I had an interesting thing happen whilst seeing my second client. He said something to me that got me thinking. I believe his exact words were "You're too good of a girl to be doing this." Now let me be absolutely clear: I do NOT believe that I'm "too good" for this. The ladies in this business have, IMO, shown themselves to be women of the highest caliber (London, Nikki, Kendall, Ally, Natalia, etc...I'm talking about you ). I personally don't believe that anyone is "too good" or "not good enough" for this.

Having said that, it still got me thinking about a lot of things. Mostly the risks. It's very hard for me to lie to the people that I love. I've always been an open book and it's hard for me to flip the switch on that and start leading a double life. It's for a noble purpose (my education), of course, but I know for a fact that some of the people in my life would be devastated if they knew (some would undoubtedly even cut ties with me). Is it worth the guilt? Is it worth the risk of losing my loved ones, my good name, or my clean record? On top of that, is it even fair to my clients?

Beyond that, I'm 23. I'm a kid and I can recognize that. I probably haven't had the life experience necessary to process this stuff completely. I'm afraid that I'll get in "too deep," so to speak and won't be able to get out when I want to (let's face it, the money is DAMN good and my liberal arts degrees aren't exactly going to put me in the Fortune 500).

I'm not sure what my point is, but I figure y'all may have some insight/advice. Lay it on me.

We can't help much here. Every hobbyist and provider who has done this for long enough, at some point, has gone through this battle. If they say they haven't, they are lying, or just not human...

I personally was raised in a very religious family and went to similar kind of emotions. I started hobbying at ripe old age of 21.  It took me about 9 yrs to come to peace with hobbying. It was a hard battle, and I am glad to have fought it and come out victorious on the other end..

You will have to make some tough choices..

Great pay vs Not so great Pay
Lying to Relatives and Friends vs Keeping Quiet vs Telling them complete truth
BF in monogamous relationship vs BF who knows about your escorting vs BF who is in the dark

Sorry, I don't have any advice, just perspective....

Good luck....

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It is a guy's way of saying he feels sorry for us somehow, and is in no way a compliment. Don't take what these guys say to heart or at least do so with a grain of salt. Some men are still deluded into thinking that all of us are abuse victims, broken, or addicted to drugs and they make those statements to blindly suggest it.

Next time you hear that "Captain Save a HO" drivel, look him dead in the eye and say, "Why thanks, because I think you're too good of a guy to be cheating on your wife with a hooker" lol. He is also the prime candidate for a Sugar Daddy, so present him with that option lol. He already does not want his "good girl" doing random men, so offer him to pay you x amount per month to see only him ha ha. Win/Win!

At your age, there would have been no way I was mentally prepared to deal with this business, so that part is possible...that you might just not be "ready." This is why I suggested the FBSM route, because it allows you to skip all the kissing, touching, and sex part. I find most women who are new to the biz do better not going the gfe route to start, because it does take a toll. I was the same way when I started out...no gfe, and only one pop. It was a non intimate service for less money, but it was not as trying on my freaking soul either.




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What the heck was he doing there being your client if he views what you do as something bad?   Sounds like a dick to me.
I am at a point in my life where I become more libertarian every day.  I think it is ridiculous for society to pass judgement on what we do in our own private lives and even more incensed that society thinks it can make it illegal for you to offer a service that is quite natural, and quite obviously yours to share however you wish.
Sorry, ranting there for a minute.  You will no doubt get all kinds of advice on this, but,in the end, it is your decision based on what you can or can not live with.

... in this point in your life to evaluate what you are doing now is suggesting that you are not 100% comfortable with the decision you have made.

Your driving force to do the providing is to pay your college tuition. That's it. You don't have any other overriding motivation beyond that.

The issue that you are worrying about your family and friend finding about what you are doing "on the side" is overwhelming you to the point that you have posted your concern on a review board. That of by itself is a RED FLAG and something you need to look at.

The fact that you have gone to this extreme tells me that you are attempting to find justification and rationale for what you are doing IN CASE SOMEONE from your family or friends does find out.

Guess what? Someone from your family and/or friends will find out sooner or later. Someone will be asking you this question... "How did you pay for your college tuition?".

