I have been on TER a very short time and first let me say there are very lovely gentlemen here on this site. I have had the great fortune of meeting some and just speaking with many others. As a woman very new to this new world I have been welcomed with open arms, and I begin to discover just how beautiful I am both inside and out. I have begin to love myself more and more each day and to those men and women also here on this site thank you!!!

I now want to say there are a lot of friggen winers and all they do is complain talk negative about this world invite reporters into M&G and degrade women. So why the hell are they even on here? I mean call a spade a spade however don't make assumptions about men or women you don't know, or further more lay in their bed then call them names after you smiled from ear to ear with satisfaction. There are women who decide they don't want to be intimate with the husband any more so he waits thinking it might change and seven years later it hasn't he has grown 20years older physically and mentally and knows that he loves his wife or better yet he would loose everything he worked his ass off to make and then where? He would be in a world were he hasn't been around a woman in 25 years so he seeks a friendship to help him regain an inner strength well you take that woman who has been around jerks who degrade woman, for whatever happened in her child hood and they help each other see their worth.

So before anyone begins to abuse another without knowing the facts all I have to say is Karma is a bitch! We are all in this world together we have no right to judge or cast assumptions on each other until we walk a day in their shoes and even then help not hurt. Cause the statement is true treat others how you want to be treated cause karma is a bitch I know somebody who was an ass and he was struck down at a young age by a heart attack.

May we enjoy our lives as we see fit for us,

The nature of a board is that many people who are most active on it end up many times using it as their primary form of interacting with others.  

Having said that, I think you are doing yourself a massive disservice by pigeonholing people into a category and really talking about one or two rather isolated incidents, the M&G being the obvious one, which you have posted on several times now.

Let's be specific about who you are talking about or what threads you are talking about.  You will get a lot more informed and detailed responses this way.  Or maybe you are just looking to vent, in which case you should ignore everything I am about to say, because I am operating under the premise that by putting this on a public board, you want responses and not simply empathy.

Are you talking about bad reviews?  Are you talking about negative posts?  I am not sure what you are referring to, or who you are referring to.

You bring up the example of the client who sees providers because his wife is cold and not intimate.  That may be one set of circumstances, but aren't you also making assumptions?  How do you know why every client comes to see you or other providers?   Does every single client tell you his circumstances?  As a client, I know I don't tell providers everything.  And what I say might not be the entire truth, either...I might be leaving out details.  

I think everyone should be treated with respect, providers or clients.

I am talking about this statement after my post

The only purpose of that "party" was to connect prostitutes with potential clients.  Now, don't get me wrong.

Now I was emailed by this gentlemen who ran the party and I was going to go, something came up and I could not. What i don't understand is why somebody is talking on this website if they clearly have a negative view. I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE and if I get casted out so be it then thats what happens. I am a 39 year old beautiful educated business woman and I also own my very own company have worked in sales since I was 24, and I know there are other women on here that are just like me. Sorry I have dealt in my life with some good and bad and I stay clear from the bad and I know the good will know that I am good and I will always be okay and I will always remain the sweet passionate woman that I am just had to call a spade a spade thats all. Now I am over it have a wonderful evening everybody and all I say is we must embrace all and understand everyone is different.

Just thought it would be good to compliment those who have been so kind and state to those who have not everyone is different.

This is toward the comment it has ruined a lot of women and destroyed many families and homes. That is correct and as I stated we are all only responsible for our own lives.

1. If you make the choice to do this, just like cheating on your spouse with someone who you have an emotional ties with i.e. co-worker (then you didn't make a choice that was good for you, you can't do the act and not want to live with the outcome) thats in anything.
A. You can't then bash others that are doing what you once did (and for many still want to do)
2. Yes this life style has destroyed many women (again the same thing applies for women you have to be mature enough to handle) However for woman sometimes they have no another choice, yet they could come out sound body and mind if the gentlemen they saw were all respectful. And its not because they all chose disrespectful men some did there are mature women who still face it and it isn't right in the face could be behind the

There are men who have been nice as can be complete gentlemen then when they are in a public setting or on a review board they are calling the very girl and others they kindly enjoyed intimately hookers and home wreckers. Now that would mess a girl up cause it is a complete contradiction from the way they were behind closed doors.

Very similar to a spouse saying they love you they are into you want to make you happy and then when you go to be intimate they completely change it is now a task to make love to you. They put you down make you feel not so confident about yourself. Call you names or use sex to get what they want or they talk about you to your children.

I am just saying we are all here for the same thing and that is companionship, affection, passion, friendship, kindness, enjoyment and the list goes on however it means nothing if it is not authentic or real. I enjoy my friends some more than others and I only want them to see how special I feel to be part of their life and them my life. We can't choose to do something get called out and then bitch about it later.

Is your objection to be referred to as a prostitute versus a provider?   I guess I am missing the point here.

Many women here who are providers have skills well beyond that of providing.  Those are the ones I am attracted to, personally.

So this was just a rant?

I am sorry Blake, but I truly feel as though you are trying to use a fuck board as a way to figure out your own feelings and to justify your own actions. Look, a fuck board is NOT the place for you to work out this shit in your head, but I would highly suggest calling your local battered womens shelter and asking to talk to someone, because seriously you really need a friend right now, and the arms of strangers who are manipulative as fuck isn't the place to do it.

You are coming to a place where men flat out lie to the women that they have been with for years, and to women whose main concern is how many sessions will it take to get that new Louis bag..... its not the place to work out what ever shit it is that is in your head, and the only thing it will get you is a more fucked up head.

