After I sent all the info she requested, after she checked my references, after she says that I'm all cleared and I'm in good standing to setup a date.
Can I after all that ask her if she (is GFE, does CIM or CIF, anal, just as examples) will do any of those, and of course this question is after I read a bunch of reviews of her, and I just want to make sure she does what I'm interested on.
Can I ask that? And I I do will she cancel and blacklist me? After everything she check on me?

Some gals might say fine, but others are very edgy about that so why risk it?

If the reviews says she does this or that, then you should be OK.  It's a bigger risk to get shut off by mentioning sexual services.

The problem is you don't know beforehand which girl will react which way. Until you gets ton of more experience, I would stick with Mr Fish's advice. Don't go there with the girls.

Not all is lost however. After round one, and you feel like you are hitting it off, the gal's guard will be down and much more trusting of you. That would be the best time and place to ask specific menu options that may not be listed in the gal's reviews.  

The more experience you have in p4p, you'll begin to realize that the reviews aren't always accurate for your specific desires. For example, I have been with girls that the majority of reviews have stated DFK and maybe I got LFK on occasion. But I have been pleasantly surprised the other way too, getting heavy DFK when the reviews said she was more of a an LFK girl.

Go deeper than the reviews though. Build a buddy system bc thru TER's pm system. You'll get more detailed and accurate info that way. One very highly reviewed girl nationally, that I have seen about 10 times or so, almost didn't happen the first time b/c her reviews said she didn't do BBBJCIM, a must for me. But the guys that got back to me by pm, told me she does do that, but she asks the guys not to put that into their reviews.  

You can also get great info if personality is an issue for you. I screen out high strung girls so I ask her reviewers about that as well, in addition to my fav menu options.

You shouldn't have to ask at that point.

Please don't.  Screened or not, clients do flip on ladies, screening is not fail safe, and you're likely to just freak her out.

Many ladies are not going to want no parts of that kind of conversation via email or phone.
Some might be cool with that but for the most part if someone asked me that he would automatically not get an answer.
You don't want to take the chance if she does cancel because she could think you are LE or weird.If you have a question after reading her reviews why not pm a couple of the reviewers?

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I think the reviews are enough IMO. Sometimes its best to wait for the right provider with 40-50 odd reviews. That's typically what I'm looking for. But using code in email to me seems like a red flag and not very discreet. Which is something you BOTH should be striving for. I tend to err on the side of caution though! Heck I asked for hosiery with mine and thought THAT might have been too forward. Just relax and let things take their course especially if you're a newbie IMO. If you do your research before hand you'll typically find the right one and she'll know how to "steer" the experience. Just my two cents worth! one key thing is to pay CLOSE attention to the websites. Sometimes they hide supple hints in the way they word things!

CIM or COF, COB, and some others.  Most ladies need advanced notice for a tour of the islands.  The only possible safe way to ask beforehand is to ask if she offers a PSE.  Ladies, correct me if I'm wrong on this.

I wouldn't recommend asking about PSE before meeting because using code words or acronyms isn't really any more discreet than asking directly. Like Keystonekid said you can be more free in your conversation after you are behind closed doors.

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Talk on the General Board has peeked my interest.
I have a date upcoming with a lady I've never seen before - my default position is to assume most would still consider this detailed sex talk and not appropriate to discuss if you haven't met before. (by email that is, once we've started activities I'd feel free to discuss of course).
I should also add, no mention of FCs in any reviews of her or on her website...

Thoughts?
I realize the logical result of my assumption above would be no FC on date #1 (unless she had on her) - so maybe I'm being too cautious, and maybe it is okay to ask if she's FC friendly ahead of time??

If you talk about condoms before you meet you're talking about paying for sex, when she gets out a condom for you after the action starts you can ask if she has any FCs.

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