What would your answer be to them? Are you going to lie to them? From what you have stated, you won't be able to.

What would your answer be if and when you do get busted by the cops? Trust me, it has happened to every provider at least ONCE! I am sure that there maybe a handful that never got busted... YET. Their time will come.

What do you think that cops do to the hobbyists when they get busted? Those hobbyists will sing and participate in busting providers in order to get their charges reduced. I am sure there will be people in here telling you that never happens. But... it does.

How does the risk compare to the rewards? Only you can answer that. Are you PREPARED for those risks?

Serpius

Posted By: BadCollegeGirl

I had an interesting thing happen whilst seeing my second client. He said something to me that got me thinking. I believe his exact words were "You're too good of a girl to be doing this." Now let me be absolutely clear: I do NOT believe that I'm "too good" for this. The ladies in this business have, IMO, shown themselves to be women of the highest caliber (London, Nikki, Kendall, Ally, Natalia, etc...I'm talking about you ). I personally don't believe that anyone is "too good" or "not good enough" for this.

Having said that, it still got me thinking about a lot of things. Mostly the risks. It's very hard for me to lie to the people that I love. I've always been an open book and it's hard for me to flip the switch on that and start leading a double life. It's for a noble purpose (my education), of course, but I know for a fact that some of the people in my life would be devastated if they knew (some would undoubtedly even cut ties with me). Is it worth the guilt? Is it worth the risk of losing my loved ones, my good name, or my clean record? On top of that, is it even fair to my clients?

Beyond that, I'm 23. I'm a kid and I can recognize that. I probably haven't had the life experience necessary to process this stuff completely. I'm afraid that I'll get in "too deep," so to speak and won't be able to get out when I want to (let's face it, the money is DAMN good and my liberal arts degrees aren't exactly going to put me in the Fortune 500).

I'm not sure what my point is, but I figure y'all may have some insight/advice. Lay it on me.

... to add here.

When a guy complements you that "You are too good for this"... the guy is not being a jerk about it. He is saying that seeing your intelligence, how you converse and of course your personality, he is saying to himself, "She's too good to be true!".

However, never, never come back to a guy and say something like, "Well you are too good to be with a provider." Don't do that. All that will do is put a bad taste to the whole session and the guy will leave with a negative thought. You don't want that. All the guy was doing was complementing you... nothing more.

Serpius

Posted By: BadCollegeGirl

I had an interesting thing happen whilst seeing my second client. He said something to me that got me thinking. I believe his exact words were "You're too good of a girl to be doing this." Now let me be absolutely clear: I do NOT believe that I'm "too good" for this. The ladies in this business have, IMO, shown themselves to be women of the highest caliber (London, Nikki, Kendall, Ally, Natalia, etc...I'm talking about you ). I personally don't believe that anyone is "too good" or "not good enough" for this.

Having said that, it still got me thinking about a lot of things. Mostly the risks. It's very hard for me to lie to the people that I love. I've always been an open book and it's hard for me to flip the switch on that and start leading a double life. It's for a noble purpose (my education), of course, but I know for a fact that some of the people in my life would be devastated if they knew (some would undoubtedly even cut ties with me). Is it worth the guilt? Is it worth the risk of losing my loved ones, my good name, or my clean record? On top of that, is it even fair to my clients?

Beyond that, I'm 23. I'm a kid and I can recognize that. I probably haven't had the life experience necessary to process this stuff completely. I'm afraid that I'll get in "too deep," so to speak and won't be able to get out when I want to (let's face it, the money is DAMN good and my liberal arts degrees aren't exactly going to put me in the Fortune 500).

I'm not sure what my point is, but I figure y'all may have some insight/advice. Lay it on me.

Nobody on this board will tell you to quit...this is a hobby site, after all, and board participants are by definition going to be more pro-hobby. So keep that in mind when reading responses.

