do you think there is a ifference between great lover and having sex?  

The differnce....

It's not what you have.... It's how you use it that makes you either having sex or being a great lover....

If both parties are into something slow and passionate and one gives to the other with great passion, I'd say that's being a great lover. If both parties are interesting in the nitty-gritty of getting down and dirty ferocious animal style, that's having great sex.

nycad

I'm marginally average.  Hopefully one day I will be able to bring joy.

'Having sex' may or may not involve taking into consideration your partner's feelings, desires, etc.

A great Lover? Well, imo, you can't be a great lover if your main focus is what you will get out of an encounter. It requires, either through intuition, or by observation and sharing, taking one's Lover to a higher level. Can it happen in a first meeting? Possibly. But I find the 1st meeting sets the stage for what could lie ahead should both open up to each other. I recently shared an experience where we spent an extended time embracing, with not much movement, communicating through touch and shared breathing, bodieswrapped together on the bed. An onlooker would think not much was happening, but it was incredibly intense. You could feel the normal 'walls' and layers peel away. By the time we got to actually join sexually, the eroticism and energy in the room could be cut with a knife. Being a great lover means joining fully the mental/emotional/spiritual nature of sex (80%), with the physical (20%). Most couples don't get to that level of openness.  The journey never ends...

Being a great lover requires sensuality and passion.

Having sex is just going through the motions. I never just "have sex" what's the point? I still want to get off :p

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That's where Rosanne Barr said she stayed on her first honeymoon, The Izzit Inn.

Sindee one day we will have to try one or the other....

nycad

To me, if the lady I visit enjoys herself, that's all that I can ask.  If I can help her to orgasm, better still.  I never worry about mine...that is a given!

There's a difference in being a great lover when you pay close attention to sounds and body language. And to also "make love" to the other person how you'd want to be "taken care of".