I don't drink or do drugs, however I do serve wine or whatever other alcoholic beverage a client enjoys. On occasion a couple have asked if they could smoke weed. I don't feel comfortable with mixing it into the visit for a couple of reasons..foremost the smell travels throughout my prewar apt and I am trying to be discreet. The other is it creates sort of a distance when one person is an an altered state. i don't know, I gave up everything at 25 and am not used to being around it. Mostly I am cool about it but I wondered about others..and I want to add, the couple of clients who do this on occasion are in their fifties..I see men usually 38 and older..i am posting here and not provider board because I would like to hear both sides. Thanks for reading this.

Many ladies specify a policy on their websites that any type of drug use is not permitted and will result in immediate termination of the date. I do like to share a drink or two and that's about it. My "drug" is sex - that's what gets me "high". I don't need weed or anything else.

I love to smoke some killah kine, but I'd never break out bud in someone else's domicile and spark up if they were not comfortable with it

Smoking weed and drinking substances that alters the state of mind aint a great idea during the session. Since you don't drink nor smoke you wanna stick with conditions that will make your session fulfilling and enjoyable. I know there are people who say they need weed to perform better but that's a debatable.

I  never used in my life any substances and as normal Ukraine Jewish old fashion woman I  was worry when I was invited  to "party"

 I just screened them well .better then just TER or P 411 or date check I just want to know all about him as who he is by life.. some  ex con   sexsfull  CEO . ..if gentlemen provides what I need to  feel safe - I go .. and yes .. he can do whatever he wants .. and weed and coke ... and   what is matter that he not  try to push it on me .. that all .. I snoke then  my cigarets .. to feel  cool with him .. and we are ok .. ( I do not smoke normally but if I go there I take my regular fancy mentol and he is happy .. we scream we talk we relax  we connect .. I love it   when he is safe

I've never smoked pot in a session but I have shared some wine during some sessions - but recently I have had sessions with 2 different ladies who offered me Adderol - they said it would help me focus - the first time I stayed up for about 12 straight hours - the second time I blacked out and had no idea how I made it home. So this can go both ways. My advice is keep it real everybody - I don't see a problem with sharing a bit of champagne but keep it to that. Anything more is uncharted teriitory.

I just had this discussion with a provider last week!!!....
The provider got into BIG TROUBLE for allowing a client to smoke weed.
The police had been after her for awhile (im not really sure why, I think she had to many complaints in her apartment building about traffic) anyways, They couldn't get in to see her because she screened really well, but they must have caught one of her clients and they were working with the police because The client asked if he could smoke some weed and she allowed it...he put the donation on the table and then smoked the joint...He pretended to get an emergency call and said he had to leave....5 mintutes after he left there was a knock at the door and it was the cops they opened the door and said "I smell weed..looks like we have probable cause to enter" They could enter her house because of that!! She ended up getting arrested!!  I'm not sure of the rest of the details or what she got charged with as that was as much as she told me.

I would never allow a client to do weed in my presence. I've turned down clients who were visibly under the influence of drugs.

It is not illegal to smoke pot in your own appartment in the state of NY , what is illegal is owning more than a certain amount of the stuff. I am clueless on what that amount is , i do know it is more than anyone would smoke in an afternooon. It is refered to as personal use , it is not illegal. How the hell would she get arrested for smoking a joint in her home / apartment . This makes no sense to me .In NY the best they can do is contact your landlord , complain of "Smells" in common areas and you can lose your lease .Arrested is not normal unless they are actually a drug dealer , have large quantities , or you get caught actually buying the stuff . Kendall Lynn

Kendall,  

You're absolutely correct, a smell doesn't justify a police search. The concept of "personal use" and "medical use" are applicable in terms of cannabis use in your own home. Times they are a changing folks. There is a growing movement to make cannabis accepted and "legal" under certain guidelines. One only needs to look at the pilot programs of legalization in Colorado and Washington State to see what's happening - and there is growing support for acceptance here in New York. This is all contingent upon New York State government legislation.  

As per use during a session.... I've only experienced it one time with a provider. We smoked before getting intimate and my performance was, let's say, less than perfect while under the influence. Now if we are talking about use after, to wind down, well I don't see any problem with that. I recall a discussion about this on another thread a long time ago. I think if there's a mutual acceptance of smoking being okay and it's the end of the day for you and the provider (no more sessions the rest of the day) than it's fine. Being considerate, I wouldn't advise anyone to get high when they have the rest of the day ahead of them. At least for me, after the high from smoking, I get very tired. At that point, a nap or full on sleep is in order.  

My two cents, we shouldn't demonize use of cannabis. Using it in a responsible way, its fine. Using it to chill out a little bit or to help with an illness or medical condition, there shouldn't be a problem.  

nycad
 

It's all about headspace.

A relaxed, unrushed atmosphere is a must if you're going to partake.

I always book 4hr+.... So...

I've had wonderfully, side splitting funny, giddy good times sparking up with the right woman.

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nycad

I don't like the way it makes me feel so I wouldn't partake, but I do enjoy wine. It relaxes me, and if weed is something that relaxes a client I know well, I'm ok with it. But it sounds like something that would make you feel uncomfortable, so I'd be honest and just say you don't allow weed in your incall.

Serafima well said if its something your are comfortable with then that's fine especially if you approve of it yourself as a provider.