I can sympathize with your feelings. I too love my family and want to make them happy and proud. I'm fundamentally open and don't feel right about lying. And yes - I have absolutely become much more distant toward my old friends because of all the secret-keeping. It has made me a more remote person and that's not always a good thing (loneliness)...however, I've learned that if I'm happy and I'm at peace the people who love me (including family) will be happy with me...they don't need to understand everything about you. Just make sure you take *every possible step* to maintain online privacy. Don't assume that nobody will see your pics, don't assume that nobody will ever find out. Someday someone WILL see your photos.

If I had to do things over again, I'm not sure I'd do this...knowing everything I do now. I don't think there is a single escort out there who hasn't had an experience she regrets. There are sleazy people out there (guys and girls) and this business can also be sleazy (reviews being one way, w/so much pressure for high ratings especially in areas where it's very competitive). However, I've had experiences I wouldn't take back for the world and have met some amazing people.

I feel that you're probably hooked already...or if you do decide to quit, the next time you are running short on bills you are going to think of that quick $500 you made just in 1-2 hours sipping wine with a nice gentleman...so my best advice to you is: Keep a life outside of escorting. This is a great secret life, a great escape, a great way to make some extra income. Don't let it become anything else and don't let your guard down. Be whatever else you are first, and escort second (or third, or fourth, or fifth). Put your *life* first or else you will feel very unfulfilled and very lonely.

Also, don't trust all girls (I'm not directing this at the ones who responded to you). Some girls are great people. Some are decidedly NOT...you will unfortunately learn to be less trusting as you meet more people.

Above all: don't every compromise your safety, comfort, or principles (when in doubt, err on the side of caution)...and have fun Good luck!

He is just fear mongering.. A lot of women are successfully able to provide while still keeping the secret under wraps..

His posts are full of misinformation and broad judgements...

"Every provider has been busted at least once." What a fkin moron lol. So on that note, I guess "every hobbyist has also been busted at least once?" Stupid.

I have been in the biz over 10 years, and even if I did get busted, it would never go to court in New Orleans. There is a reason I stopped touring so much....too many nut jobs looking to set providers up. We ALL lie to our family or friends about this one way or the other, and serpius is no exception. I am so sure he had a sit down with his daughters and told them he was a stalking, harassing, hooker monger lol.

BCG, I would use this guy as a chance to get a Sugar Daddy and nothing more. If he thinks you are too good to be doing this, have him pay all of your bills so you don't have to lol. That is usually my comeback when guys say such things, and I have always heard it from day one. If I am too good to be doing this, why did you just pay to fk me?

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There are some questions that only you can answer.  All of us have different personnas.  A teacher, a bus driver, what ever...  changes hats at the end of the day.  
The very best providers care about their clients.  I consider myself a friend to ALL of my Favorites.  It takes a special kind of person.
There are all kinds of providers.  I've seen several "work their way through college"...  and then move on with little or no debt.  Providing is typically a younger woman's job...   You should recognize that there is life after providing.   You should preplan...  the right qualifications, the right funding, for your life after.  Some provide...  full time.  Others nights & weekends.  Some might only provide over the summer.  It requires a good business plan & desicipline.  
We see gals come into the business & others leave every day.  It's not all or nothing.  You are wise to think things through...  

Best Wishes,
HV

I have been told several times that...."You are soo young. You should get a girlfriend and settle down..". "Do you want to be really doing this.." yada...yada...yada..

It didn't bother me one bit. Not every hobbyist is built the same way.

I was more concerned about my upbringing and morality about paying for sex than what someone I paid to suck my dick told me what to do...

Don't mean to sound harsh, but please don't listen to this guy and paint all of us with same broad brush.  Each of us is different...

Tobi,

A lot of us in this hobby have a great deal of risk if this part of our lives were ever to be exposed.

There are many, many Mothers, Daughters, Fathers, Husbands, etc. etc. that participate whose families and lives would be completely devistated if all this ever came to light.

That being said, we each have made our own decisions based on our own individual risk/reward analysis, and chances are if you're a participant on this board, you know how that decision went.

I think deep down you know the answer that is best for You. As others have said, only You can decide if the monetary rewards of this lifestyle outweigh the risks associated with the possibility of being 'found out'.

You appear to be an extremely bright and mature young woman, trust your own instincts and you'll make the right decisions for You.

Chiguy

... post and honest sharing of your experiences.

