1. What's your preference for how things go when you first meet a Provider? ie. Light chatting, light drinking, or straight to play?  

2. What do you do when you first meet a Provider and she's absolutely nothing of what you expected (in a bad way)? Do you continue with the appointment, stay for a bit to feel it out, or just leave?

3. (Besides free) if you could make your favorite rate and time, what would it be?  

Just curious.

*Oops! Meant to post this in General Discussion, oh wells. I'm still curious to know your responses.

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1. When meeting for 1st time I like to take couple of minutes for introduction. Usually I bring some wine (if lady wishes). Some light foreplay while chatting which leads into heavy foreplay and then.....

2. Never had a 1st time meeting so bad that I wanted to leave right away. Probably would stick it out unless it was obvious that she was a scam (bait-n-switch, upsell) in which case I would just leave.

3. My favorite rate (besides free, LOL!)  would be about 300 for 2 hours. I think that represents a fair donation for the lady and for me. Of course, in my region that would be below the typical rates that I've seen for the average range provider.

1. Upon first meeting a provider: Well, hopefully it doesn't feel like a first introduction. By the time I'm meeting a gal for the first time, we've had some dialog on TER, we've had some email chat and maybe some phone conversation. So It's not an out of the blue first experience. There's probably anticipation on both my part and on her part, but it's not a complete shot in the dark. On the first meeting, I like to chat a bit, be a bit playful, LFK and playful roaming of hands, a bit of DFK and go from there...

2. These kinds of issues have fortunately been far and few between. Like I mentioned above, I try to get to know someone, before I meet them. This reduces the possibility of not feeling a good connection upon meeting in person.  

3. Rate and time is such a subjective thing. So many things could be considered to pull that number out of the hat...
For a half hour meeting - I've never done a half hour... $250 would be nice. For an hour - $375 to $400 is very nice.  
for 1.5 hours - $450 to $475 is very nice. But again, there's so much to consider. If I've seen the gal a few times, does she reduce her rate a bit because I'm a regular? If she's new to the scene, does she reduce her rate, because she wants to get noticed on the scene? I'm not saying these are the rates I want, or this IS what motivates providers, these are just possible scenarios that could happen. There's like a gazillion other variables that could go into rates for providers. This is a lightning rod subject that's been discussed countless times on this board, so just consider my comments here theoretical.  

-nycad

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Just saw your post. Some answers:

1) My preference for a first meeting with a lady, is to have some nice, light, chatting. It's always helpful to have had some email back and forth prior to meeting (other than the obligatory exchanging of verification info) so the two of you dont feel like total strangers when you meet. Some light drinking is nice, if the lady is comfortable with that. Some alcohol can be an ice breaker, in moderation.

2) Thankfully, this has only happened on very few occasions and I always stayed for the full time. I wouldn't want to embarrass the lady or hurt her feelings in any way so I just think its gentlmenly to handle it like an adult.  

3) Very hard question to answer. I dont have a problem spending more on a lady that has proven herself to be elite and less on ladies who are starting out but the pricing is up to them. If you are asking as to what to charge, you might want to see what ladies are charging, average it out, and charge a little under that since you are new. Maybe? Not really sure but you may want to ask some ladies on here their opinion privately.

Best to you Luna!

LunaNYC I got few answers for you. When I meet a provider I always wanna chat briefly before we get down to business. To me talking is part of the entire experience. From the texts & calls before we meet to the moment we arrive at the location it should be a connected session. And even when she turns out to be something different, am gonna give it a try & then bounce. You gotta find a way to leave if you change your mind. Like one day I had an hour date but terminated it after 30 minutes.

Ladies with good reviews should get the donation they request or even more. They have earned it & many hobbyists can testify to that.

I didnt type that clear enough maybe.  When I said newer ladies should get "less", I didnt mean less than what they ask for, I meant less compared to what higher reviewed, more established, more reviewed ladies ask for. I wasnt saying to "short" anybody by any means! Sorry if it came off that way Koolmwa! Thanks for pointing that out!

Dgunn32, we are on the same page. In fact I like the word you have just used: ESTABLISHED. When providers get good reviews over time they become established & should be compensated appropriately.

1. In my experience, light drinking usually leads to the appointment time going WAY over (2 hour appointments turn into 3 or 4 hours, sometimes longer). Once she is able to relax, let go and enjoy herself, we both have a great time and forget about time. Light alcohol helps with that.

2. I always read reviews before seeing a provider, so I haven't had that problem. I would walk away if she wasn't the girl in her pictures or if she looks a lot different.

3. All the appointments I've had always end naturally. Neither of us are worried about leaving or having to go. They usually sees a few clients per week, so there's no rushing me out of the door if we're both enjoying ourselves and having a great time. For this reason, I am happy with paying top dollar since I am getting great value (i.e. extra time).

1. What's your preference for how things go when you first meet a Provider? ie. Light chatting, light drinking, or straight to play?  
 
Depends on the girl.  Always like chatting the very first time I meet someone.  But if it's someone I know, then sometimes it's fun to just jump each other's bones.  Depends on how much flirting and buildup we had before the appointment.

2. What do you do when you first meet a Provider and she's absolutely nothing of what you expected (in a bad way)? Do you continue with the appointment, stay for a bit to feel it out, or just leave?  

Never happens.  I usually know the girls fairly well before a first date, either from a M&G, or by communicating online.  The few times that I take a risk with someone, maybe a backpage girl, my expectations are lowered, and still, it's usually someone who's been reviewed, so I know the pics are accurate and whatnot.  In 10 years, I've had maybe 2 or 3 appointments where she was nothing like I expected, and even then I stuck it out, because I blamed myself for not doing my homework, and didn't think she had misrepresented herself anymore than anyone else.

 
3. (Besides free) if you could make your favorite rate and time, what would it be?  

 I love a long appointment.  I would probably say my favorite is 4 hours at $800, overnight for 1k.  But even at that cheap rate, I'd wouldn't do it often, because I can usually get 3 regular appointments at the same rate.  Maybe once a year with a good tax refund.

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When we first meet, I prefer a greeting kiss at the door to warm things up.  When this is done right, it can really let you know you're in for a good session.  A quick clean-up by me, then straight into play.  I like to chat during intermission.  

If she is nothing like I expected, I'll turn around and leave.  I do my homework first, so this hasn't happened often.  But I don't think with my little head.  I am baffled when I read reviews about people who stay, then bitch about how bad it was.  

If I could MAKE my favorite rate and time?  I would say 90 minutes for just a little above the hour rate.  I won't get a third round in during that extra time, so it's only extending a 2 pop encounter, giving a little more time to relax and chat, and shower before and after.  When seeing someone with an hourly rate of $400, I just can't justify an additional $200 for that 30 minutes.

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Sitting down for a conversation and drinking will require time so the session is thus longer. But that's called hanging out & having a good time. Some providers don't want that. You gotta be on the same page.

If you are on a date with a provider & you feel things aint right, its perfectly fine to end the session & leave. There is no need to stay any longer, get upset & even have a scene.