont think it was a lie rather a misunderstanding
LI isnt a good place for good providers or at least rarely, so when i am as close as i am to the Big Apple, then manhattan is the obvious choice, i dont plan on seeing any providers in LI in the near future and all the providers that i do plan on seeing in the near future r in manhattan so yea.................. i go to nyc to see provider(s)  

to be clear, i understand that most providers will ask for age however when i told him "dont say ure 19" VOLUNTARY it isnt the same as telling him to withholding info or deceiving a provider, and like i said before if a provider asked him for it, thats another story

Short answer is that you can do whatever and MOST of the time you will be fine in terms of LE.  Mine the percentages.

I've been  an active hobbyist for about 15 years now and I can honestly say that if you take the time and do your research on TER and stick with well reviewed ladies, your LE concerns will not be a problem. Nothing is ever 100%. Be safe and have fun.

Do you really think that parsing words is going to make us believe your intentions were honorable?  P4P might be illegal, but most of us try to be as above board and honest as possible, if you are going to become a respected member of this community, I would suggest you remember that.

My advice is to take a deep breath, sleep on what I just said, and come back tomorrow and try again. and just remember, some of us have been around this game for decades, you aren't going to outsmart us. We may occasionally give you a pass on something too trivial to make a big deal out of, but you are like the kid who tries to tell his parents the very same lies that they told at the same age. Please don't insult our intelligence by doing the same thing here.

i think this is blown way out of proportion, ive said it numerous times: i understand that  i am new and there is much more to be learned BUT i will not be called out on something i AM NOT and i am not a liar nor trying to deceive a provider

thanks it was what i was thinking but i was just very paranoid  but i guess now i can have more piece of mind

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Just like Sultry was able to peg you as arrogant after just a couple of posts.

If you really want advice, stop being so defensive and simply accept the very good advice you have been given, if you want to argue, go to the GD board where you can get all of that kind of "discussion" that you could possibly want.  and just remember, this is the members being NICE to you as the rules of this board require us to be, if you want to know how we really feel, come over to GD and we can talk about it. lol

so i stated i have only seen one provider and u claim it is a lie because ive used provider(s) plural in another statement, but why would one lie about seeing only one provider? wouldnt it benefit me that i actually have seen multiple provider(s) instead of just one? why would i lie about seeing only one? if anything wouldnt it be the opposite, lying about seeing multiple providers when ive only seen one?  

and I constantly re evaluate people as they grow here and mature, just because you started in a hole doesn't mean you have to stay there, but the first rule of getting out of a hole once you find yourself in one is to "Quit Digging"

You aren't going to make any friends here by digging in your heels and refusing to accept what we say.  I am not going to parse words here, just accept the fact that you might have started off on the wrong foot and resolve to do better and in a week or two we will have forgotten completely about your rather inauspicious beginning. OR you can remain belligerent and argumentative and prove I was right about you all along.

What am I looking for when googling the phone number?  I would imagine the registered name is different or even a different individual.

Feminine intuition whispers, "This entire thread, is a complete ruse".