Good luck!

Serpius

Posted By: tg_baby

Nobody on this board will tell you to quit...this is a hobby site, after all, and board participants are by definition going to be more pro-hobby. So keep that in mind when reading responses.

I can sympathize with your feelings. I too love my family and want to make them happy and proud. I'm fundamentally open and don't feel right about lying. And yes - I have absolutely become much more distant toward my old friends because of all the secret-keeping. It has made me a more remote person and that's not always a good thing (loneliness)...however, I've learned that if I'm happy and I'm at peace the people who love me (including family) will be happy with me...they don't need to understand everything about you. Just make sure you take *every possible step* to maintain online privacy. Don't assume that nobody will see your pics, don't assume that nobody will ever find out. Someday someone WILL see your photos.

If I had to do things over again, I'm not sure I'd do this...knowing everything I do now. I don't think there is a single escort out there who hasn't had an experience she regrets. There are sleazy people out there (guys and girls) and this business can also be sleazy (reviews being one way, w/so much pressure for high ratings especially in areas where it's very competitive). However, I've had experiences I wouldn't take back for the world and have met some amazing people.

I feel that you're probably hooked already...or if you do decide to quit, the next time you are running short on bills you are going to think of that quick $500 you made just in 1-2 hours sipping wine with a nice gentleman...so my best advice to you is: Keep a life outside of escorting. This is a great secret life, a great escape, a great way to make some extra income. Don't let it become anything else and don't let your guard down. Be whatever else you are first, and escort second (or third, or fourth, or fifth). Put your *life* first or else you will feel very unfulfilled and very lonely.

Also, don't trust all girls (I'm not directing this at the ones who responded to you). Some girls are great people. Some are decidedly NOT...you will unfortunately learn to be less trusting as you meet more people.

Above all: don't every compromise your safety, comfort, or principles (when in doubt, err on the side of caution)...and have fun Good luck!

I think it shows some degree of being judgemental to actually think a girl is "too good" to be a provider, in fact I think it's kind of demeaning. It's like someone is saying you can't make a proper decision for yourself.

The best providers I've seen have been ladies who have their heads seriously very well screwed on and put a lot of thought into the whole matter. My former ATF was a law student and a fitness model with amazing wit and brains just as gifted as her beauty - by all measures I'm sure your client would think she was "too good" as well but did those qualities make her a poor fit as a provider? Absolutely not! If anything it made her even better IMHO. From spending time with her it was obvious she loved the sensuality of providing but it was still a job to her and she didn't let it define herself. It was part of her but she was well conscious that it was just that. A part - not the entirety of her as a person.

The risks/rewards acceptability for yourself is a thing only you can decide upon but first of all, settle on whether providing is something you like doing beyond the monetary rewards. Your biggest burden seems to be the secretive nature of the whole thing. If you can come to terms with whether its enjoyable or not then perhaps it will make the rest of it an easier decision.

Idk if that helps or not, maybe I'm just talking out of my ass but I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide.

I'm too new at this to give any specific advice, but it APPEARS that you can come to terms with the fact that you're going to get comments from guys like you received (I say that just based on the tone of your post).  

It sounds to me like you think the hardest part is the secret life as well as what you could stand to lose if something negative happened.  As many have said, that is only something that you can evaluate.  

I can be pragmatic to a fault, but have you thought about giving yourself a specific period of time to get a clear picture of exactly what your life would be like if you continued your business?  Maybe 3 - 6 months.  Anyone can sugarcoat it, but you're talking about a job/business.  I don't know about you, but I've had (and have talked to many who have had) jobs where after the first few weeks, you're like, "what in the world did I get myself into?"

Like most everyone in their job, you're probably going to get better at certain parts as time goes by.  Maybe you become more comfortable with the risks as you become better at managing them.  Then again, maybe you don't.  But you will likely find out in a relatively quick manner.  

Just my $.02.  Best of luck to you in whatever you decide moving forward.  

It's like saying, "Only ugly, stupid, uneducated women should be hookers because OMG, pretty, self driven, career women can't possibly be smart enough to use married men for money whilst they use us for a nut" lol. Sadly, that mentality is often displayed by those preaching in this thread lol. Would you tell a Doctor she was "too good" to be robbing people because of their insurance plan? I doubt it.

