I am a black man who has been in the "hobby" since my military days. I have learned more and more about this hobby over the years and have adjusted myself accordingly. Before I am with a provider, I try to make sure I am clean and I try to tip appropriately. I am not especially large for a black man and I love when a provider enjoys me as much as I her. I see a lot of ads which often say "no black man" or no "African American." What is it about black men that providers don't like? We are all as different from each other as an Italian is to an Irish man but I often see that we are not desired as clients. We have money just like anyone else and can be as generous or as cheap. There are those who are considered "Thugs" but this is not all who we are. It is sad that people see the few and the majority. Is it that my black skin is not desired or do we have undesirable features in general. I accept all responses without judgement. I just want information and understanding.

I truly don't understand how some ladies discriminate solely on race. I have never had any issues with the black men I see.  

That they won't see providers who see black men. I didn't ask why.
 

So let's be honest. There is a number of women with a NBA policy that are just racists. I don't know who would doubt that. But what about the AA women with an NBA policy? That's a bit more complicated, right?

I don't give it more thought anymore of the 'why not' than just like when I see particular ISO's that basically say 'no black chicks' or literally state that.  
At this point...you really shouldn't care. Spend your energy, thoughts, time and money on those who don't discriminate on race. Those are the ones who should really matter to you. Good luck.

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They are racists, scared of the BBC, etc, see the ladies who will see you! Some of us are normal

Don't stress! lots of love!

of days this happens...but it does.

I've experienced racism here and there throughout my life and it doesn't hold me back. If you work hard, the benefits come your way. I understand there are racist providers but I have even seen dark skinned African, Dominican, Puertorican etc women who don't date black men. Most likely based on the the thuggish few.

I just recently had an experience with a lovely Russian lady who had never been with a black man. She was very nervous but very excited. We spent 30 minute talking before anything occurred. This is not to say I don't Love being with black women. I am just intrigued by why, other than racism, we are not desired?

A lot of those ads are written by a pimp. Pimps don't want "their" women seeing black guys. They are insecure, and their world is very small.

My answer to that is; How would the client know? If the provider was concerned about these predjudiced clients finding out, just tell the black client not to review or to be discreet.

This gives me a better picture.

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Just to add to this
I want to say that you have asked an excellent question in a very intelligent and respectful way.
Perhaps some providers might have had a bad experience with and AA. But I am sure, not from fact, that some or more than some providers have had bad experiences with white men. I truly believe that if providers that state no AA, are most likely either racists or prejudiced. Some people are what I believe to be prejudiced based on nothing more than how they were brought up and just have unjustified fears. Basically a lack of education in the sense of real world not schooling.
I mean look we have a AA for a president. Not saying I am for or against a AA for president it just that options take time to change and education is key.  
Great that you brought this up
I commend you

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her reason for doing so was because that was how it was when she was brought up, but she had many black friends now so it definitely wasn't racist/prejudice...all of our eyes rolled so damn hard. I wish I could find the thread now...She doesn't say it on her site either.  

I myself am AA and fully against discrimination. From my knowledge this "no AA men" movement begin on BP. A lot of the AA guys there were viewing providers as "hoes"- a chick that's going to suck my dick for $20. Were very rude and disrespectful. Argue with you over your rates, etc. A complete turn off and so not worth the headache. (Apologies for the foul language)

LMAO!!

Also, she may have left her pimp, but continues doing business this way, because that's what she knows. If she doesn't do any verification (which is common in the lower end of the market), she won't know that you are an upscale, professional client. She might be afraid that a black man is just another pimp coming along to take over her life... that's what her old pimp was afraid of. When you think about it, it's hard to blame a lady if that's all she knows. Again, her world is small. One can only hope that her life experiences open her mind.

Hello Mickluva,

And unfortunate that in 2016 we are still up against the issue.  
Still at the end of the day people have their preferences. You can't force anyone to love you they way we all should.

I usually don't even know till at my door...

Yes I understand, I am a Black male myself.  I have seen 100 dollar hoes and overnights with porn stars for 9,000 in vegas. I have many reviews taken down with very select women because they don't provide anymore but if you saw then previously then you would know whom I am talking about.   But this poor racial stuff has got to stop.  Yes I don't like it when I see those kinds of ads but hey in the 90s when I started hobbying there were no such ads to warn me and I would get left standing at the door with a woman on the other side yelling "I don't see Black men".  This happened at least ten times.   Man, let this roll of your back.  Blacks need to start having a bit of racial pride and if some crack head does not want to see you then let it go. Stop publicly (in my opinion) put this wanna be affirmative action stuff on a public board-go to a steak house with your other boyz in your circle and talk about it then.  I refuse to let some woman that I make more in one week then she makes in a year ruin my life (I am not saying this is happening to you).  Stop showing your hand (knowledge is power).  Just keep a stiff upper lip and move on.
If anyone feels differently I welcome your input and then please go jump in a lake.
Addict...

knows well how kind and generous she has been to others of all races. I personally know of an AA provider she took under her wing to mentor and help.

Not looking for a pity party. Conversation and genuine curiosity.

It's racism pure and simple. Either the provider has it in her mind that she "doesn't like" black men in general (which is absurd because people are unique and different regardless of specific aesthetics,) or she thinks one's skin tone dictates the way one acts (tipping, being "cheap" etc,) or she thinks skin tone/ethnicity determines dick size (trust me, it don't.) I could go on but it all boils down to racism. Anthropologists don't believe in "race" as we know it. There is more genetic variation within a defined racial group then there are between the "races." It's a social construct with very real and meaningful consequences.  
I do not prejudice based on the way a client looks. Not on age, size, race, religion, gender expression, or anything else. Everyone deserves pleasure. If this were any other business would I say "No Black Men?" Bitches be crazy.

I think you can state your preferences without being rude about it.

I have seen a variety of black people and the only similarities between some is skin color. There are different shades of black people, different shaped faces, noses, etc. If you are not attracted to a color of skin, I find it very difficult to not see that as racism.

Perhaps it is due to having lived abroad for more than three years during those formative times when prejudice could have been wired into me.  On a recent trip to Ohio to visit family, a ginormous 4x4 with two confederate flags ( the size that fly over buildings? ) trailing after it.  I mutter to my grandmother the type of reception that would receive in Detroit.  Her response was, "What?  That noisy exhaust?  They ticket for noise up there?!"  I love her, but I had to shake my head.  Ingrained, generations of systemic -isms bias is almost impossible to overcome.