Now that some time has passed I want to bring this up. I pride myself on being honest and forthright with everyone I come across.  I lied to a follow hobbiest three months ago who I don't know that a provider was good via back channel. This is a high end girl who is in the NY top 100. Truth of the matter was the provider was not a good experience and I wouldn't recommend her. I told him what he wanted to know in regards to services provided. Guy ends up seeing this girl and has a much better experience than me. He thanks me profusely as it was the best session he has had. The girl also thanks me because she knows I sent him to her. Girl has no clue I don't like her guy has no clue I lied to him. Pretty ugly if you ask me. Why did I lie you ask who am I to physically deny any provider a session who any client might have been on the fence to see? Everyone has a different experience and two interactions are never the same. Happy he had a good time.

but does that mean that of your many 10's in your reviews, maybe they were 8's or another rating? I have found that when sending a PM to another reviewer asking about his review or impression, I've gotten back a very trustworthy response, and, have done the same in return many times.

I didn't write a review on her. He just asked me what do you know about name provider I saw her but didn't write a review and went from there.  

Your posts are the absolute best thing about TER. I wouldn't be here without them

Thanks

...I have had a few less-than-great experiences with providers. Typically, I don't post reviews of those. I only post reviews of providers with whom I've had "ymmv" experiences or better. The sessions that don't go well...well, I don't review them. I guess I don't want the word to get out to the community that I may be a "difficult" hobbyist.  

I think we all have had a bad session or two. Even doing everything right doing your homework sometimes the women just isn't what you were hoping for. Those are also the types of reviews I don't like writing about either along with the ladies who specifically ask me not to write a review. I always thought I was an easy hobbyist do whatever you want no special request etc etc I guess there is no such thing as simple or easy in this world.

i agree. i always feel like i'm pretty easy going as well. it's interesting that even in p4p, chemistry is still very much a factor (maybe the most important one)...

when I ask someone to give me feedback on a woman. I look for guys who have seen a woman I want to see, and has already seen someone I have as well. I get great info this way, and can better judge of she and I will connect.

I hear you...I've had some less than stellar experiences; I typically don't review people I had a less-than-awesome experience with if the problem was just chemistry/general awkwardness/etc. In other words, as long as it wasn't a b&s or the provider blatantly misrepresented their services/time, I try to keep mum. Just because "we" didn't work out as a great session doesn't necessarily mean that the provider isn't a good one.

Sometimes it comes down to two personalities not matching very well; sometimes the provider is in the wrong, or the hobbyist. Either way, I don't believe you should feel guilty for lying, especially considering he ended up having a great session!