I would never try to talk a woman into staying in or entering this business mind you, so that part I can agree with. If she is having issues doing this and can afford to get out, by all means do it. If you are crying or feeling dirty after every date, the money is NOT worth it.

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Honestly, I am taking what he said with a grain of salt, because based on his follow-up contact with me, it probably has something to do with jealousy. It just got me thinking, that's all.

And BAHAHAHA at "Captain Save-A-Ho." London, you're seriously the rad big sister I never had.

I personally would be very disturbed if I found out a girl was bawling or feeling ashamed after seeing me even if it had nothing to do with my own behavior. No matter how amazing a screw it was, I wouldn't want her to continue doing something that troubles her greatly. The needs of the flesh are easy to sate but the needs of the heart run far deeper.

Oh I'd never generalize you guys, hobbyists seem to vary to the same degree that the general population of men do.

Thanks so much for the honest advice. I'll definitely take what you've said into consideration.

I definitely agree with all of that. I hope nobody interprets what I've said as agreeing with him that I'm "too good." Personally, I don't believe in any sort of superiority in any vocation or activity. And it's been made abundantly clear to me that there's a reason that these women are so successful (beyond their physical beauty), and it's because they're wonderful human beings!

Agreed, per usual.

Maybe the sugar daddy route is just better for me. The only thing is, I tried it, and it seems like a lot of the dudes are looking for actual relationships as opposed to just poon tang. As I've said before, I LOVE sex. That part is no problem for me.

Thank you. I really appreciate everyone's insight and advice. I guess in the end, though, the decision is mine.

We all have differing points of views. His statement indicates he looks down on ladies in this profession. Personally, given my own insecurities I look up to the ladies that can do this. Especially the independents. they have shaken off the false shackles of social morality, religion (in some cases), and are more free then the majority of other people. Getting paid for sex? Hell, what guy wouldn't wish for that job?

Posted By: BadCollegeGirl

I definitely agree with all of that. I hope nobody interprets what I've said as agreeing with him that I'm "too good." Personally, I don't believe in any sort of superiority in any vocation or activity. And it's been made abundantly clear to me that there's a reason that these women are so successful (beyond their physical beauty), and it's because they're wonderful human beings!

... that being a sugar baby is the path to life long financial security, you are sadly mistaken.

If you take the number of successful providers and successful sugar babies, the number of sugar babies who are successful is VERY, VERY small!!

If that's what you want to do... go for it. Just stay away from TER.

TER is not for sugar babies or whining self-entitled bitches.

Serpius

Posted By: BadCollegeGirl

Re: I agree MIdboss. Anyone thinking this is a compliment to a woman, is a moron. Agreed, per usual.

Maybe the sugar daddy route is just better for me. The only thing is, I tried it, and it seems like a lot of the dudes are looking for actual relationships as opposed to just poon tang. As I've said before, I LOVE sex. That part is no problem for me.

Did I just get called a whiny bitch by the same guy who told me that he wouldn't offer advice to me anymore due to my fondness for a certain fellow provider?

Brb, I have to clean up these tears of laughter.

... that being a sugar baby is the path to life long financial security, you are sadly mistaken.

If you take the number of successful providers and successful sugar babies, the number of sugar babies who are successful is VERY, VERY small!!

If that's what you want to do... go for it.

This is a REVIEW website, not for sugar babies or whining self-entitled women. TER provides a service for hobbyists to REVIEW women who are HARD WORKING and get rewarded with good reviews and other benefits for the job well done.

Tobi, make up your mind and stop whining about it.

Serpius

Posted By: BadCollegeGirl

Agreed, per usual.

Maybe the sugar daddy route is just better for me. The only thing is, I tried it, and it seems like a lot of the dudes are looking for actual relationships as opposed to just poon tang. As I've said before, I LOVE sex. That part is no problem for me.

Who the hell is "whining" here, other than you because she told you to piss off via PM, after finding out how NUTS you are? Go play in traffic Herpius!

