I am writing this in frustration after being cancelled on 2 hrs beforehand on Saturday, Sunday, and Monday by TER members whose references checked out.

I just had an extremely unpleasant interchange with another TER member who refused to provide me with his name, stating that his TER membership and history of reviews should be enough.

In most cases, that would have been fine by me, if he had not been on the Blacklist TWICE by two different providers for being disrespectful and a serial time waster who will stand you up. To me, he was totally unfriendly and downright rude.

If a TER member proves  themselves to be a liar with a terrible attitude they should face equal reprocussions regardless of whether they are a provider or hobbyist.

Considering us providers are both paying customers contribute to the experience here , perhaps some provider oriented features should be implemented. Although I am new to this site, it doesnt seem provider centric in any way, shape or form, and when it comes to safety and positive experiences for both sides, there should be no sacrifices in terms of site features.

Any similar experiences or input would be appreciated.

a very popular site in Europe. It allows the girl being reviewed to make a brief comment by the review if she has a dispute.

My girlfriend had a reviewer state that she wouldn't DFK and she was able to say, "it was your hygiene please see ALL of my other reviews, I usually DFK".

I've had several guys book with me and then have what appears to be a lesion or cut near the mouth or other important areas and had to be open about why I was completely put off of intimacy.  We should have a place to make a small dispute, after all I think most girls WANT a 10/10 experience and to generate a solid base of clientele but not every guy makes that possible!

There's my rant...See you in a few weeks NYC!
Brennan

You said " TER member who refused to provide me with his name, stating that his TER membership and history of reviews should be enough. In most cases, that would have been fine by me,"

Why would that be fine?  ID's can be faked and on a site that awards free membership based on reviews, there are plenty of fake ones out there.  I would never expect to be approved on my TER Id alone.  Though the Whitelist certainly helps.

I meant a TER ID in addition to a name and references...
I dont trust someone just b/c they have an account here

You already said he was blacklisted so you had some means of checking the hobbyist out and elected to communicate anyway...and for the two who cancelled, I guess you can out them to your fellow providers, if you were offended.

I guess I'm not sure if your asking if the general TER boards/reviews should be a 2-way street.  

Although its always great soap opera drama I, for one, could care less what providers think of hobbyists, and if hobbyists are "generous" and "sweet" or an "ass" or whatever adjective providers choose to use.  And this would open a whole other can of worms too.

But you are right.  The general board and reviews are geared towards the hobbyists for sure.  Sorry for what happended to you.

Everyone has access to reviews, the good-bad-and ugly, at least other providers will be able to be informed of the unsavory fellows that should be exposed to other ladies.
A bit one sided, certainly, but you WILL be heard there.

Too bad I have emailed 3 times asking to be allowed onto the provider board and apparently I'm not "established" enough to be allowed to join.

If you see that a prospective client has bad reviews and a bad attitude, just give him a polite no thank you and tell him you don't care to see him.  Make sure it is documented in case some drama comes up.

And no calls, no shows and even late cancellations are bad no matter who does it.  This has happened to me, even showing up and being told that the girl had double booked and she was sorry.  Screening and a good reputation (men and women both) helps, but will never solve this problem.

Good luck and look into the providers only board.

TER is NOT a method of screening, there is no way to check if a man is even named "Bob" if thats his handle...Room Service 2000, Date-Check and Preferred 411 are site specifically made for screening, if a client doesnt want to give his info-he is probably a bad guy-rather than a "cautious" one- all the porn actresses get ALL THE INFO and credit cards- but indies are expected to go without anything....
I wouldnt take the risk of only using "review" boards. In this economy No_Show happens alot with all the street girls online now...

I would have no problem with the girl allowed a response to a review but only if I can do the same on the so called provider "blacklists."  

We never even get to see what's posted on the blacklists.  I've had experiences where I've detailed some bad behavior by a provider only to be threatened, etc.  Makes me wonder what they put on the blacklist.

So do you really want to share?

What I was hoping for was a more consolidated location as all of these "blacklists" are spread out and not linked in any way to TER handles and therefore difficult to search.

I am aware of the services avail to us, but it would be far more efficient  if they were centralized and part of this community.

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Disclaimer:  The above post was not directed at any member of the TER community. As per the TER posting rules it actually directly relates to the topic of the thread as opposed to being a hate filled barf of unproductive, baseless  negativity.

I have never threatened anyone with this... its not for reviewing guys or for petty things like lateness but more so serious offenses such as not taking "no" for an answer, theft, physical harm, predatory behavior, etc.

You actually can go to the blacklist and see what they say about you of you think you may have made it there if you like.
It is open .No one stops you from seeing it .As far as defending yourself to the commments on the said lists ..that option is not currently available much like the girls can not commment on their reviews. So I guess we call it even then ?

You can just google blacklists and come up with quite a few.In most cases as the OP said in the above post it is reserved for men who have somehow managed to do something so unacceptable ,even in this relm ,that they in the opinion of the provider left them feeling others should be warned of their inappropriate and possibly even dangerous behavior. I am quite sure no one wants to be part of that list .I am also sure most girls don't want  to be bothered taking a chance that the guy on the list has somehow rehabilitated his ways . Regards ,lianna

I emphathise with your frustration, but TER, as currently designed is "purely for entertainment purposes. We imply nothing else." as it states in its intro page. Having said that, there is no reason why the site cannot be improved by making the rating system more rigorous. It will benefit every honest person on this site. Any ideas how to improve the rating system?

I am aware that there are providers who get "fake" reviews posted and harass the reviewer and TER when they get poor reviews. I recently experienced a provider who termed a review fake when I asked her a question and in the process became very rude.

Actually, what I wrote had nothing to do with you.
You were not on the blacklist.... and we did not have an appointment that could have been cancelled, therefore I dont know how you think I was indirectly referring to you.

At this point, after writing untrue and defamatory things about me, I have absolutely no respect for you.

I wished you well and apologized that my rate was not for you, and included you in my special to be NICE and as part of a TRUCE.

Way to be a jerk about my attempting to be nice.

And furthermore, thank you to the moderator who made the choice to approve this very bitter individuals slanderous post.

... so what's up with that. All this moral indignation and you post fake pics ?

Thanks Beatpoet!!!

www.verifyhim.com does link TER handles and bad behavior.  Same with Dangerzone411.com

Not only is she rude but she is also a total liar (in the light of Kate Coquette's usage of model Brittany Oldehoff's pics):

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=2&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&SearchType=1&Author=katecoquette&DayFrom=50&DayTo=0&MessageID=176133&frmSearch=1#176133