How do you work out seeing a provider and then going home to the wife in terms of her wanting sex that same day?  Maybe it's different for the 20-30 somethings out there, but I'm mid-40's and two cups is occasional these days and certainly not automatic...The only time I've seen one is when the wife is out of town....So for those 40 & above, how can  you be sure that the day you see a provider the wife won't want it too?  Thanks.

Coordinate your timing with the days she is has her period. Assuming you don't be with her at those times. Good luck, be safe, happy hunting!

sex were mutually exclusive. In other words,the odds of your wife wanting sex on the same day you see a provider is about 1 in a million.

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I can do twice in an hour, but need a few hours to recuperate. Accordingly, I have sex with a provider during the day, and try to "finesse" having sex with the wife at night. At least once, however, she wondered why I wasn't interested, so I poured a tumbler of cognac and went down on her for an hour so that she'd have no complaints about missing the main course. Women are just like us in that category--nothing beats a blow job, nothing beats being rimmed and having your pussy licked.

simple

I have clients who times their outing with business trips, periods and when wives are busy with visiting family members.
But, also I know of some guys who just have one cup with me and save the second one just "in case" she decides for sex that night.
If all fails, you can always say you have a huge headache and need some aspirin and be left alone for a while. If  this excuse works for women all the time, it should work for you too.

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Variety is important too. And sometimes you want to eat at
Le Bernadin while other days TGI Friday's is just fine.

yeah right!!! I will believe you when I see IT (your dong!)

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I wish I had that problem ... Fact is, sex in the marriage is almost non-existant.

Anyway, you'd be talking at least a couple of hours to recover. I wouldn't think that was a problem. If you're worried about it, I guess I'd look into a little pill ... one of the faster-acting kinds.

If I knew my wife wanted it, I wouldn't see a a provider. But since she hasn't wanted it for years, no problem.

I thought a large part of the reason for seeing a provider was the home-sex-life wasn't cutting it...if you are getting it regularly at home why stray?

When there is NOTHING offerred at home.....

One of the cutest, but dumbest providers I ever met told me that married men are safer than single men because they have 1 partner and they go from the wife to her. I asked her what makes her think her married clients don't see other providers. Oops, she forgot that little detail. I told her I read her reviews and that most of her reviewers posted multiple reviews. There goes her married men being safer than single men theory.

I suspect that some women never get "horny"   I have been married for 40 years, and I am not sure that my wife's sex drive has ever taken that turn.

But married women, especially of a certain age, do want to be "close."    That describes my wife to a "t"    Problem is, I have my own hang-ups, which makes it sometimes difficult for me.  The fact is that she wants sex with me more than I want it with her.Remembering that she is almost 61 years old, there is no way that she can compete sexually with the beautiful, shapely and accommodating women that I see at this hobby.

But I will tell you one thing:  I would not be very happy being single, which for me would be being alone.I am glad that you are happy with the situation you are in.

Only that that is how I would feel if I did not have my wife--despite all of our problems.

In my case, the wife still wants sex, but only once every 7-10 days.  I'm never really sure when she'll want it, except during her period.  I hobby because I need more frequency and variety.  Seems I'll just have to wait for "that time of the month"

Married here for 16 years. Woman with kids dont want sex. Period. They have little ones who need and want them all day, every day, you and your needs are just one more thing pulling at them. It often takes till kids get 6-10 before the sex drive returns. My 2 cents.

BB99

It's about US--men--not them--women. Men want variety, first of all. Most women don't, although a few of the best women I've ever slept with "fuck" like a man. And the timing of a man's sex drive differs from a woman's. Not just during the month but over their lifetimes. As ANY married man with children will tell you, having sex with a woman who is 7 months pregnant is by far the sexiest fucking imaginable. Even I--king of kink--will attest to that. Nothing I have done and printed on TER compares with the sex when my wife was pregnant. Any married man will have stories that you won't believe.  A pregnant woman's hormones rival those of the horniest 18 year old male.  Jack Kennedy risked his Presidency to have Jayne Mansfield fellate him when she was pregnant and he rubbed her swollen belly while she satisfied him. [It's in the Hersh and Paret biographies of JFK] But as a women matures--and my wife hasn't gained a pound since high school--she develops a sense of her own worth and self-image. The same woman who would drop to her knees when she entered your dorm room for the first time will tell you twenty-five years later, when you want her even more than you did in your twenties to give you a blowjob in the uni-sex restrooms at Bar 89--"And ruin the knees of my Ungaro suit? Are you insane?"

We men change as well. When we were 18-29 walking around with permanent erections and with but one thought on our minds--SEX--we couldn't envision delaying sex --ever--to put the right finishing touches on that big deal. Or that promotion. Or watching your son at bat in Little League and actually doing the moves that you taught him at practice.

But, thank goodness for HRT. That's Hormone Replacement Therapy. Those hormone cocktails give women of a certain age the kick we men had at 18. A woman who just starts that will become uncontrollable and literally grope you through your suit pants and straddle your leg with both of hers while everyone at Chanterelle watches. I know.