Provider had decent reviews but pics were very plain and GND'ish. We met for drinks and she was not at all like the pics. I almost walked out of the bar. I tried to make it happen and drank like a fish but when we finally walked in her apt. I cracked and said I couldn't do it. I offered her the entire donation, she refused and then a partial donation. Again, she refused. She understood and we never emailed again. That was that.
There were other red flags that came up during the drinks but I was trying so hard to make it work with my little head. In hindsight, I'm glad the big head won out.
I am curious to hear sessions that guys walked away from when they first open the hotel door.......both in-calls & out-calls.........
Can the ladies put some input in this matter as well......What would be the best way to cxl the session without anyone's feelings are hurt too badly......
Provider had decent reviews but pics were very plain and GND'ish. We met for drinks and she was not at all like the pics. I almost walked out of the bar. I tried to make it happen and drank like a fish but when we finally walked in her apt. I cracked and said I couldn't do it. I offered her the entire donation, she refused and then a partial donation. Again, she refused. She understood and we never emailed again. That was that.
There were other red flags that came up during the drinks but I was trying so hard to make it work with my little head. In hindsight, I'm glad the big head won out.
must feel horrible !
This can be a touchy subject, so let me see if I can be diplomatic...
First, I definitely think that there are enough ladies who make an honest effort that if you run across one that doesn't, you should leave. I don't think anyone should ever just suck it up and knowingly waste their money from the door. There is a YMMV aspect that you should expect when you do this, but flat misrepresentation is unfair to both the client and the quality providers out there.
That being said, me personally, I would at least throw $100 down. That's not because I think she should be rewarded or compensated in any way, it's just a good faith move to try and smooth out any possible repercussions. I know some will disagree with that approach, and I'm not saying it's right or wrong, just that I would leave a flat walk out to someone braver than me.
It's never happened to me, but I do know some ladies who have experienced a walk out within the first 10 minutes. One girl really was very sweet, a total southern-girl-next-door cutie, but a little too GND and not enough PSE/model material for the guy, and it really hurt her feelings, even though he was apparently very nice about it. Another was using 15 year old pictures, had walk outs happen regularly, and didn't care at all. Me? I would only review in the second case. Personal taste is one thing, deception is another, and if she's at least trying, I would like to give her the same treatment. Partially because of who I am and seeing how hard a friend has taken it, and again partially to avoid any drama that may unfold.
I am, of course, not referencing any obvious walk out situations here, like you booked with a 20 year old blonde spinner and a 60 year old Slovenian cook shows up. Just trying to help with some of the grey areas I've seen show up over the years.
Quite honestly, I never had the guts to say "no," I would just opt for a massage telling the lady that I was tired from my travels. Expensive massages but at least I got something of value without hurting another person's feelings.
Can the ladies put some input in this matter as well......What would be the best way to cxl the session without anyone's feelings are hurt too badly......
then you owe her nothing and should walk.
If you are too nervous then it isn't fair to walk away and not give her something for her time. Really depends on if it is her or if it is you.
I don't believe in rewarding her if she lied or used fake pictures.
There really isn't a way to not hurt her feelings, if she is one who cares. Some care and those are the ones who are well reviewed.
I have only had 3 cancel on me and mainly it was because they were far too nervous and jumpy. I tried calming them down but it didn't work. From a few prior experiences where guys tried going through with it despite being extremely nervous, I'd rather he leave. Ever so often you come across a guy who can't relax and it makes it very uncomfortable for the rest of the time. I am very good at relaxing the nerves but if I can't, all you did was make me nervous too.
I did have a guy once cancel/walk on me after he yelled at me for (GET THIS) "misrepresenting myself as AA". His blind ass decided my pictures showed me as AA despite me NOT being AA (he says my pictures but I am sure he was mixed up). I am white as hell and my ads make it clear I am white. He kept insisting that he came to see the dark AA gal in the photos and now he is angry that I am white. WTF. I think he was looking at too many photos/ads and booked with the wrong gal on accident. I tried telling him this but he kept saying he only looked at my photos. I think he was off his meds or blind. There is no possible way anyone could misunderstand my race. I laugh about it now (and still roll my eyes) but I was pretty mad at the time for his mistake and stupidity. At least double check that you are calling the right gal. Not a hard thing to do.
Maybe there should be a reality show about this sort of thing.... Real Escorts of NYC or something.
I do NOT have the poker face to calmly talk someone thinking I'm an entirely different race through it! I might have even asked him for a review just for the trollolol!
I know. We all have heard of AA gals on BP lightening their photos up to get a guy thinking they are white (B&S)....
but never in my life have I ever heard of a guy trying to claim a photo of someone who is very much white (and everywhere in the world says I am) was showing a AA photo. Either he is BSC or he was setting up an appt with the wrong person after viewing god knows how many other ads. I have a big booty and thick, curly, and wavy hair but I am still white as a Ghost.
I didn't have a poker face, I had a "are you mentally ill" face showing and a puzzled angry WTF look. I am very sure it was not a sexy face and I sure wasn't smiling lol.
I have heard stupid things (or absurd) coming out of peoples' mouths in RL (not so much in the Hobby) but this may take the cake.
Can you even picture such a review? "Her pictures show she is AA but I got there and she is white". Then everyone goes to look at the photos and spams his pms on how retarded he is. lol.
Want to know what is really funny? He said it has happened to him a few times before!!! Said he was sick of the white gals showing AA pictures and wasting his time. I just don't see that happening so perhaps he has vision problems because color blind would still show black vs white. Maybe I am not understanding him, I was wearing black panties and bra (LOL).
There are some H-O-T AA ladies out there, but I am sure not one of them. I wonder how a few AA ladies feel when they get their pro photos and the lighting makes her a few shades lighter... if guys act like they are pretending to be white when they truthfully advertise as AA and it is still apparent that it is just lighting that may have someone who isn't looking properly to misunderstand.
I've only been kicked out once. The guy insisted I was using fake pics and said the girl in the pics appeared to be petite and I'm not petite. He was very rude about it which made it sting even worse. I suppose it didn't help that at the time I had a big winter jacket on :-/
Well, it is my funds and (not to compare the lovely ladies to anything else) but If I wanted, say, a car and showed up to buy a land rover and the dealer showed me a honda, I would walk out. I had a few times where the lady was 10-20 years older than her pics. Once and this was my worse time about 8 years ago I showed up and the cute little blonde had a cold sore on her lip. Well I told her I could not go through with it. I called the agency and complained. Never the less her pic was taken down and I never heard from her again. You got to be man enough to say no.
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Can the ladies put some input in this matter as well......What would be the best way to cxl the session without anyone's feelings are hurt too badly......
The only time anything unexpected happened was several years ago with a lady I met at a Meadowlands hotel in NJ. My initial impression was that she was pregnant when I entered, and that was confirmed when clothing was removed. Although unexpected, she was sweet personally, so it would have not only been rude, but stupid, to leave. Her reviews, which were excellent and current, mentioned nothing definitive about this. Regardless, I enjoyed our time together, though subsequent events made in inadvisable to review her.
Keep asking questions, Max. Just remember that a proper ellipse grammatically is just three periods...
At least the kind people of New York answered your question. You do realize almost every question you've asked has been asked MANY TIMES before. Brush up on your search skills.