Being a new provider is both an exhausting and exhilarating experience. The anticipation of meeting someone new, the fear of disappointing, the sigh of relief after an amazing session, and the smile a regular brings to my face makes it all worth the while for me. But as an independent, fear of the unknown can be daunting, and with the devil in the details I find myself over thinking things that others take with a grain of salt.  

Take my current situation: My reputation will be very much dependent upon the reviews I receive, but how does a provider go about getting them? Hobbyist: How do you/would you feel if/when you are asked to review a provider by the provider? Providers: is there a better or worst way to ask if you do at all? Please share your thoughts

Xo,  
Luv D. Cox

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...if a gentleman *enjoys* writing reviews.  I would never want to pressure someone to write a review who doesn't enjoy writing them.  But I find that asking if a gentleman enjoys writing them is a nice way to open the conversation about it and gauge whether he enjoys writing them or not.  If he does not, I do not speak any more of the subject, as that is not what the experience is about for him.  If he says he does, or that he sometimes enjoys writing them, I will mention that I am open to receiving one if he'd like to submit one.  I keep it simple, don't pressure anyone, and ultimately leave it up to him.  But if I think it's been a while since my last one and that my profile needs an update, I will bring the topic up this way.  Most of my gentlemen friends do not prefer to leave reviews or only leave them when requested, so I do find that occasionally mentioning my openness to them is helpful if I'd like to update my profile.

One of my girlfriends was recently new and added a note to her website encouraging gentlemen to review her if they felt so inclined.  It did work well for her.

Good luck establishing yourself dear and I hope this is helpful!

~ Zoey Zacquery

although, I've been independent for several months, getting a review has not been easy
there definitely is this catch 22 when it comes to being a new provider, out of caution men won't book appointments with providers with no reviews, but then its hard to get reviews if no one is willing to take a chance
luckily for me, i have a few friends in nyc who are also fellow providers, my first review came from a double with a friend, so it helps to know other girls who can vouch for you
from there i did the leg work on my own and only proceeded to ask regulars to write reviews for me, regulars are more invested and are more inclined to help you (also once you develop that rapport, they write really honest and sweet reviews). any hobbyist shouldn't mind being asked because they should know how things are for us.  
I'm currently dealing with the struggle of feeling like I dont have enough reviews (only have three at the moment). even when you finally start getting them, the stress never ends lol.

Some guys don't mind being asked and some do.  The last thing you want to do it make someone uncomfortable during the session.  So, I would suggest doing it afterwards.  However he contacted you, whether by email or txt, send him a message after the date.

Since some women don't want to be reviewed I would suggest just letting the guy know that if he wants to write a review, you are OK with that, but there is no pressure on him to do so.  

Never ask during the date.  I have been asked while getting dressed and it just made it awkward because I wasn't happy with the service.  It's like asking "Do you think I am pretty."  You might get the answer you want, but you might not, and either way you are making the client uncomfortable, just by asking

Thanks you for the encouragement Zoey!! Great advice and tactics

Yes exactly Laila! Ok so at least I feel better knowing I am not alone with this. Btw I love beautiful women like yourself so if you need a buddy for a double date...😘

I can imagine that being very uncomfortable. I think your suggestion actually might work best. Wish me luck!!

I'd only ask this of those guys you meet, who either contact you through TER, or who volunteer their TER info during screening and are established reviewers. For non-TER clients, it will feel too commercial. But some clients are very involved in TER already and will be happy to write a review.

Some guys will want to exchange a great review for discounts/favors...some of these guys will even pressure you for unsafe acts. Stick to your guns Reviews are a great way to get business, but the BEST way is to have a steady stream of regulars...you will earn them by treating your clients well...from your post, it sounds like you are doing that already.

I review as honestly as I can.  I don't sugar coat it, I simply relay my experience as I see it. This has gotten a few people miffed at me because I am not gonna lie or sweet talk unless I find the service superb. That being said, I have had mostly decent experiences in the hobby and have not given anyone a rating below a 6 and even then I said nice things too. Personally, I feel that the more honest info people have, the better they can make their choices.  It also kinda tells would be providers what you like/dislike if they care to look you up.

1. Focus on great customer service and the reviews will follow.  It is bad form to ask for a "great review" during the session.  I have actually had this happen a couple of times.  Can you imagine the Four Seasons asking as you are checking out "Can you please give us a great review?!?"  Instead, it is more like you get an email from them afterwards saying "how much they enjoyed me staying there and hope to see me again soon, and to please let them know if there is anything that they can improve on."  Once I say it was "fabulous" I may get back they are "so pleased to hear the complement and that, if I have the time, they would appreciate a review that lets others know of my experience."  I would actually stay away from quid-pro-quo of discounts/specials for good reviews.  The Four Seasons would never want to be accused of paying for good reviews.

2. The tough part is to remove the feeling of a review being personal.  I have met a lot of girls that feel they just can't read them... and get so hurt when they see a really negative one.  I get it...  How can you not take it personally when such an incredibly intimate experience is cast in a bad light in black and white forever?  I think you have to view it as one person's impression of one experience - it does not reflect on you as a person.   Even the Four Seasons will get some knucklehead who gives a terrible review every now and then - they know they can not control that.  What the concierge/manager does - says he is so sorry to hear that their experience fell short of expectations and the satisfaction they hope all their clients get.  And then he makes a genuine comment about how they hope to get it better.  They may even say hey - we want to get it right and will give you a 20% discount and hope you give us another chance.  Kind of hard to stay mad, right?  Heck - I may even take them up on it and may even rewrite the review.  The important point is that the concierge or manager of the property does not take it personally.  In fact, they know they are outstanding, but they also realize there is always room for growth - and that is how the get to be the best -- always striving for improvement and excellence.

3. Finally, be comfortable with yourself and trust that your scores over time will reflect reality.   If they had scores for guys, I would probably be 6 for looks and like a 4 for performance.  But, hell  - I believe I am the best 6/4 you will ever experience!  And that is ultimately what you want - a situation where expectations can only be met (and hopefully surpassed).  I have seen a couple girls that have tried to manufacture unrealistic scores - this only can last so long until a guy comes in with expectations so different from reality that he torpedos her scores.  The truth is that there is a place and budget for all different looks, styles, etc.  Embrace what is you and love it!  If you love yourself, love the person you are with, and love the experience - it is hard for that not to create a very special time... the type that gets great reviews!

I wholeheartedly agree. Great metaphor and advice.

First of all, welcome and best of luck.  

I think you probably have already gotten some helpful input.  Personally, I have no problem with someone mentioning that they would not mind if I write a review if I had a good time.  This indicates that you would appreciate a review, but does not seem (at least to me) like it is putting someone on the spot to say whether they will.  

If I know someone does not have many reviews and they do not bring it up, I will typically ask if they would appreciate a review in a follow-up email/text.  There are some people who specifically do not want reviews, which I respect so long as they are I do not think they are harming people with dishonest practices, etc.

Regards

Luv D. Cox,

I would say it takes a little time to build up your reviews.  Just like us guys in this hobby.  It shows I only have one review right now, but this is because I did not post anything in the past on this site.  Also I did not understand in the past that reviews are important to the providers and helps them out too!  

So now I am starting to post more and if the experience is a good one, I will say it.  If not I will also say that too!

So I like your pictures and will look to meet you also in the future.  Just remember it really helps if you have a direct website with your upfront information for example fees and it gives us a better idea about what to expect before meeting you. Just be yourself and have fun.

You will not have a problem getting great reviews in the future baby!