Call a counselor, limit your truly personal interactions with mongers, and by all means, quit showing your vulnerabilites on a fuck board where those who have ill intent will find you, read you and twist you up even more.

This simply isn't the place and the only thing your asking for is to get hurt and more fucked up than you already are.

Look Blake, I get what you are trying to do, you are trying to justify behavior that someone you have grown to care about is doing to make it justifiable and to fit into that box in your head that explains why such a good guy would stray.

Look, I get it. I do. I have been on the end that I have tried to justify it, but instead of stroking your ego or soul, I will do you a favor and tell you the straight out truth and try to save you a lot of heartache and confusion.

You hear what you want to hear because it makes it easier for you to do what you do and eases your guilt, but the truth is, you don't really know the truth, and you NEVER will.

Unless you have been at his wifes bedside, stroking her hand, watching her slowly pull away for physical or emotional reasons, you don't actually know the truth except the truth he is feeding you. Get over it. You are not his reason for life. You are not the first person that he has reached out to for compassion in 25 years, and you most certainly won't be the last. You will be the flavor of the month while he allows you to stroke his ego and make him feel better about what ever it is that he is going through, but the fact is, as harsh as it may seem, you are simply a diversion for the time being, and very likely it will never amount to more than that.

No one on the previous thread that you are referring to was passing judgement, but more so stating opinions that are theirs and that more than likely, they have managed to form after being around this so called "hobby" for more than a blink.

You seem to be VERY sensitive about the opinions that are formed about mongers, and seemed to have lumped them all into the same catagory as your "friend" and given an example of why this profession can be so "great" for women.

Now let me give you an example or two. I am very good friends with a provider. She is like the rock star of providers, and for that fact, a rock star of women flat out. She races cars. Rescues animals from shelters.  Drives a Harley, rides horses, and the bitch flies planes. And to top if off she rehabs houses and knows the market better than most on Wall Street that I know, and guess what? She's a provider and a Mom. She has her masters degree and she is a volunteer firefighter. Yea, like I said, this is a broad that is a rock star of providers much less women.

Guess what? She and her kids were homeless when she left her scumbag husband and pennyless. Right after she left the piece of shit she found out she herself had cancer. Never once did she use any of the things that were going on in her life as an excuse to short change anyone, including herself. She kept plowing forth and grabbing life the balls and living it.

Even when she was homeless she never clued anyone in to what she was going through. She stood up and said this is going on, and these are the choices that I am making and went for it.

Your friend that you are so busy defending is such a wuss that he is passively aggresively using you to battle his battle and to justify his own actions and you seem to be, excuse me if I am wrong, but see him as some sort of savior for saving you in a time that you are down and out, and quite franky dear, the fact is, he didn't save you, YOU did, just like my friend did. YOU made the choice to try to help yourself, he just happened to be the one that read you right in that you were putting off vibes that you wanted "saved" but the reality is, you, just like my friend, saved yourself. He might have given you the cash, but it was through your own actions and choices that you were able to get out there and take care of what you needed to he just was the one at the time that decided to pay you for your companionship and if wasn't him, it would have been someone else.

Do NOT shortchange yourself and for all means, do not give him credit that he may or may not deserve, part of the vows are "through better or for worse" not for better and if you get sick I will physically stay by your side but emotionally give someone else the tenderness that you need.

Listen very carefully when I tell you this. Everyone has a story. Everyone. No one is without some sort of pain and suffering, it is what we chose to do during that time that defines us. And please know this. Everyone is entitled to a break down every once in a while. I know that my friend that to me is the rock star of all women had one, but she didn't allow it to define her, nor has she allowed what she chooses to do now to define her. The lady that I am telling you about, she does it all, when she had cancer she made the chose to not let what went on her life to define her, but instead chose to let what had transpired in her life let her make new choices, and when she isn't sucking a mean ass cock, or flying planes or riding harleys or being a Mom, she  works as a firefighter in her township as a volunteer.... why? She figured if she could save her own life she could save others lives..... and not use anything that happened in her life as an excuse for her behavior, but rather use it as a reason to move forward. Seems to me like both you and your friend could use some of the same reasoning and stop worrying about about what others say on a fuck board and start wondering why the hell you are so worried about defending one monger and why you seem to not be able to recoginze that he didn't save you, YOU did. He is a grown ass man, he doesn't need you to defend him and if he does, you need to find a better battle to fight because any man who can't fight his own battle is no man, but simply a shell of a human being that will always find reasons to justify his choices but never with the spine to stand up for them.

I don't have any ill intentions towards Blake or anyone else.  But I do agree that airing out your demons on a board like this is a dangerous approach because of the nature of some of the people here.  The very nature of paying for sex and intimacy can lead to a very dark and lonely place when it is substituted for true love and intimacy.

Just needed to state that, as I was the only person responding to her.

Blake,

My interpretation of what you are saying is that getting together with a client is not simply a cold, emotionless physical transaction to you.  I have made a couple of posts (not my alias), where I expressed a similar point of view.  I was quickly ridiculed and told that the only reason any provider was providing positive feedback to me was because of the envelope.  I think that some members of the silent majority agree with your perspectives, but these boards have some very opinionated people that shout down others when they have similar opinions to yours.  Best wishes.  

I do believe some providers DO actually enjoy their sessions with SOME clients at SOME time.  However, it goes both ways.  Would a woman be giving you the same service without money?

I guess my point is...it isn't ALWAYS and ONLY about the benjamins.  And I do find it offensive when others try to jam their own beliefs and experiences down your throat.