Is let the words of a suck-up captain save-a-ho rattle you. Do what makes you happy. A guy who just paid you for an hour of sex really doesn't know the first thing about what makes you tick...

It makes HIM feel like he is not having sex with a sex worker.  

Lina

I completely agree, it is a personal decision only you can make, the risks are out there but minimal if you are smart about things. Be careful and keep guys at arms length, stalkers do happen more often then you'd ever believe. Trust isn't something that should be freely given in this hobby, protect yourself at all times and trust your instincts.

Without more details, I don't want to get into how your client "meant" that comment.

Regardless, I think you have to make up your own mind, regardless of what clients, providers or anyone else has to say. However, I do echo the practical advice that you should keep your options open and minimize risks.  This means very carefully guarding all your real world information. NO exceptions and be really careful with online information! Simple steps will minimize your risk of real world exposure, and you should take those. This gives you a clean exit whenever (and why ever) you choose to take it.

The other thing is that you should think about is your exit strategy. In some sense this is an athletic career and it has a lifetime that is short compared with the time span of many/most other professions. How and when will you exit? What's the plan? What comes afterwards? The ATFs I have are completely clear about those plans and I respect them for it. They've taken a clear-eyed look at the world and are making tradeoffs to get to a place they want to go.

You've posted a lot of smart comments on this board and you seem to be soliciting good advice and then taking it. Keep thinking. It's your life...

Eh, I'm feeling a lot better. Besides, I promised you a sesh eventually!

Very true. I'm glad I've decided to go the selective route (i.e. you! ).

Interesting, he posted roughly this same response earlier, but called me a whiny bitch (he apparently got it removed).

hello there! It seems like you have a good head on your shoulders and it is good that you are thinking about the possible outcomes being a provider could result in. I have met and read many ladies that do not care if they get arrested (obviously not too bright) and are much too selfish to care about anyone else but themselves.

 If you were to get caught or found out, no amount of money is worth it in my opinion. Life is short and family and true friends are most important. Life is about memories and experiences. It is awesome that you are in college and I suggest you continue and get your degree. Down the road you will feel proud and happy. A person needs goals and to accomplish certain things. Your achievements will make you a happier and a better person. You do not want to be on your death bed one day as an old woman and all you can say is you were a well reviewed provider.

 Stick to your plans and your goals. If you really are worried about getting too involved in this world and getting stuck in it, I suggest you either get out now, or get out once you have gotten your degree. Really it is up to you, and it sounds like you have some real thinking to do and maybe even a bit of soul searching. Being a provider can make a person lazy. The money can be really good, but if you do not know what to do with it then it will be a waste.

 If you continue to be a provider just treat your clients kindly, as you have been doing and have fun with it and be smart about the money you make. Being a provider truly is a gift. I know many say, Ohhh anyone can do it, but I say not true. Anyone can open their mouth and spread their legs. The women that are well reviewed, smart, drama free, and take care of themselves and their clients are head of the class.

I am thankful for being a provider and I enjoy the great people I have met, and for what being a provider has given me and allowed me. But I know I cannot be one forever. I want more, I am capable of more. I too am furthering my education because I want to keep improving and succeeding. I am happy that I can make others happy but I want to make myself and my parents proud. My parents and sister have no clue what I do. They would NOT be happy if they found out but I have managed to keep it from everyone.

I wish the best for you! I have heard some wonderful things about you. I applaud you bringing your thoughts to the boards.

You have to do what you feel comfortable with.  If you don't feel comfortable with what you are doing, find another option.  There are always other options.  Ask yourself if this will bother you when you are 30 and have your first baby girl.  Can you simply bury the past?  Maybe that is quite possible.

As everyone else said, it's really up to you.  But make sure to first consider all of the benefits and risks, not just the immediate ones.

Hope no cars are damaged if he chooses to follow it though.

I would also like to add a little.  The "Captain save a ho" is kind of imprinted on the male DNA.  Men often feel the desire to be the knight in shining armor to a damsel in distress.  

The gentleman also only knows the provider persona you have shown and he has created in his mind.  That individual is the one he feels may need saving.  This does not necessarily related to you the person.  You may well be a more stable and secure person than the one he envisions in his mind and even more stable and secure than he is.  Remember the men are paying for a fantasy.

