I used to do two hour introductory dates, but I have started scaling back to an hour given that recently an hour would have been sufficient on my other dates.  But generally I find an hour to not quite be enough time.

I travel a lot, and due to personal issues, I never hobby in my hometown.   Having said that if the lady is outcall only I would always pay for the room or reimburse her the cost of the room.

I do not advise any provider to offer incall service.  I think it's the choice of the provider what she is comfortable with and she should go with that regardless of whether a client would like to repeat or not.  Otherwise she can get an outcall location for the repeat client and he can pay for it.

Just my two cents.

I like 2-hr dates. I'm a bit shy and like some time to get to know the lady a little bit before we start the intimate activity.  
I do outcalls because I have to travel almost 3 hours to the closest city to hobby, and then I spend the night in the hotel.

1. I used to always do 90 min. or 2 hrs. on a first appt. But now I save that for the second appt. if I really like her.

2. If a lady is doing an outcall, that means she is coming to you, whether it be your home, office, or your hotel room. If she paid for the hotel room that would make it her incall.

3. I always prefer incall.

On first dates, I prefer one hour.  Yes it may not be enough time, but it's better than locking in too much time with a lady, not saying you by any means, you might not connect with.  If I have a good time, it makes it that much more desirable to return for a longer date.

If she does outcall only, then no matter how you look at it, the client pays.

Incall is the lady's call.  Though for myself it is much easier and preferred.

Dates with my ATF have stayed at 1.5 hrs...  That said, I've booked 1.5 with others who actually told me "an hour would have been enough".  When I expresed my concern for running out of time, the lady said we would have finished even if we went over.  

I hate rushing or to be rushed & these days  always make clear I want an hour.

In call is easier for us but the cost of the room cuts into her profit.  
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if I am seeing an independent lady. (Which is all I do anymore.)

One hour is just too rushed, especially since the research I study on human sexual physiology always comes up in conversation, which then often leads to 'show and tell' and technique demonstration. I enjoy seing a lady excited aobut learning, so two hours is my minimum. If she is traveling to an area I am also traveling to, I will often make a longer date if I think we are compatible and it would be along time before I could repeat.

I won't do outcall in my hometown. Too risky. Wouldn't know how to explain why I was getting a hotel room when my residence is not far away.

I only do incall now also because I like the 'just showered' freshness of a lady who doesn't have to put on perfume. I had some ladies come to my place and although they were clean, due to taxi rides, etc., they had some of that 'city air' film on them. Since they didn't want to mess their hair up, taking a shower when they arrived was out of the question for freshening up. So I look for incalls, where I can freshen up myself when I arrive.

I never book 2 hours with a new lady. I've heard the "it takes time to get to know each other" theory and It certainly has merit. To be honest, I know within a few minutes if I like a lady or not. The "activities" are of course a major concern but I can do all of that in an hour. If I like the gal enough to repeat I will book two hours or more down the road.

The words "out call" mean that the guy pays and you go to his room.

In call means he comes to you. If you are staying in a room and seeing multiple appointments you pay for the room.  If you got the room specifically to see one guy then it is not uncommon at all for you to ask him to pay for the room.

I'm not sure what you mean about advising her to offer in call service. Again if we are talking about a situation where you are just seeing one guy I don't think it matters much if you call it in call or out call. In my mind the guy should pay for the room either way.

Robbin, I am going to add a different perspective to my answers, that coming from information shared with me by a very successful provider.

She told me she has four to five one hour dates for every multi hour date.  As the others have said, most of her multi hour dates are from "repeat" customers who booked extended times on subsequent dates.    

She has always done both in call and out call services.  She probably has about ten in calls for every out call.  

Initially, she would book a hotel for five days every week.  She had to change hotels each week.  She then found that she could rent an upscale secluded private condo for her in calls at a monthly cost equal to about two weeks' worth of a hotel room.  She said she is much more comfortable there than she ever was in any of the hotels.

Since she is in a part of the country with a lot of business and convention travelers, there are some guys who request out call visits to their hotel.  With any outcall, the guy always pays for the room.  She does not go to private residences.  All her overnights have been outcall to the guy's hotel.

One hour is best for a first time rendezvous.  
It may not sound idyllically romantic; but what is romantic about spending both the extra time and money on the company of someone that may prove your antithesis personality wise.
If a provider lights your fire both carnally and cerebrally it will only heighten the anticipation for more and longer trysts.      

 “Outcall only” locals are simply a problematic situation solved between both parties and their desire to rendezvous.  With repeat or repetitive customers a level of mutual trust has been established giving way for higher factored ancillary expenses.  

I prefer incall and one hour on the first date.  If the lady lives in my city and says she offers incall but needs to meet at a hotel, I would expect her to pay.  If she says she only offers outcall but I need to do it at a hotel because I can't have her come over to my place, I would pay.  However, with the variety of ladies offering incall, it would take a very special lady to get me to pay for a hotel.

When I first started hobbying I would drive to another city with more options and do an outcall at a hotel I paid for but the hotel rates were much lower than the city where I currently live.

Thanks, BostonGuy,
You make an excellant point...  if the room is for a single appointment...  the gent would generally pay for the room.  Usually the lady would rent it & he'd reimburse...  I ran into this once and was glad it had been discussed before hand.
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On a new date I'll always seek a 2 hour appointment. Reason being I am very nervous on a first meeting, and appreciate a little time to talk and become comfortable.

I have to admit that I am moving toward 1 hour appointments for those I have already seen. This is purely for financial reasons, as I would prefer to always have 2hr meetings. It has been a difficult choice to make, but ultimately I want to see them more often than I could by scheduling a full 2hrs.

My situation is such that I can only seek incall appointments.

For a first time date, one hour.  If it's an outcall, I pay.  If I want to see the lady again, I will e-mail her.  I usually will send a follow-up note afterward, anyway.  Most of the ladies I have met through TER have been worthy of seeing again, and none have ever turned away second meetings...in fact, all have welcomed them!

I typically spend one hour with a new lady unless she has a minimum time that is higher for new clients.  I have seen a couple of ladies that require 90 minute first sessions so you have time to talk and get to know each other before you start pleasuring each other.

An Outcall is an outcall.  The guy is responsible for the room, whether it be his home, a hotel, a date-pad or whatever.

I much prefer incall.  The ladies seem to be more comfortable since it is their home turf, even if it is a hotel room, it is theirs and they seem to be more relaxed that way.  The best for me seems to be ladies who have a seperate date-pad they use for the hobby.  It is not their home, but it is their place and they can get comfrotable there and feel secure, and free to have fun.

JMTC



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..might be desireable with you, Robbin!  However, back to reality, in my limited experience, I've only had one two hour session and I have to say I chose well and it was a highly charged erotic time with an awesome lady.  I intend to have two hour sessions with several ladies on my "must see" docket.  These are all business travel encounters and I prefer getting nice accomoodations for her to visit me.  Although location is not as important as the intimate moments spent with a fabulous lady.

Always one hour first date
Always one hour second date
Always one hour with doubles
Always Incall
So far