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banmenow1131 24 Reviews 735 reads
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1. Yes, Mr. Fisher is amazing ... I have learned a lot from reading his posts.

2. I have found that offering and (if accepted) giving a simple back rub after the main action is over is much appreciated. In my experience most providers are pleased to have an opportunity to relax and have you rub and caress their back, and they usually recognize that your offering to do something like this for them is a nice gesture.  It's an opportunity to give something back in the way of a pleasant physical experience, and it's also a good opportunity for intimate conversation.

richboredhere1987 reads

So this will be my second time with a provider in the next few weeks and was wondering what the etiquette on pictures were. Does it go on a per provider basis? I don't need/want full nude sex pictures, most likely just a BBBJ.
Note: The pictures are for me and my friends, and don't plan on leaving my phone.

Another question comes to mind, the first provider I had was okay, and a little dominant which I did not enjoy - even though I requested a specific thing to not be done, she did it anyway. It wasn't that big of a problem, but I definitely don't want that happening again. Am I allowed to just give commands?

Also, the first provider did very little to let me touch her and get her off, so it wasn't as fun - I enjoy getting the partner off. Is this something that needs to be discussed with the provider?

Finally, posting reviews for providers that I find on TER - why can't I just enter a TER ID so most of the form is autofilled for me? Wouldn't it be easier for the TER admins to just have a TER ID to reference?

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mrfisher632 reads

1.  Most providers will nix the idea of photos for obvious privacy and security reasons.  A few (mostly PSE gals) do allow it and charge a fee.  If there is nothing on her website about it, assume that it is verbotten.  Bring it up if you like, but do not get your hopes up.

2. If a provider does something that you don't like (For example, squeezes your balls too tight.) just tell her not to do so.  She wants you to be happy after all.  If a provider did something to me that I didn't like after specifically telling her not to do so, it would be the last time she saw me.

3. Many providers are leary of letting a guy "pleasure" her.  Let's face it, we are mostly clueless about what it takes to get a gal off.  It's nothing to be ashamed of.  It really is rocket science and takes many years of instruction under a really good teacher to learn.

Nevertheless, many gals are troopers and let us fiddle down there with our tongues and fingers anyways while moaning about how wonderful we are.  How they stand it, I don't know.  In any case, every so often you will find a provider who just isn't into being pleasured.  Most gals want to be the givers.  You have to read the reviews to know before hand what to expect on this.

4. Sorry this is the way it has always been and will always be with reviews.  This gripe comes up probably more often than most.  TER management once said that the reason for this is to sort out unserious reviewers from the serious ones.  I suppose there is something to that, not that I like spending an extra five minutes every time I write a review, but it's not going to change any time soon.

Welcome to the hobby world.

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angieluv07706 reads

I love reading your posts, well....because they are everywhere!  I finally have to stop being shy and let you know that I love reading your posts, especially after reading #3, above, and lmao!  

It is obvious you know us "gals" well, lol.

MrFisher and OP:

I agree that reviews are the best way to figure out #3.  Some women enjoy giving and receiving, and if you are doing everything "right" they are often NOT acting.  Of course, how will you ever know?  lol  For some guys, being allowed to give pleasure, as well as receive is very important, so read those reviews if that is important to you.  However, if a gentleman wants the entire session to be focused on him, that is completely fine with me, because he is, after all, the customer.  :)  

I receive my own pleasure pleasing others, or else I wouldn't be doing this, but I receive increased pleasure from those who desire to do so.  Sometimes I feel so damn good I start to feel guilty, lol!  Especially if I am taking up too much time focusing on me.  

On a final note, please do not "pleasure me" unless that is something that YOU truly enjoy, or be like one of my recent "friends," who suggested that I pay him after making me feel good for about sixty seconds or so. lmao!  Yeah, right!

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banmenow1131736 reads

1. Yes, Mr. Fisher is amazing ... I have learned a lot from reading his posts.

2. I have found that offering and (if accepted) giving a simple back rub after the main action is over is much appreciated. In my experience most providers are pleased to have an opportunity to relax and have you rub and caress their back, and they usually recognize that your offering to do something like this for them is a nice gesture.  It's an opportunity to give something back in the way of a pleasant physical experience, and it's also a good opportunity for intimate conversation.

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inmyLPINdays942 reads

In this hobby, having a lady allow you to take pictures (and especially after you mentioned that it's not just for you but also for your 'friends') is very rare. If that's something that is important to you, my experience has been that ladies in the Nevada brothels are more open to this and even videotaping. They're more apt to bring it up themselves than you are.

As far as TER ladies are concerned, read enough websites to know that photos are generally against etiquette. Like Mr. Fisher said, you can ask but it may actually be considered offensive as it's not the norm.

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richboredhere828 reads

Thanks for all your input!

I won't be asking for photos then.

As for the TER ID gripe,  I just don't see a harm in prefilling the data for us.

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