On a personal note I would never tell a lady that she is too good to be a provider.  That is her choice.  I look at it in the context that anyone who has a job provides a service for a fee.  While most jobs are not as intimate as having sex the concept applies.  I would never assume I know enough about a ladies personal life and situation to tell her what is best for her future.  Is there an amount of money that would cause me to switch careers and provide sex to a few ladies a week. Damn right there is.  Would there be days I would not enjoy it. Definitely.

Lastly, we all have secrets we keep from others in our lives.  Is there a chance of getting caught and having to face the consequences, yes.  Some are worse than others.   Only you can decide if the rewards are worth the risk.  No one can guarantee you the secret will never come out, but being careful and listening to the right people can help reduce the odds that it will.

I think this, "It's for a noble purpose (my education)", is the most questionable part of your post.  

I am reading (Time, Newsweek, WSJ, NY Times, ...) more and more and more about young people incurring huge debts to get a bachelor's degree with no hope of ever paying off that debt due to the lack of "REAL" jobs in their fields of interest or fields they love.

No need to answer, but what are your long-term education - career plans?  A BA in English or Spanish will put you in a giant pool of others competing for very generic low paying, maybe part-time jobs. A BA in Music will get you a job waitressing while waiting for your next gig.  A BA in Computer Science will get your resume on Monster.com waiting for a call from google or microsoft who want to outsource their programming to India anyway.

Planning on post-bac professional school in Law or Medicine or an MBA? Look at the unemployed, debt ridden professionals out there.  It's not the 70s or 80s when most grads could land a job with big money at big companies.  In Medicine, the future of MD income is not rosy.  It will still be bigger than Wal-mart pay but many MDs graduate with very high debt that takes them years to pay off.

If you DO continue to be BadCollegeGirl, practice good money management and plan for the future. Don't blow what seems like big money now on silly stuff (a $600 snake skin belt?).

GOOD LUCK, whatever you choose to do!

like you; working their way through college or just finished college and trying to get their student loans paid off. Most years there is at least 1 provider off my "short list of favorites" that retires because she either has met her financial goals or maybe has met Mr. Right and plans to settle down.

There are other providers I have seen that do this as a side business while working a 9-5 type job. Several have said that "if I enjoy sex, I my as well get paid for it."

As a provider, you need to be a very good actress. As long as hobbyists think that we are getting your "A game", we will be happy. There have been times when I have thought that I could / should try to "save this girl", but then I re-focus and remember it is a business for you the provider and a hobby for me.

Lastly, it is sometimes challenging to maintain a "double life" but, you need to keep discretion as a top priority. I have told NO ONE about my hobby and plan to keep it that way.

You opened yourself to these kinds of comments. Regardless, if it's a Newbie forum or some other forum, the TER forum rules applies across all forums.

Guess what? If you don't like my postings, you can always skip them. Are you capable of doing that?

My post hasn't been removed. So, I don't even know what you are referring to. Maybe it's your imagination.

Serpius

... assumptions that you know nothing about.

I have never indicated who was put in my Ignore User bin. BadCollegeGirl is not one of them.

Serpius

Hahaha I demand that you respond to all of my posts with AP references!

Thank you so much for your honesty and kindness. You're a gem.

I have two BAs. I'm in grad school now.

Well it's back now, so either my imagination is also some sort of premonition tool, then you, sir, just got caught in a big fat lie.

And I never "opened myself up" to being called a "whiny bitch." If you're suck a stickler for TER forum rules, maybe you ought to consider following them yourself!

By all means, feel free to put me in there.

And here's my two cents:  Unless he has enough money to take you off the market, he should just shut the fuck up.  As long as you are doing this outta free will, that's really all that matters.

As far as your ability to keep this secret...that's on you.  No one can tell you how to deal with that.  Either choose to accept what you are doing, or don't.  Stop waffling.

Just don't get used to the money.  Because at some point this shit stops.  And going from making about $200k/year as an equivalent to making 25% of that...well, many people can't make the adjustment.