I receive numerous PM's from hobbyists for information and advice. Many of them are single unmarried men and I haven't got the nerve to ask them WHY they pay for providers. All I can remember is that when I was single and unmarried, there were always women available to satisfy my needs. What has changed in our society or am I too naive to realize the obvious? I welcome any comments.

As a single unmarried female who mostly sees single, unmarried men...

We're all single for various reasons, and shockingly not because we can't find people who want tie us up in the knot! I'll admit that I've occasionally succumbed to a few random bar hookups, they are easy enough to come by, but man! What a nightmare. Days of random text messages, trying to pull at weak private jokes to demonstrate our "bond", followed by weeks of "why haven't you called me back?" and just a whole bunch of nonsense no one has, nor should make, time for.  

If I wanted a boyfriend, I'd have a few.  

Even hookups who promise no strings attach always feel we had some fantastic connection and would like to renegotiate. Changing my phone number was such a hassle before the advent of GoogleVoice that I figured I'd find much more respectful men here who would appreciate my desire for personal space outside of physical closeness.  

And I did The men in this lifestyle are generally fascinating, accomplished gentlemen and several cuts above whatever is crawling in the bars. Contrary to many people's perception, I see mainly single men, who for whatever reason would rather not have to devote the emotional energy needed to maintain a relationship (or fend off one night stands). Most of them are busy professionals, and unfortunately, long hours are becoming the norm in today's society, leaving scarcely enough time to do mundane things like laundry, let alone court several potential sexual partners

When you are a busy professional with a career why take the time to go on a date or 3 where a lady just gives you a kiss on the cheek. You pay to see an escort, it's a done deal, no bullshit phone calls, no stalking, no texts wondering why you haven't called. If I was a man I'd probably be hobbying lol.

Its gotten more professional now (a verifyable, quantifiable business transaction with standards & precedences); the quality of providers has undergone a quantum jump, its gotten EZ period, wysiwyg, the internet happened.......lots of reasons why its now easier (for the avg guy) to sow his wild oats...than even 10 - 15 years ago

...or maybe we just have higher standards about who we choose to satisfy our needs.

I'm not looking to get involved now, as I plan to move in a few months.

Though I've dated women 20-25 years younger, most of the women I'd attract would be closer to my age and at least 45-50.  I can see sweet, hot, sexy 25-30 year olds now that I couldn't when I was that age because I married very young.

It takes time and energy to find someone desirable.  In addition to being older, I'm very particular, so the overlap between those appealing to me and those to whom I appeal is small.  

Even if I meet someone very attractive, I don't know what she'll do or how good she is.  The average woman does not have profiles, numerical ratings, or detailed reviews.  Just about every provider I've seen seems to really like sex, much more so than the overall female population.

As noted in another thread, free sex is not really free, as the cost of drinks, entertainment, gifts, etc. adds up.

Having a date with a pretty, sensual, sweet, sexy woman where the chances of having sex and the type you prefer is just about 100% is a good arrangement

....i've had some who might not be married but be attached (girlfriend) and it can be something trivial as they'd been arguing a bit too much, she's giving him head enough etc etc etc ;p;

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Unless you are one of the soldiers in the movie 300, you are not guaranteed an instant hookup by just going to a club or bar.  You will have to wine and dine the lady before anything happens, and even then you are not guaranteed success.  After all those efforts, you probably going to end up spending more money and getting a lesser woman.  Also, you get to choose different combination as you please, blonde, chubby, brunette, spinner, busty, leggy, so on and so forth.  Just my two cent.

Thank you Taylor! You nailed it!

Well I guess I'm different.   I'm a fat fuck, losing my hair and I like my women to be very attractive.  That's why I hobby:  cause I don't want to fuck a woman that's my physical equivalent.  I want one that's half my age and fucking hot!

I didn't win the genetic lottery as far as looks but thank goodness I have a few bucks to spend on hookers.

On a side note, the providers I see generally seem to enjoy my company.   That's because they spend a couple hours getting to know me.  So there is plenty of time for the charm and wit to sink in and also I'm a pretty good lay.  However, if I were to approach one of these ladies in a bar, they wouldn't give me the time of day.  I don't blame them, I don't like to fuck chubby chicks so it's fair.

Also, the main thing:  HOOKERS IS FUN

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Horny !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

True dating is in the long run expensive financially, mentally, emotionally. Hobbying is straightforward fun.

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Men as you  are attractive  to women of own age  because they very well know  that young gil may be NOT attracted to you and  just working  for money .. it is  turn off...  does not ?
 
what kind of fantasy t pay for sex with some one who do not like you and never will  it is calls  self-destruction ..
 and not many men are in  sado macho  punishing themselves for being nice it is just a fetish . healthy mind  want to be desirable to partner and with  no money ..  
 and  it is why we mature  women have the  best you men here .. not just those who need only Greek for an hour foe 300 .
When I started do escorts I  earned crazy sexy reviews  so  many normal men started think abotu me as  about super energetic porno star and not one for  longer dates because hey who can keep up with such ??

 so  then when I almost lost few longer real nice appointments I realized  that my super  sex skills may be turn off for many normal man who are not  persue porno star activities themselves ..
 so yes ...
 as long as young woman is fantasy for many by some reasons  I guess for those  who have trouble to get them  yes .. ugly or fat  
 but for   well balanced rounded man it is not age  turn on but  how she conducts hereslf.. how she looks and how she enjoys HIM and HERSELF .
 on many occasions I was told - I do ot care about age i are about how she look  how  fan she is and how she is ready FOR me .. emotional availability ..
zest for life and man .  
 it is what my  lovers donate me for .. and .. reviews .. it s just a bonus..  yes ? good to know that she does it all as well :

So true.  the bonus for me is that the providers (I don't review sorry) I've met so far have been far more down to earth than any so called "woman" I've dated during this past year.  

I've traveled extensively in my former career.  I've been able to pick-up women with ease in nearly every state except NY.  I've had 2 girls at once twice in LA.  In Dallas, I actually got laid by a stripper who wanted to see me after her shift.  In Sac-town, I was mistaken for a local drug dealer and had women fawning all over me for an entire week....loved the fact that my hotel was right down the corner from the dance club But I digress.  NY civvie women have the biggest walls up, and checklists known to man.  They're mostly horrible in the sack I might add, and are greedy you know whats.  I cannot wait to move to Texas in two years.  I love that place....and their women...my God the saying of things are bigger in Texas is true.  Talking civilians here now.  The providers here in Metro are A+++++

As a single guy, I hobby because there is no girl friend or wife that have to be worried about cheating on. A single male seeking out an escort is not frowned upon by society. I find that many escorts seem to admire that I'm single and not cheating on anyone.

Also, being single in NYC does not guarantee by any means that you can get action without putting your ego, and wallet, on the chopping block. The women who are interested in me are not the ones I'm interested and visa versa.

Hobbying allows me to keep in practice until Ms Right comes along. If she doesn't then at least I can still have female companionship. Being single is lonely at times and escorts fill that need.