Being new to the NYC scene I came in with expectations that you men...have yet to meet many gentlemen...sorry but true...have no manners when it comes to keeping a date.  The amount of no call no shows (even after I've had multiple wonderful emails back and forth) in the short time I've been here is sad.  then to be forgotten for what ever the reason when the date time has come and gone without so much as an I apologize I won't be able to make our date.  Is this common practice for NY because I find it disheartening and extremely deplorable.  Sorry for my rant but I expected better manners from the men of New York.  But maybe it was all in vain and humanity and grace really is lost in this world.

And I can't really explain it.  The guys I know take their commitments seriously.  I have very rarely broken a date and only for a good reason.  And always with an apology.

Sorry this happenend to you

had an escort pull a NCNS on me Friday. Well reviewed too. Shit happens. It's part of the game. The one thing I know is ... You never know.

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Good things will happen. Just stay on the scene and keep smiling.

If this is an invitation for some festive holiday drinks then abdolutley!  Lol. Thank you everyone for the responses. ...

Hi Sara,

I rarely post and in turn rarely rant so I apologize.  Thank you for all the encouragement it's surprising how alone you can feel in such a big city with so many people around.  I've heard of that phenomenon but it does suck when it actually happens to you.  I will not retreat and I will be back.  I know there are nice people here I just need to be patient.  It just feels good sometimes especially when the people you can talk to about this are limited to vent to some one or a vast sea of complete strangers who at least are part of this strange community.

...there are several wonderful gentlemen in NY. Sorry this happened to you. For what it's worth, I had a trip planned to Philly last week and the same thing happened. Maybe it's just the time of year or something, granted it's not an excuse. But definitely try again. Maybe require a deposit for 2 hour dates or longer or make sure you speak to the references and inquire about the client's "attendance" history.

I reposted my ad yesterday the day after getting in because I had posted it a week before my trip so that I could be prepared.  And so far only 2 wonderful gentlemen have kept their date after booking and chatting and sounding like we would have a great time.  Then radio silence when the time came for the date.   When you have a good handful of people ncns it gets discouraging and as someone new to a very large city and an obviously different scene then what I'm use to i was just upset and looking for clarity.  I'm not use to last minutes and guys that just don't show up nyc is definitely a different animal and I was feeling very unprepared yesterday and this has helped.

I think I bit off my than I can chew with this city.  I feel very small town and not ready to tackle this.  I'm over whelmed and not use to this.  I should go back home and regroup and see about trying my hand here another time.  Bless you girls who are here on the regular you must be fierce strong women. Happy holidays and stay safe!

DC might be small in square miles but it has a high number of residents and visitors - just like NYC.

With regard to both this post and the one directly above from a hobbiest who was angry that he was stood up, I think all the posters miss an important fact about both hobbiests and providers.  Many of us have experienced abandonment issues in our lives, which is at least part of the motivation for our involvement in the hobby in the first place.  Being stood up, whether by a provider or a hobbiest, can touch a very raw nerve having nothing to do with finances or inconvenience;  it touches us at our most vulnerable place.  I felt very badly for the young lady who posted here, who clearly was not merely upset about the loss of income and inconvience but genuinely felt lost, abandoned and alone in a new city.  Likewise, the gentlemen above who complained about a young lady not showing appeared to be motivated by more than mere inconvience (albiet I thought he went too far by naming the young lady).  In both cases, the result of the "no show" clearly generated deep unhappiness on the part of the recipient, which could have been avoided by utilizing some basic human empathy on the part of the person not showing.   Our response should be not be one of bravado  but of recognition.  Instead, I noticed a bit of scepticism in responses to both posts.  For example Devin"s remarks about "blue balls" marginalizes was can be genuine pain and loss (Devin and I have not met, although I hear she is wonderful, so please don't take this personally).  It is not simply missing an opportunity to get laid or losing expected compensation, NSNCs can hit us at the core of our beings as in many circumstances where our self respect is put into question.  I have been very well treated by the many young ladies I have met in the hobby, and can literally only count one NSNC experience (which did hurt my feelings, I would add) as probably my sole bad experience in the hobby (knock on wood, forgive the pun).   But I would say that in this holiday season we all endeavor to recognize that the men and women in this life are entitled to our respect and should not be treated lightly or dismissively without reason.

I would never do that. i am a man of my word and if we had arranged to get together, i make sure to keep appointment. I have gone so far as to let the provider know if i am unsure due to traffic i won't make it there by set time, to at least text and say i maybe  a few minutes late. Even if arrive early, i tell the person I'm in the vicinity but if they are not ready to take their time getting ready  for our date.

With the Holidays approaching, I'm not surprised. It's definitely one of the slower months.

truly insideful and well put!

Thank you.  After viewing the pictures on your website I now deeply regret not spending Christmas in London.  Hope you get across the Pond soon.

Yeah, there's a few rotten tomatoes around these parts. But most of us are good.

I'm sorry that you had this happen,  but just this a.m I had to cancel on a lovely French redhead because I came down wih a cold.  I slept a bit late today and missed her confirmation email. I responded as soon as I woke up and explained that I was sick and apologized for canceling.  It didn't take too much effort to give her some type of notice. I felt bad and offered to send her a deposit before future meetings as a good faith gesture. Sometimes life gets in the way and I have been guilty of starting conversations with ladies and not being able to book due to my schedule. That sucks for your ladies too, but it happens in life.  Ncns is pretty crappy though